You love some one and can't be with them?

Does any one else have this same problem?

I like this girl, but she lives all the way on the East coast, and I on the west...I'll probably never be able to see her until ten or so years from now, and by then we'll have most likely moved on but we still love each other so much...! We can't be together because it's a long-distance relationship and we're...physical people. Not THAT kind of physical, but I'm the kinda person that needs to be held once in a while, not just look at words like ( *hugs* ) or something.

And it's so hard to find a date when you're as shy as me. *whines*
Especially when you're a girl looking for girl, that just makes it harder. At least with guys you can usually tell if they're gay or not. Girls...I dunno, it's a lot harder. Maybe my gaydar is just broken? Hm?

Omigawd that is my life story right there. D:

I'd definitely agree with girls it's a lot harder to tell if they're bi/gay or whatever...at least, that's how it been with me, but then again I basically have no gaydar -_- though my best lez friend (and her MOTHER wtf) can tell what someone's sexuality is the nanosecond they walk into the room. the more aggravating thing is that most people who are attractive are either straight or taken...and then you're left will all the oogly, boring kids who just happen to bi/gay. meh. ]: I'm shy too, so I know what you mean about finding a date...fortunately I'm friends with a lot of shy dateless losers, so we form a nice little support group for each other. xP

if a girl has no fingernails, it's a good sign she is gay.
lesbians with fingernails = single or just... stupid.

xD
i have super gaydar, but i look SO STRAIGHT. i hate it.


to help you out with your problem, i'm really sorry to hear about that. i liked this one person who lived in Michigan. ugh. yeah. it was never going to happen but i kept them as one of my BEST friends. yeah it was hard to see her with a girlfriend [or boyfriend wtf?] but in the end i knew it was best for both of us.

Originally Posted by DYKE JONES

if a girl has no fingernails, it's a good sign she is gay.
lesbians with fingernails = single or just... stupid.

Lawl, that's what my friend says too. I guess I should start cutting my nails xP

please do. my ex never did and i got cutttt
it was NO FUN.

But..but...I like long nails D: well mine aren't insanely long now...I used to have coke nails for a while xP
ah maybe I could just be a complete bottom >.>

One of my friends girlfriends didn't cut her nails and they were doin' it, and...yea, I'm sure that hurt if you catch my drift... xD I cut my nails, but that's because I work in tech theatre working to build sets and stuff.

I have my guy friends on a quest to find me a not bi girlfriend. I don't want my pride to take another blow, I cried for a month, dude. >.o And I've been dreaming about this girl that lives so far away, and it just...UGH. It's driving us both insane how much we want to be together, but I don't want to be lonely so I want a girlfriend, but I don't want like...Mandy (the long distance girl) to be all emo about it, cause I know she will if I tell her...

Why can't it just be eeeeeeeeeasyyyyyyyyy?

It'd be better if I were more out going, but the only time that is is when I'm online ooooor...raggin'. T.T

I went six years without meeting my boyfriend in real life. But then, it wasn't that hard for me because I knew absolutely no one who appealed to me in real life. All the guys I knew were immature. At least I guess you have an advantage there since you like girls, guys are so childish. :roll: I'm glad I stuck with it though, sometimes I did get frustrated that I couldn't be with him in real life. Now that we're adults we visit each other in the summer and winter and hopefully one of us can move when we're done with college or have some money or something. We were fortunate enough though that we both live on the east coast, but he's in the north and I'm in the south, so there's quite a bit of distance anyway. I think there's a lot of people out there who go through this same thing with the internet and all.

I wish I had that kind of patience. D=

And six years? Wow! Grats on that! I can go...six months online before it becomes too hard on me. >.o;

Hey, wait. I have no fingernails. x_x

And thank god. I thought I was the only one who can't tell someone's sexual orientation by just looking at them. I have no gaydar at all.

So if you KNOW things are doomed with (Mandy?) then why are you still with her? To me, it seems a bit cruel to stay with her knowing it won't work out.

-echoes everyone else-
Congrats for having that much patience, Vickicat. I definitely could not last that long with a non-physical relationship, no matter how much I like/love the person...

bleh. people around here need to start being hotter/gayer. sorry no, I meant hotter AND gayer. D:<

*looks down* ...Awwwww, common! I got no nails! DX But that's because I obsessively compulsively bite them when I get nervous. Which is alot.

Considering I have no interest in dating girls, and also considering the only (*coughrealcough*)* guys I even do double takes on are 20+ (I cannot imagine dating any boy in my school or even that I've seen who's my age, so I don't even plan to start dating until college) I do not have the long-distance relationship problem, no. But I've been there through yours, so I can see what it does, to an extent. D:

They don't always have to go up in flames, though. One of my favorite artists had a long distance relationship, her boyfriend lived in Canada, and the two got married a few years ago. There's hope yet. :)

That you have seen through mine. And I want to know where you people find this PATIENCE. Curse my zodiac. *kicks the bull*


I'm not with Mandy, we both know it's futile, we're both still friends though, not dating. =3 I don't know, I'm weird, I stay friends with my ex's. xDD

MA-CHAN IS SECRETLEH A LESBOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! /kidding. =D

I wish though. T.T WHY? WHY DO YOU DO THIS TO ME?!

