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Are we influenced since birth so much?
I mean...I have this friend who listens to folk music (sorry no offense but ...its like for villagers here----) amd she says she cant avoid likimg it cause all her family likes it and she says she was told it was a good thing by her enviroment...since she was born and that is why she is the way she is.... I just dont know... I mean maybe when you are a kid but when you are a teen or an adult its like....you can have a different look over things...even if you r parents have always loved a thing, that doesnt mean you will...or does it ?
Is it the same with religion? I dont think so, I know many people whose parents go to church and they are atheists for example... so how are we influenced since we are born? is this like a curse we cant escape from? what do you think? |
Some people just stick with the values they grew up with. Not because anyone forces them to, but because they truly enjoy it. I grew up LDS, and today -- still enjoy being a part of the church. I grew up listening to my fathers music (Boston, et cetera) and I enjoy it quite a lot. It can also kind of be like liking a certain food; as you ate it a lot when you was younger, or your mother ate it when she was pregnant with you. My mother ate a crap ton of peas when she was pregnant with me, and to this day, I LOVE them.
I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing. |
Nothing is absolute, or can MAKE you do or like anything. The thing with growing up is that you are influenced by what surrounds you. You could( though not really) give things percentages. Like...if this person is surrounded by dancers 40% of their time they might have a 50% chance of wanting to become a dancer. But of course how the person is may make it lose 10% of that chance because of hereditary genes that they may have gotten at birth or lose 5% of that chance because they are surrounded by singers 10% of the time. Also natural physical ability may make the person lose another 15%. So in the end they might have a 30% chance of wanting to becoming a dancer depending on what happens in their lives.
It's all up to chances...it's like picking up a new fad. I love breakdancing! WOO! |
I don't think so.
Maybe she just likes it lol. My mom is a straight up hippie and a bit of a druggie. [both my mom and my dad, ha in your face people who say alcoholism and drug addiction is genetic. >:U] I've never done drugs, nor will I. I'm not very much into the whole hippie thing, at all. In fact I'm sort of anti-hippie. The idea is nice, but lets be realist, shall we? ;D & My mom hates the 80's and I'm completely obsessed with them. I was raised with my grandma when I was little, little and she listened to classical music and oldies, I do like oldies and classical but it's not like I'm listening to it every day. Then sometimes I get burned out on oldies or something and I'll stop listening to it for a year or so then I'll be like, "Oh snaps, The Monkeys!" Or something. You know. Oh; my mom is a religious junkie as well, and I'm completely nonreligious. |
That's the big question. Google Heredity or Environment. Some people say that if a person is born into a hillbilly family no matter how he was raised then he would be a hillbilly. Others say that If that hillbilly baby was adopted by a rich snooty family then he would become like them. It's a big debate in which I only can state my opinion not the truth. I believe heredity is the way stuff works.
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I think when you're young you are very influenced. I pretty sure that the main reason I like rock/metal type music is my brother (country was the only other thing played in my house really...). He always was playing music in his room which I could hear from mine when I was going to sleep. It's a very calming type of music for me now.
As for religion, I think that the reason that you can have a highly religious family and an atheist child is the availability of knowledge and opinions. There are more ways to explore and pretty much have it all at your finger tips. Before all the people you knew probably were a part of your faith or at least the people you were raised with probably were. I would probably be a Jehovah's Witness or Christan if I were raised religiously. I was highly influential as a child. I questioned things, sure, but I still would believe pretty much whatever came out of someone I respecteds' mouth. The way I was raised has partially made me who I am (to question things, be myself, and everyone is equal were really the three main lessons). I'm sure personality factors into it. I believe there were twins who, experiencing the same thing, reacted totally differently and thus changed who they were in different ways. So, I think it's personality and environmental. When we are teenagers, though, I'm sure we naturally rebel and explore to find ourselves and see if we believe everything we were taught when we were younger. Can't remember where I heard that. I kinda wonder if it's true now... and now I must search. xD Thanks. |
I think we are influenced some, but it doesn't necessarily last unless the person enjoys those influences, like the style of music or food, etc.
I was brought up listening to country music. When I was a teenager, of course, I "rebelled" and started listening to other stuff, to break away from stuff my mom liked. But I went back to country music rather quickly, because I enjoy it. What's so wrong about folk music anyway? People can like whatever they want, no matter where they're at. If she likes it, let her listen to it and don't bother her with why she does. She just does. Maybe it made her embarrassed having to tell why she likes it, so she said she can't avoid it because her family likes it? |
I think to an extent people are influenced by how they're brought up. There's also cases like you said where the child turns out opposite of how the family is. I also think that if the child is exposed to more at a younger age they're more likely to be more open to things their family isn't into.
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I have my fathers sense of humor. He adopted me but was my father as long as I remember. So I got his humor from being around him. Yes your environment changes you, but you can always rebel, or just plain not like some thing. My mother, who gave birth to me adores wine, and I can barely drink the stuff.
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The things you grow up with when you're younger tend to have a big influence on you as you grow up.
And when you start to see things outside of the box, then you gradually form your own opinions on things, and such. |
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I agree. My mom & dad both liked pretty much the same type of music, and I grew up to like it as well. Even though my friends didn't I couldn't help the fact that I did. But didn't want anyone to know I guess idk. But I really think that you are what you were raised to be, and on the outside you can change, but in theory, deep down in your mind you will always be the one person you grew up knowing how to be. I think that's just life. Idk. |
I believe the degree of influence varies depending on what type of a person someone is. I was raised in a strict Catholic home, and I'm an atheist. I made a choice to question my faith and found that it wasn't what I truly believed. My taste in music also differs from what my parents listen to. What you have to remember is that parents aren't the only ones who can exert an influence on you. You also have brothers, sisters, extended family, friends, teachers, and the media. I think how a person turns out is just a reflection of a series of personal choices. True, some things are controlled by genetics, but it's up to a person to be who they feel they are.
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Much of what is being questioned is considered the Nature v. Nurture debate. Everything behavioral from language acquisition through artistic expression have been poked at to see how much or how little genetics and/or environment determine one's behavior. As far as my opinion goes - based on academic study and personal observation - I feel it's a combination of both. Things like religion, music or art preferences, and hobbies are all a matter of choice. Those can be influenced by culture, whether at home or within the community. Issues like temperament, manual dexterity or even intelligence can be influenced more by genetics.
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I think I definitely am a product of my environment. Both my parents are big readers and I am too, they instilled the value of education and reading in me from birth. I see a lot of people who don't like to read didn't have parents that were readers. My parents are atheist/agnostic and so am I. People who don't have religion in their upbringing tend not to have it in their lives as adults.My mother was never a big meat eater and neither am I. The place where it split was my father is a staunch republican and my mother is a progressive democrat, I had to decide my self what I believed to be right. Many people have the same political beliefs as their parents, never actually thinking about what it really means. I think a persons personality can change these things, but our environment definitely affects us.
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I think the basic foundations are set by the way you grow up. But I also think, that as a person if you need to grow and prosper and develop your own likes, dislikes and preferences *even if they are based off of your family*
For example. My mother loves elton john and the beatles. Thats all she listened to my whole life. I have a strong like for these artists, and I have a great love for pop rock. BUT my mother also loves Paul McCartney as a solo artist, and I do not. My dad loves hockey, and I do as well. My dad likes cars... I do not. My family set up a lot of my likes and dislikes, but I have formed my own opinions on everything around me, and i think that is healthy. |
My whole family was at least marginally racist, but the first kind of music I ever really got into was rap and hip hop.
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