@Bartuc: Everything you said was insightful... and I was distracted by the thought of how your avatar changes everyday, and yet still looks awesome despite it.

In guys, my tastes are a little peculiar. I am a tomboy but 100% straight, and needless to say, I'm kind of picky. I am very sarcastic in my humor, use a lot of big words, and I kick and punch a lot when I'm kidding around. I want a boyfriend who is my best friend, who would be willing to play Guitar Hero with me or watch me scream when I fight bosses or get chased by things in Final Fantasy games. I need someone who will accept me for all that because they like that in me, and not because I have a pretty face.

Oh, and they need to be a little more confident than I, because I am too shy to kiss someone. My only kiss was with a gay guy for a play we were in... ._.

Spooky
Thank you ^^;

Your only kiss was with a gay guy in a play.. So you haven't experienced a real kiss then.

Hmmm... I would generally be attracted to someone who does not agree or go along with everything I say. I don't mean that they're aggressive or contrary, but that they have the confidence to speak up and tell me when they disagree.

I'd probably be attracted to someone that is older, more experienced, and has a broader outlook on life. I don't want preaching, but simply someone that can relate and give me good advice when I need it... and tummy rubs when advice can't help. :3

A calmer personality, but not unemotional. Empathetic but not too sensitive. Warm but not overly clingy. A person that knows when to listen and when to speak, because sometimes when I talk about a situation I don't want them to trouble-shoot... it may make me feel like my problems are trivial.

Basically, a sensible and honest person.

I don't LOOK for it, but i noticed I'm attracted to quiet calm guys. They also generally have dark hair, oddly enough. I think it's because I talk a lot, but i enjoy quiet when I'm one on one with someone.
I also hate needy people. I attract them, unfortunately. :( That's what I get for being so nice!

This has been my experience. I've been with all kinds of guys... idiots, sweethearts, "too sensitive" to not nearly sensitive enough.... you can't really look at a guy, list a set of qualities and say "hey! this one's gonna treat me right" it just doesn't happen. The one that makes you happy is most likely going to be the one to break your heart. Now... from past experience... the harder you look... the more idiots you're going to turn up. When I found the best one i've ever known (my current and i'm not just saying that because he IS current... it's because he's amazing) came to me when I wasn't looking. In fact I was trying to run away from anything resembling a relationship. But he was patient with me, he was kind, and he LISTENED. This is the key. Any guy who will listen to you seriously is worth keeping. Just... don't chase.... but don't be so blind to what's out there that when a good one does find you, you don't see him.

Every time i look for a boyfriend. I find no one, I find nice guys, but not what i am looking for. And when I least expect it, I find a boyfriend. even if they were close to me before, like the guy in a student organization, but he wasn't my close friend till I start dating.

Originally Posted by MaryKay

My problem, is that the guys who I figure would probably treat me great just don't have that "spark", if you know what I mean. I've got guy friends who are pretty nice, but they're just friends, kinda like cousins or brothers, so I couldn't ever "go" there. ya know?

My best friend has a lot of guy friends who always have crushes on her, unless they're gay. But she isn't attracted to guys who are already her friends. Her boyfriend met her randomly at work and they started dating, and she was attracted to him because he wasn't already friends with her.

One thing that's also important in a guy is if he likes smart girls, and not ditsy ones. If a guy likes ditzy girls, he's not worth it. If a guy likes girls who aren't afraid to get their feet wet and go swimming without being afraid of ruining their makeup, for example, he's worth it. Some guys just like girls who are pretty but have no brain. And unfortunately, a lot of nice smart girls start getting interested in guys like that.

~~~~Looks~~~~
Taller than me (I'm regular height)
Any eye color
Short hair (Don't really like men with pony tails)
Great smile