Meh, I stay friends with my exes too xP Mostly 'cause my breakups haven't been psycho-dramatic, more like "eh this isn't working out all that well".

i've almost lost interest in finding a relationship at this point... =/ it's been so futile up to now; I think I've just given up on it. At least I will always have my books to cuddle up with... xD
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Omg. I have the same problem. Like, badly. I'm dating this girl that's states away from me and we've been having such trouble with it...we're/I'm more of the physical type too. (being held sometimes and such like you said) She says *hugs* a lot and it's cute and all, but I sometimes get annoyed by it because it just comes to show that we can't hug in real life...and that kills me. I'm having much more trouble with it than she is. Luckily, we've been trying to find a way to have her move here! Since her and her parents have been wanting to move to my state for a long time - in the city she lives in, it's basically a ghost town. o_O She really hates it there...and you know what? The house next to mine is FOR SALE! I mean, she can move there now...butttt, money. Of course. That's the only problem. It's too expensive! It's been lowering every now and then but I'm just praying deeply that no one will end up buying it! Because there have been people going to check out the house saying they like it...I truly hope it's also too expensive for them also...I want the girl I love to be near me...and I don't know how much longer I can take it...I don't want to give up on her though, because she's the only one I'd ever see myself being with forever...I don't know what to do... :(

Hope, pray, whatever, that she at least moves to your state and kinda close by!! My ex ALMOST moved by me...but it didn't happen. >.< I hope all goes well for you!

Oh man then I just feel bad, I have long nails and I love them. :/ I wonder if that really means anything then again I am bisexual, and slightly gender confused so I don't know. D: I don't want to fail at life! I keep my nails because I have very petite hands, so when I have short nails they look like a child's hand. v.v And because they are good for scratching things like peoples backs. I keep them where they are not jagged though and don't hurt anyone unless I am trying to.

I feel really bad for you long distance relationships are really hard. I had one that lasted on and off for five years... We eventually broke up March I think it was?
It was hard but for the best. I use to cry like all the time because I couldn't be with that person.

I'm really lucky I have "gaydar" or maybe because gay and bisexual people tend to gravitate towards me... D: The only thing that is bothersome is when ever I get a crush on a girl they are usually straight or taken or just want a fuck buddy. And I don't want a fuck buddy. v.v-;


Oh and I hope everything works out for you! <3 *hug*

I keep having a lot of bad luck with my potential relationships lately xP

one guy I like is gay, one's taken AND a severe pothead and stupid kleptomaniac who keeps getting caught all the time (for god's sake if you're going to go on a minor crime spree then at least do it right :/ ) and one girl I like pretends to be bi but isn't. D:

WHAT TO DO. Dx

@MadHatter-- a friend of mine is also gender confused (and lesbian)...well not so much gender confused as intersexed. But, it makes it so that it's hard for her to do certain things, like get a hair cut or whatever, because the girl side of her wants it to be medium-length but the guy side just wants to cut it all off...xD She crossdresses as a hobby haha, which is funny because when she does she looks like a cute gay boy. xP

And, I have the same issue with girls-- they're all straight/taken/sluts. Eh. :/

Same issue, usually they're all straight, the few I know are taken, and I've just known one slut. I couldn't do a fuck buddy or one night stand even if my life depended on it, you know? xD

I have a bi friend who tried to get me to be her fuck buddy.

I gave in one night, and man did I regret it. I felt SO GUILTY, I just never wanted to do it again. And she has a MALE fiance too, oh man.

@Linally-- lawdy lawdy, same here. xD I'd just feel so awkward and bad about it...I'm too much of a romantic xP

@Merrow-- o.o are you both still friends?

Believe it or not, yes.

But I have to be careful if I'm alone with her, 'cause I don't know if she'd try to nudge me into doing it again. D: I just want to be friends with the girl, jeez.

I don't know what I think of the situation with her boyfriend, though. I mean..... you cheat once, you'll cheat again. She didn't even seem guilty. Want to know what she told me? "I like girls sexually, and men romantically."

That doesn't make it okay!!! D:>
What's even worse is that she's aware of the power she has over her boyfriend, and she tried to play it off as, "If he finds out, I can MAKE him stay with me."

She's generally a nice girl but... damn.

0.0 My god, that's horrible.
I feel bad for her boyfriend :/

That's horrible. D= I feel bad for him too...but I can understand liking boys romantically just not PHYSICALLY. There's guys I like, I would maybe go out with them, but I would never, ever, ever, ever, ever have any kind of physical relationship with. EVER. o.o; Doesn't make it ok to marry one gender and screw the other though.

D: It IS really horrible.

It makes her sound like a terrible person, and she's defiently going to end up paying for those mistakes one day. But you know, that's really the ONLY thing that I can say badly about her.

Other than her romantic and sexual attitude, she's kind, generous, funny, and has lots of empathy for people and animals alike. She's had a bad home life, too, and all her past relationships with people have completely fucked her over.

I don't think it gives her a right to act the way she did, but I can see how and why she would.

And it also makes me wonder if she's really as happy with him as she makes it out to be, and even if she's really bisexual or not.