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Sounds similar to what I said . . . just more straightforward. >.<
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I think that it depends on the person. Everyone reacts a different way. If you both are really close and you know her personality and how she'll most likely react, I'd say that it really just depends on whether your feelings are strong enough and you believe that your friendship will still last through whatever response there is.
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Ahh and that where the rubber mets the road..I swear..I don't want to be friends..or rather just friends..It feels I've given everything and I just can't go back to friends.I haven't seen us as being just friends since a year and a half ago..I don't really want to go back.-_______- This is so complicated.
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Well, I didn't want to put negativity into that advice so I didn't say "if she rejects you". >.>
And love is complicated . . . it's also a battlefield (no pun intended . . . okay fine. Maybe it was intended). |
Sorry to just randomly jump into this conversation buttt - I've been in a similar situation before, both as being the person who liked the friend and as being the friend someone liked :3
My advice is this: Take a leap, tell them the truth, and listen to their response. If you can't be friends because you see them as more and can't just see them as just a friend, then express that in a calm manner. I mean -- don't go to her and be like "YO GIRL - I LOVE YOU AND I CAN'T JUST BE FRIENDS, I NEED US TO BE MOREEEE!" xD; But you know what I mean :3 I think hearing the truth would give her something to think about, allow her to reassess her own feelings, check her feelings, and respond honestly :3 I know that's what it was like for me~ I thought about it, realized I actually did like the person, and then allowed myself to express that. However, in my case it turned out horribly because the guy ended up saying "Oh, I change my mind" and went back to this trashy girl he'd been dating on and off for years XD; Though I don't think you're that kind of person so no worries about that happening I'm sure ;) But honestly -- just go with how you feel, speak honestly, and be ready to accept any out come. When you're in a position like that it's better to just be honest and open than to keep it inside. Plus, if you really can't be friends (as I couldn't be friends with the aforementioned guy), then it might be better off because then you both are on the same page, there will be a separation, and you'll be able to get over her faster and easier than constantly having her near, having to pretend everything is okay when it's not, and having to put on the facade of best friend when you're really hurting inside :3 From experience, then best way to get over someone you care about who doesn't feel the same way, is to break away from them and heal your own heart :3 Perhaps in the future you can be friends again, but now when you need to heal isn't the right time :3 Just my two cents ;) |
Wow that was really insightful..Thank you both.
But let me tell you my situation exactly. A month ago after a year and a half of talking he (yeah I'm a recovering bi-sexual..recovering as in trying to change) decides that he sees me as a friend where as a month before that he said he would be honored to be in a relationship with me.Well in between that month I found out he was talking to other people when I thought I was the only one.Well yeah I was pissed and because I'm half Puerto-Rican the anger in my is higher that other I guess.So I was constantly mad at him.Well I got over it after a while and he said that he wanted to do him for a while..I was like okay..it's not like you weren't doing that in the beginning..but anyways I'm getting off topic.He said that he sees me as a friend and I'm trying to figure out what happened between "Honored to be in a relationship with me" to "Oh we should just be friends." And it's not like he doesn't know..and I KNOW he still likes me..when we was hanging out with some friends last week he was flirting with me..but I'm just confused on what I should do.I'm tired of always telling how I feel to him.It's just we been through alot together which kinda is like we can't live without eachother,but I'm resisting a friendship so badly..I know he's not going anywhere,but I just want to leave.I dunno..I guess I just feel lonely without him. Ahh well that's my sappy love story.I hope that made sense. |
Oh Foxxi! :hug:
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Lol what?
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. . . *blinks* . . . Just giving you a hug of comfort. ^-^
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Awh thanks.:)
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*hugs Foxxi as well*
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Thanks you guys!:)
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Oh well..that's nice information.o_____o
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sry! PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFT. :D
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Step 1 complete.Solded all my commons.
Next step.. ... Don't know yet. |
You sold all your shit? o.o
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:poke: @ Foxxi.
Hey Lizzy . . . your gold giveaway icon is dead. :ninja: |
Oh pooh. :( I'll have to fix it. Thanks for letting me know.
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No prob. ^-^
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