Exes
 

If you've dated or been married, how do you feel about your exes? Do you still talk or hang out? Why or why not? Did it take you a while to be friends again if you are? Also, whether you talk or not, how does it effect your current relationships (romantic ones and non romantic ones)? Lots of questions I know, just respond to the ones that interest you...or all of them if they all interest you. :p

Yeah, most of my romantic relationships fall into one of two categories... friends that I crushed on, who mostly never knew (or at least, it was never brought into the open), who I'm still friends with (and mostly still crush on); and really intense passionate relationships that mostly burned brightly and then flamed out suddenly.

The latter kind, I'm still in touch with and friendly with about half, but there is a period right after the breakup where, for your own sanity, you have to take some time off, and just not see each other for a while.

My first love. It was less then a half a year ago and it still hurts today with someone new. I loved him with all my heart that I was blind sighted. We didn't have much in common and I felt I needed to prove myself to him or something like that all the time. I wore sexy cloths because I thought if I wasn't sexy enough for him we would be over. And when he cheated on me I took him back in hours. But that didn't last long because what he did woke me up. I broke things off about a week later.

Months later when I had started to move on and date people again he called and begged me to come back. It was hard and it still is to just call him up and say I still love him and I want to be with him. But I have met someone, and I love him.

Love sucks, it's hard to control when you start and when you stop loving someone. I still love him but I know now that it's an unhealthy love and the love I'm carrying for someone else is pure and will continue to grow.

....I have a hard time dealing with my ex. In fact, she would sooner kill me than look at me - so I've been told. I've got a new one now, and yeah - I'm a girl with a girlfriend, nothing too new these days. Except, in my case: I've never been with a guy. I was with my ex from the time I was 13 until the time I was 16, and now I've been with my current girlfriend for two more years (almost 19 now, woot!).

What annoys me is: My current girlfriend and my ex still talk to each other. I don't even get the luxury of talking to her. She was my best friend and my everything. But out of the blue she started complaining about every little thing I did. I was too close, or too far away. With girls, there's a lot of emotional abuse. And I took it, because I loved her... constantly changing how she saw fit. But it stepped up. I got slapped. And bit. >_<

My new girlfriend scooped me away from her, yelled at her, and told me she loved for exactly who I was already and I needed to stop apologizing for things that weren't my fault. And she was absolutely right.

I hate my ex, but I've missed her from time to time. And she also hates me, but I could care less if she misses me. I wouldn't think that she would, the second we broke up she got with someone new. I suspicioned as much. That was over a year ago. (And I've tried repairing things as friends. Impossible. And it's sad, really.)

Oh, I so understand that. There's this one particular ex of mine, with whom I had a very, very intense relationship. I've come to a place where I don't even like her anymore... but a part of me still loves her, and misses, not so much her, but the relationship that we had at the beginning, before things went all wobbly.

I have one ex. I hate him and have no desire to be friends, because he hurt me. But unfortunately, he and my boyfriend are good friends, so i always have to see him. Last time I saw him, though, i didn't get angry at all (and usually i have an outburst of some kind). So that's an improvement, I guess.

It's been almost two years since I broke with my ex. I don't feel anything for him anymore, obviously because we broke up and because I have moved on. We work at the same job, and we have the same friends, so I do tend to see him regulary and it doesn't really bother me at all.

We tried the friends bit, until I met my partner who I'm with now, and then he didn't wish to know me. He even made the comment in the canteen at work that he was surprised I had found someone before he had, which just made him look like a complete jerk! He then soon got someone, yet when that went sour he came back to look for smypthy, of which I gave none of.

It doesn't effect my current relationship at all. My partner would be happy to meet my ex, and wouldn't treat him any differently to any of my friends. But everytime my ex knows my partner is going to a meet up with our friends, he declines and says he has other plans last minute. -=rolls eyes=-

My first ex: I do communicate with him but not very often. He is a 35 but still lives and acts like he is 16 year old. Pathetic really. Its all about the band maaaan! *sarcasm* We have 2 sons together and he is not active in their lives at all. He is more concerned about who will be his girlfriend this week and changes them like underwear. And keep in mind, most of them are 21 or younger so they have NO clue - groupie bar flies. You get the idea. LOL

My second ex: Restraining order - need I say more? :no:

Too much time and distance for most exes. In general, once it's over, I move on. Tried being friends with one, but he became convinced that I wanted to revive the relationship. It just depends on how it ended.