my ex dumped me 10 years ago ago, and i still am having problems. it got more intense over time, but i know it seems like im not helping, but heres the catch. I think, i could be wrong, but im in the same boat you are, i think its going to get worse before it gets better, and once it gets better it will be a LOT better. and think of it this way, if you did everything you could do to make things work with your ex and it didnt, and you felt like it was perfect and wonderful, imagine how wonderful the RIGHT guy is going to be! you just gotta hold on, and try to distract yourself, go out with friends, get a job that takes up a lot of time, do wahtever it takes. its about replacing the pain with something better, something more constructive than sadness.