and then felt like you broke their heart? and i dont mean boyfriend/girlfriend shit. i mean like real emotional problems with people like say...your mom or dad? or another family member. because today i just told my dad that i didnt want to play softball anymore and he freaked out by yelling at me and then went downstairs. the only thing hes ever wanted me to do was play softball, but....i dont want to, i really dont like it anymore...plus im filling out applications for schools saying that i like play softball and stuff, so i have no clue what to do...sorry just ranting about nothing i guess.

if anyone else has had a problem like that, wanna share?

I think most people have issues with family members...
I've been trying to prevent arguments from spreading. ><

no no
this isnt an argument thoth
happy birthday btw <.<

like...i really needed to tell him that i didnt want to play anymore
hes just a fucking alcoholic and doesnt understand...

>.>
who duz understand these days :\

i mean if you dont wanna then dont, its your last year of skewl right?
well HS..
grr D<


-still getting used to mene x.o-

I am sure he will over come it.
At the moment his just angry, cause he is loosing his pride in something,
I bet he brags all the time about it.

But just give him time and I am sure he will come around.
Is there any other sport you want to do?

Originally Posted by Sofa King Cool

like...i really needed to tell him that i didnt want to play anymore
hes just a fucking alcoholic and doesnt understand...

Okay, wow. It's just softball. How bad would it be to keep playing till college, since it would probably help you get accepted/scholarship/etc somewhere.

Unless there is some huge real reason you don't want to play like injury or something.

There's a lot of stuff in life we don't *WANT* to do but we have to anyway...

And him being an alcoholic is a whole other issue you need to address in another way.

Hm. Well, my mother and I have never gotten along, and she yells at me a lot.
We she does that, my eyes glaze over and I take the opportunity to zone out a bit.
One time she cried because of it and, I don't want to seem like a bad person, but I was happy when she cried.
I had won by doing nothing.

Well, I don't have anything exactly like that since I keep my liberal and spiritual beliefs to myself, thus tactfully avoiding a huge fight with my parents over our differing belief systems and ideas of morality, but I do have something similar.

When I first left for college I felt like things would never be the same again and it really hurt, but since then I've found it's pretty much the same without as much nagging, letting me feel like I have a great relationship with my parents when we do actually have our little problems from time to time. It makes me that much happier to see them when I go home and that much more relieved to go back to school when I go. A bit of distance from your parents is beneficial when you're trying to spread your wings and become a true adult, I've found.

Besides being a closet liberal in a family of strict religious conservatives, I don't really have all that many problems with my parents. They're good people, even if we don't see eye to eye all the time, and I was lucky to be raised in a stable and loving home.

If your dad really loves you like a father should, alcoholic or not, he should be able to see through the haze that intoxicants produce. He should understand that what you want and what you like are some of the most important things he must deal with as a parent. This is a crucial part in your life. You'll be starting a career in a few short years and he should have enough sense to know not to add any unneeded stress to an already stressful situation. Just my two cents..

No, not really.
If I have I don't notice.

My dad inparticular has said some things that have really really hurt me, beyond that which i can put into words.
Myself though, i take care to be tactful of others feelings, and always consider what i'm saying, and how the other person might take it, so it's not something i can recall doing.

It happens. I told my aunt (the one who egged me on in the first place since she used to be a player in my school, very old player, boof) that I didn't like to play volleyball for the school's team anymore. It's not like I was exceptional in the first place anyway. She freaked, not really yelled at me, but sort of sobbed while talking to me loudly as to how she made so much effort to tell the teachers this and that.

That was a few months ago. She didn't say anything after all and I felt guilty for a time but I think it was better than if I stayed and felt miserable. It passes.

Originally Posted by Guivre

Okay, wow. It's just softball. How bad would it be to keep playing till college, since it would probably help you get accepted/scholarship/etc somewhere.

Unless there is some huge real reason you don't want to play like injury or something.

There's a lot of stuff in life we don't *WANT* to do but we have to anyway...

And him being an alcoholic is a whole other issue you need to address in another way.

its something people do for fun if she dose not have fun then she sond stop playing

now if was like in P.E or something then yha you have to play or no points

It happens to everyone you know, sometimes you have to tell people stuff they don't want to hear. Uhm, a few years ago I told my mother (i don't live with her) that I don't feel safe and/or secure when around her. that hurt her alot, and it ended up hurted me because what i said caused her pain. but i meant it, she asked me how i felt...so i told her the truth.

Originally Posted by ~Midnight Dreams~

It happens to everyone you know, sometimes you have to tell people stuff they don't want to hear. Uhm, a few years ago I told my mother (i don't live with her) that I don't feel safe and/or secure when around her. that hurt her alot, and it ended up hurted me because what i said caused her pain. but i meant it, she asked me how i felt...so i told her the truth.

thats hade but why did you not feel safe aroned her?

it's cases like these where you parents want you to do something because they couldn't or didn't succeed at it or they just want you be like them.... or so it seems that way, eventually he'll get over it...

I know how you feel. I was going to be a doctor. Had a four point oh, great references, volunteer work, etc. and then I decided to go to art school. Parents eventually realize that you have to live your life.

Originally Posted by nekokid

thats hade but why did you not feel safe aroned her?

Its complicated, My mom does crazy stuff when, she's not on her meds, and she usually didn't take them...and i told her that.

ive given my ma abuse from time to time thats really hurt her but i dont reallu mind cause i hate her anyway.

It's a part of growing up.
My mother felt ashamed that I was her daughter when I told her that I don't believe in any form of religion or any higher being in general.
She wouldn't talk to me for months and then simply assumed that I would have no problem being confirmed as a Catholic.
I was pretty much guilted into it by my father as my brother completely and blatently refused as well.
My mom wanted at least one of her children "to go to heaven."
While I haven't yet gotten over it, I realize that sometimes you just have to sacrifice a bit of yourself to apease your parents.
When it's time you can live your life without them.
However, for now, you just have to "do what you have to do."

Sure did...it was about my boyfriend's trumpet playing (he's a trumpet performance major) we had a huge fight about it and I wish I could have taken it back. :(

I didn't say this, but my dad did. My mom didn't have a lot of money because she had no job, and she came over for Christmas dinner. My dad was the one who bought my sister and I presents and everything. Anyways, he said to her in a highly sarcastic voice, "So what did you bring them?" and my mom just burst into tears and left. I could tell that she felt really guilty, like she couldn't do anything for my sister and I.

I'm hoping he'll understand your side of the part.
Try talking to him once he's cooled down a bit.
If he doesn't understand..I'm not sure then. .-.

Sometimes I think a parent lives their dreams in their children sometimes.
Who knows.

I think I've said a lot of things that broke my moms heart but she doesn't really show it. :[
I feel so sorry Dx

Nope, well I hope not.