~~~~Personality~~~~
Funny
Smart
Caring
Loving
Playful

~~~~E.T.C~~~~
Can cook for me at times
Good hygeine
Plays a sport or has a hobby

what i look in a boyfriend is...
o1. has a good sense of humor
o2. has to be nice. not just to me but to EVERYONE.
o3. someone who isn't so quick to judge people.
o4. someone who DOESN'T have a bad temper.

i look for all those things in a boyfriend but yet my boyfriend is the opposite of that. ahh. pretty pathetic.

This topic belongs in General Discussion. It really does not pertain to a certain issue, its more of a question to strike a discussion on what people like in particular people.

I will be moving it there and I will leave up a redirect for one day.

For me, it would be...

A good sense of humor.
Fairly intelligent.
Sarcastic. Kind of like Hugh Laurie in House M.D.
Friendly.
Not a know-it-all. That's just annoying.
Somewhat into sports, but not obsessive about it.
Outgoing. I'm shy, and I don't think two shy people go together so great.

I don't know what else. I used to have this super long list on my MySpace as a joke to prove I have standards. Now, I don't remember what was on it. Other than my "dream guy", physical characteristics I'm attracted to vary too widely to list.

Alot of things..

I don't actually date much.

I have that agoraphobia thing so I don't leave the house, and I doubt guys will pop out from under my bed someday.


I suppose I like older guys, tall, funny, a little nerdy, manly. Pretty much covers it.

Originally Posted by Edbebop

I have that agoraphobia thing so I don't leave the house, and I doubt guys will pop out from under my bed someday.

Kind of off-topic but, that makes me think of October Road. Phil's a shut-in, and he orders pizza quite a bit... And he starts dating the pizza girl at his house. They'd "go in" instead of "going out". So, even though that was a show, you never know what could happen.

The most important thing i find important in a guy is honesty i've been in and out of relationships because they lied and cheated. I also like loyalty but not so much that they will listen to everything you tell them and ask cause that gets very annoying after a while.

...
does "being David Bowie" count as a trait? if so, then I shall never marry until I find my true love...

^(;A;)^

-ahem-

aaaaanyway. in a dude, I totally look for all the typical stuff... though a big plus is...

may he be fashionable. please, please, let him have good taste! oh, and I hope he cleans or at least doesn't care about messy rooms. he must be funny and not mind craziness( to a certain degree)

facial hair wins him extra points.

For me, I would have to say I really love it when a guy has a sense of humor! Next I look to see if he's compassionate and kind (will he be there for me when I'm upset?) and that he listenes to me when I'm talking. I like to have a lot in common with the person I'm dating, though that makes the break up that much harder. ^^;

I actually prefer guys that aren't that good looking. I'm a lot less intimidated when that's a fact and I open up to them more instead of pretending to be something i'm not to impress them.

What I look for in a man? I'm not sure, really. I think I've found that I enjoy someone similar to myself; in particular, the ability to go off and do things on our own.
I don't like all the clinging and the kissing all the time.

Other than that, I think I'm more of the "companion" type.

Mm, well.. people usually gravitate subconsciously to people that are kind to them, I know I do. With my current boyfriend - he's neglectful, irritating and an all around bad choice, but my best friend is extremely kind to me and so I gravitate more towards him without thinking. It's logical, really. So I would say I definitely look for the kindness my opposite has to offer.
Is he nice? Does he listen to what I have to say? Will he enjoy conversation with me? Does he see me as a burden or someone he wants to make happy? Is he the type of person that likes to spend time with me, or would he rather do other things that don't involve me?

Those are all really important questions to ask yourself, in my opinion. If the person you are with [or are planning to be with] can't meet the important basics, they're not a good idea to date. Communication, to me, is the most important part of a relationship because all the other fundamentals are built off of that alone. You gain trust through communication, understanding through communication and love through it aswell. A relationship is nothing without that, to me.

But really, peoples opinions and views on their significant other [or what they look for in just that] will always be different - different people enjoy different personalities, someone may like my boyfriend who tends to do his own thing and neglect. Perhaps they like that. It all depends on what you are looking for, what will make you happy that isn't unreasonable. :yes:

A boy-friend as in male friend - thats it. Nothing more for me please. I am too set in my ways and have been through a living hell in the past decade with my 2 long term choices. The worst decisions of my life, I can assure you. Nothing but endless lies and cheating and trust that it always ended with them begging for me to take them back. And of course there were the times that I tried to forgive but I could never forget. And trust me, that saying is true. "Once a cheater - always a cheater" And me, being the Cancerian moon baby that I am, cannot tolerate being betrayed or disrespected.

I know that I am a rare gem in this world and that there are men out there (somewhere in time) that would kill to have an honest, independent, loyal, dignified woman like me. I know you savvy ladies out there feel what I am saying. So why the hell we would we ever settle for someone who would treat us any less than the goddess we are? Life is too damn short to give my best, my heart and soul, to some fool that would just take it, abuse it and never give the same love in return.

So I have given up on the idea that I would actually find my soul twin in this lifetime. I have already accepted the fact that I am to be alone and am actually quite happy in that realization. So for me, I guess it would be nice to have a special friend that would share some time with but NOT live together or feel pressured to be married. I guess he would be a "boy friend" technically but without all the drama attached to it. Does that make sense? Of course, he would have to be honorable and loyal in the same ways that I am.

Sorry people but just had to vent a little. And I feel very comfortable here with you guys so there you have it. LOL Anyway, a tall person would be nice I guess, as I am 5'10". I dont really care too much about physical appearance as long he is well groomed. But longer hair is attractive to me. Honestly, its more important that he is a caring and thoughtful man - a REAL man who knows how to treat a REAL woman. I am NOT seeking anyone but if he happens to cross my path, I will know it. ;)

I'm not quite sure what I look for in a man but my current boyfriend is pretty cocky sometimes, a good kind of cocky though. He's cocky about things that he knows he can support his cockiness about and he's not a show off. Other than that he's pretty thoughtful of me and considerate. He listens to me bitch, can stand my hissy fits, and is forgiving about them. xD

For me, it's mostly about having similar interests and a similar frame of reference in terms of life experiences. I also prefer them to be more artistically minded as opposed to logic and numbers. XD It just means that I tend to get along a bit better and they understand my frame of reference a little more.

Appearance isn't a *huge* thing for me. I've dated very handsome guys, not so handsome, skinny and chubby. XD The guy I'm currently interested in is a little on the larger side. But it doesn't really matter to me honestly. :/ We have a lot of similar interests, plus he's an awesome artist and musician. :D The only problem is that it's very long distance. He lives on the other side of the country. I refuse to go out there to see him again until he comes out here to see me. XD;;

I like having nerd boys for boyfriends. It gives me something to do with them, yet nerd is such a big category, we will have things that are not the same. I sitll like reading people's responses to this topic, it does intrigue me.

i usually tend to pick up those guys that are the "lost puppies"

You know, the ones with so many issues, ur like "wtF was i thinking when i said okay, i'll go out with you?"

but that is not really what you wanted in the post huh? lol


i think a guy that will do anything for you, and is always kind and sincere and NOT FAKE is the best kinda guy...

i thought i knew one once...

things i would look 4:smart (not nerd smart but not failing), funny,nice,honest,and cute