I know.. :ninja:
Except he doesn't want to even talk weddingy stuff with me :P
But I won't do it alone it'll be our day not my day.
I've started looking into getting his ring, I get an emerald and he gets a cool skull ring ;)

skull ring! 8D COOLIOS!

ah... all so secretive about stuff. XD

Oh it will be I found the best site ever for custom rings = http://www.jewelersinc.net/intro.htm
They all look so nice but I'll need alot of his input so that he likes it

I hate secrets :P :XP

wouldn't you both want the same type of rings though? :S

I dont think so :sweat:
I'll have to wear and like the ring for a very long time and so I want an emerald ring cause it's my birthstone and I don't care if it's a natural one or man made as long as it looks awesome and dark and clear. And if I get to wear the ring that I want to why can't he?
And he's always wanted a skull ring and I think they look pretty awesome. I might get one eventually for jewelery.
Besides both will look silver I want a platinum ring!

platinum is good! XD but expensive... :/

I want an emerald ring... but not as a wedding ring though. wedding should be simple silver. nothing. I don't even like the idea of diamond... why bother at all? a nice band would be enough~ ^^

ah, but what you said have a point. if you don't like it... then you wont wear it! XD everyone have different preferences, that's all~ P:

Well I need a plain band to! the wedding band goes in front of the engagement ring to help protect it! It's a tradition ;)
you get the engagement one then another plain one at the ceremony

nodnod

how does it... protect it? D:

I dont know:XD
My grandparents in law told my mom that. I guess something that might ding your ring would have to hit the band first like if your hand slid and hit somthing *shrugs*

My ring is white gold and diamonds. I think I'm allergic to platinum. My rings from my first marriage are platinum and they gave me a lot of trouble.

hmm i didn't know that was a possibility o.o
I wonder if I went to a jewelery store they could rub something on my hand to check o.o?
I wanted white gold at first but people keep telling me that it turns yellow eventually :P

-giggles-
Mine hasn't turned yellow yet. ^.^

I don't know about a test to see if you're allergic or not. My ears are sensitive to anything but gold in the earring posts.

I like gold. Gold is the only thing that doesn't affect my skin weirdly.

I had a small (cheap) diamond, but the ring was really pretty...the diamond was kinda like a flower in a little petal. The wedding ring part was like a little stem wrapped around the finger next to the "flower". Really pretty.

For our 15th anniversary, my hubby wanted to buy me a new ring...one with a bigger, better diamond. So we went to the jewelry store. I looked at all the rings, but I said "gee, I really like this ring. I'm not so sure I want to change".

The salesperson (smart man) said "Oh, we could re-design your ring, just adding the new diamond right here, on the wedding band, next to the other diamond."
So we ended up buying a single, 2 carat diamond and they did a really good job, adding it. It looks like it was made to be this way.

Fancy! A friend of mine had a diamond added to her mom's old wedding band to replace the tiny tiny thing that was in it.

That sounds really beautiful, Jeannesha.

Well here's hoping I'm not allergic then o.o
I just wanted it because it doesn't need repairs as often

Thanks! I like it a lot.

Metals are a strange thing. I can't wear anything but gold, or my skin reacts.

It means I've had to pass on some really pretty earrings cuz I couldn't wear them. Even surgical steel causes a reaction.

I hadn't heard that people had trouble with Platinum...

Now I'm worried I need a test kit!

Yay~!
All Done!

hey thulhu and fiz

@Fizi
Well My Jer is being a party pooper about having a ceremony ect. :P
But I'm getting a proposal and ring :sweat:
Well maybe if it turns out I'm allergic I can get a refund?
I know there are sets but mine will be kind of custom because I want an emerald and he's being super secret about and would be annoyed if I gave any "helpful suggestions" :XD

Hi 4

Thulhu, my hubby had been married before, so he wasn't interested in a ceremony when we got married.

So I rented the Plummer House... a turn of the century home in Rochester where we lived. It was owned by the city, and could be rented for different events. It was going to be a "turn of the century" wedding. I rented a dress, complete with parasol and huge hat like they had in those days... in white with peach trimming. My sister rented a similar outfit in rust color. My hubby and the best man rented tuxes... the grey ones with tails, top hats, and spats. We got a little one for his son who was 6, and bought a frilly peach dress for his daughter who was 4.

We got a Justice of the Peace to agree to come and do the ceremony, and we rented an old-time judge's frock coat that he wore. The family who attended the ceremony all wore appropriate attire....it was a true turn of the century wedding.

So instead of a stuffy ceremony, we had a fun party!

That does sound like a lot of fun but to be honest as advice it doesn't help me :sweat:

My plan is to rent a hall have a justice of the peace come to marry us while people watch from the tables that they're going to stay at for the reception that will immediately follow or maybe they can move the chairs closer then put them back round the tables after and then the party will commence! with cake and dancing and maybe even a potluck dinner instead of a catered one because while I want people to dress up i want them to "feel" casual.

Meanwhile while jer is fine with giving me a ring and getting one he dislikes the idea that people only get married because they "have to" or cause "everyone does it" it drives me crazy because he harps on "Traditions" being stupid and archaic but when I mention decorating a christmas tree every year or celebrating birthdays ect he has no argument but still doesn't like weddings.

I try to explain that it's just going to be a big party with all our friends that I want him to help plan because it's a party for ourselves and while he likes the idea, after years of being a kind of quiet big brother in a house with a mom and two sisters he's not comfortable with people paying attention to him. He works his but off at any task he's given and when people praise him for it he's always surprised and kind of proud but also taken aback. :gonk:

And I can't even do a private ceremony and a party after because we each have 5 grandparents due to remarriages and deaths plus 3 siblings between us + parents + 2 step siblings that would want to be there and with 19 people crowded in already we might as well do it in front of the whole 75 or so people we'd invite. :P

He's just being difficult and I need to find a way to change his outlook without making it like I've forced him.
If he really doesn't want to have a wedding then I don't either cause it's not about my happiness alone and I'd be unhappy to have a wedding with an un-willing participant. But I've never been very girly and if I miss out on the big ultimate girly thing of a wedding even though mine would be all crazy and fun, I'll be really disappointed too