[B][SIZE="1"][CENTER][COLOR="Green"]So because I don't want to have to re-type everything in my own words -- here's the conversation I had with a friend.
Me: I'm like. Ugh.
Alex: How come maam?
Me: Well you see.
Me: Let me try to give you the short version.
Alex:: Mmmkay
Me: Two years ago, Arie and Amber dated for like 5 months. Then Arie dated Nicky for over a year. Arie and Nicky broke up over the summer. I liked Arie. Amber liked Arie. We both flirted with him and whatnot. He was emotionally unstable because of Nicky. Him and Amber made out hardcore over the summer. Him and Nicky got back together, broke up before Christmas. Him and I got together in January. Amber, throughout those years, has yet to get over him. She's confessed to him many times about her still liking him. He'd never take her back. Yet over the summer, when we all thought he didn't like her, they made out. Because of the distress. Understandable, yet degrading. Well. Before I got with Arie, Amber was going to try to do so as well. I told him this and he totally was disgusted and said he would never date her again. So that's when I went in and confessed to him my feelings and toda. So, now, she still hasn't gotten over him... and is indirectly very much so all over him. I'm not a jealous person.. it takes quite a bit. And right now, I honestly feel like asking him to never talk to her again. Because she's always making hints. "I'm really happy with life right now but there's something I'd change." "I like this boy, but he doesn't like me back. ]=" and she's told her friends, not even a few weeks ago, that she would get back together with Arie in a heartbeat.
Me: And... he hasn't done anything to show affection towards her, I wouldn't even expect him too. But I keep having dreams that he confesses he still likes her, etcetc. I'm going crazy here. Right now.
Me: And it sounds so silly but not even that long ago I read a bulletin survey she filled out on myspace... and there were soo many indications about Arie in it, it's not even funny.
Me: If I were still friends with Amber, I'd definitely be having a talk with her. I'm so bothered by this, I'm almost wanting to have a talk with her right now even though I can't stand to see her face.
Alex:: I really think you need to talk to her though.
Alex:: Cause theres a difference between girls thinking your guy is cute and blahblahblah and that.
Alex: And I'd talk to him too, let him know that it worries you.
Alex:Me: I know. I'm okay with people thinking he's intriguing or whatever. But to be so... mentally all over him and then verbalize it to your friends whom are my friends, so I will find out.... it's so wrong.
Alex:: I trust he knows you well enough to know that you wouldn't get worried if it was nothing.
Alex:: It is wrong. And she needs to step the fuck back.
Alex:: Cause as much as she may want to be with him, hes with you. He chose you. And thats that.
Me: Oh I am going to talk to him. Tomorrow, definitely.
Me: Yeah, I know. and you know what's bullshit?
Me: She was telling Claire, whom is my best friend, that she's just been kidding about it all. She doesn't really want Arie back, she'd never go back to him, it's just that she can't get over him because he's exactly what she wants in a guy.
Me: Uh huh... yet... about a week after that she told Casey the complete opposite. How she'd do anything to get him back, etc
Alex:: I almost think she told your best mate that knowing it would get back to you.
Me: And it's not that I'm worried he'd do anything, he really wouldn't. It just bothers me so much that she's so all over him. It's almost as if she doesn't understand he will never want her again.
Me: Probably.
Me: But I don't want to be the paranoid controlling girlfriend who tells their boyfriend who they can and can't talk to.
Me: But I really feel so strong about this, I almost have to.
Alex: No, I definitely don't think that you are.
Alex:: I think in a situation like this you need to make your feelings about it known.
Me: I mean, when Amber was just starting to get another crush on him, it was after she got her cell phone and was textng him a lot. Claire told him that she was getting feelings and he was like "Ooo, I'm not texting her anymore."
Me: Yet he still does. I don't want to say all of the time, but I'm sure she does a good amount of time.
Me: It's like, any time her name is mentioned about contacting him. Whether it be via texting, MySpace, phone calls, in person, etc. I get really... detestful.
Me: And almost a protective feeling over him.
Alex:: I don't blame you at all.
Me: This has been bugging me, ever since it started up again when me and him started dating but it's been getting worse. So it's been bothering me a shit load as well.
Me: And I just really couldn't handle holding it in -- I was crying in the shower about 10 minutes before I IMed you because I can't take it anymore.
Alex: If its bothering you this much you need to talk to him about it.
Alex:: Something needs to be done about it, and if I were you I wouldn't tolerate it.
Me: I know I do, I was going to text him [[we don't talk on the phone]] but I want to tell him in person. So I'm hoping after school tomorrow, we're going to hang out.
Alex:: Yeah, this is one of those things I'd tell him in person.
Me: I just reallyyy needed to get it out. And like, nobody else I can actually share things to is online.
Alex:: Thats what I'm here for.
Me: Ah haha yeah.
Me: Unless you're away
Alex:: Hahaha yes.
Alex: But when I'm not away, thats what I'm here for.
Alex:: But I definitely have been there before lots of times.
Alex:: It doesnt even matter how confident you feel with your guy, its the principal of the thing.
Alex:: The girl needs to learn her place and that what shes doing is wrong, and you need to talk to him in person about how much it bothers you. Cause if you're crying about it and stressing out about it, you can't keep it to yourself. Its obviously a concern.
Me: Ugh, you make me feel better in what I originally planned on doing. I don't feel like a crazy psycho girlfriend now.
Alex:: You're for sure not a crazy psycho girlfriend.
Alex: Ross had some girl hanging on him when I knew he had a crush on me, and it really bothered me. And we weren't even dating. She admitted to liking him though and he got rid of her, so I wasn't worried, but I've definitely been in situations like yours.
Me: It's really aggravating and the only way I can explain my feelings right now is being extremely distraught.
Alex:: You will most likely feel that way til you talk to Arie.
Me: God I know.
Me: I just want tomorrow to be here already and school to be out.
Me: Then time to slow down so I can talk to him
Alex:: If I were you, I'd go relax. Try and get your mind off of it, as hard as that sounds. Then get a good nights rest and face it tomorrow.
Alex:: I gtg though, I have to finish a project for work and call Ross.
Alex: Hope I was of some help to you, love.
Me: Thanks for that, it helped. <3
Me: Ta-ta[/COLOR][/CENTER][/SIZE][/B]
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