I think talking works because you can be relieved from all the stress and other things. :)

Tlking can work when you chose the time to do it. When I tried to do so when the other person is busy it doesn't work or it turns into an argument. But when we're both relaxing and in a good mood it when I can tell the them what's on my mind. And it's also the way you say it too I think. They say use 'I' statement, but I usually am not thinking about 'I's and 'You's when I talk.

For me it works often. It's not full proof though. I mean tons of people you could talk to for hours, and nothing would get through to them. Cause sometimes that method doesn't work. They need that yelling or fighting in order to understand, wait maybe this is serious and I should actually do something about it.

My fiance and I talk things out when it becomes too much and were usually done blowing up at eachother. Were attempting to talk about our problems first. Which is helping, cause were no longer on the verge of splitting up so often.

I think it requires time and patience, for someone to get used to it. Instead of yelling and fighting. But in most cases, or atleast mine it does work.

It all depends on the situation for me.
I'm not as opened as I'd like to be. In fear of being used, and just thrown away.
I'm not sure. Because there are times when it does work, and times when it doesn't.
So, as I've said before, It all depends.

Does screaming really accomplish anything if you still both walk away angry?

@ Nocere, unfortunately you seem to be in a tough situation, it doesn't seem that talking or yelling will accomplish much. They probably see your atheism as a failure on their part to instill faith in you and no one likes to have their failure rubbed in their face. Your lack of faith threatens theirs. It's a touchy subject, best you can do is just wait until you can afford to move out on your own, I don't believe in pretending in believing in something you don't.

I think talking helps when done properly. Yelling, screaming, and making a huge scene is a shortcut to releasing all that pent up angst that has built with the current predicament. However words have power that freaking out just can't compete with. It's just that kids, especially these days, haven't learned the kind of language required to speak from their hearts. To truly get your point across you need to know what words would best describe your feelings, and in what order to put them in. Screaming and crying gets the "I'm so %&[email protected] upset! Can't you see that?!" often without the why or the how to help part. It can scare the people you're trying to "talk" to off, and usually causes more trouble then helps.

Kids who try to talk to their parents for the first time, especially after a long time, won't get it all out in one sitting. So that's probably why they would say it didn't work.

At least, that's what I think... I'm totally not the poster-child for perfect parent/kid communicating, but I think I at least get why it never really worked haha.