These were the exact words that came out of my mouth last night when my boyfriend proposed to me last night. It was hilarious because I said them in such a small quiet voice and I'm really not a quiet kinda person. I was so excited. Still am. But there's so much to plan now and so much to do and I don't even know where to start. It cracked me up because I was right in the middle of filling out a job application and I was on the last question and I SWEAR they must have thought I was thinking about that question for a really really long time. LOL.

Thus far I've actually already gotten the dress. It needs some tailoring done to it, but outside of that it's perfect. Very cute and elegant all at the same time. I'm currently working on the flower girl's basket. We've got most of our wedding party already asked.

So my questions for you today are....you can answer none or all of them if you wish.. or anything inbetween. <3

Are you married?
Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?
Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings? (Meaning sites online or magazines that will help with the planning process.)
If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine (it's Renaissance themed), would you?
Traditional white dress or something different?
What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)
Wedding showers... good or pointless?
What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

I'm married and never had a ceremony. My husband and I thought it would be better just to get married without all the drama of setting anything up.

I'm actually currently engaged as well! Our wedding is going to be on October 10th and it is Halloween themed. No costumes, unless they want to wear one, but it isn't mandatory. It's going to be in my aunt's backyard.

Regarding your questions, obviously I am not married yet, yes I am having a themed wedding, I do not know of any good places for weddings but there is this one nice hall by me with a really pretty waterfall in front, but wayy too expensive for my price range :\ , I would love to wear a costume to a wedding, My dress is white but it has really pretty black flowers along the front and down the back, my take on second weddings is that, personally, if I was married before I wouldn't want to have another big fancy wedding, I'd probably get married in Vegas or something lol, I wish I can have a wedding shower, hopefully someone will surprise me lol. I think they are good if you are expecting a lot of company because of all the gifts!

I think if I ever get married, I will have a traditional wedding minus the patriarchy aspects.
I will never, ever marry into my husbands family, become a lil miss husband's property and throw away my hertitage. I don't need to honor patriarchy, it's disgusting and needs to be wiped out.

I'd probably get married in my Unitarian meeting house or whatever church/place whatever my wife or husband happens to go to ( Oh yeah, I don't care what gender I end up with).
We'll have a simple ceromony and then have a nice organic, vegan lunch/ dinner...whatever time it happens to be. Also it depends on what this potential mate of mine might want.

Well we're honestly thinking about doing a small wedding for our family and the state and then doing a hand fasting after that. I don't know much about the hand fasting ceremony, but my boyfriend seems to really want it so after I look into it some I'll decide.

First off, congratulations!

I'm not married, but I'm hoping to get married eventually. I definitely want at least a semi-themed wedding. I want to get married in the Vine Chapel at the Texas Renaissance Faire. I have no quarrels with dressing up in costumes usually. It...depends on the costume, I suppose. The one I'm hoping to eventually get married to isn't traditional in any sense of the word, so I probably won't wear a white dress. Actually, my guy was joking about how I should wear a tux and he should wear the dress.

I knew someone who had a second wedding, and it was just beautiful. Her first marriage was unhappy (and she had eight kids), but she got a divorce. I'm just glad she found happiness. The ceremony was on a small island on the San Antonio River called Marriage Island. I think you should be able to have whatever kind of ceremony you want regardless of if it's a first, second, third, fourth, whatever number marriage.

First off, congratulations! You seem very happy. ^-^

Are you married?

Yep! It'll be our two year wedding anniversary next month.

Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?

Our wedding was very loosely themed Shakespeare's "Midsummer Nights Dream."
The dresses were all medieval/fantasy style, there was a focus on flowers, the readings during the ceremony were taken from Shakespeare's work, and the whole day had a very natural feel to it.

Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?

Honestly, I just spent hours searching on Google and combing through wedding magazines.

If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?

Of course! Refusing to dress up is for grumpuses!

Traditional white dress or something different?

I prefer a compromise; a white dress, but a very un-traditional style.
I've had occasion to wear quite a few ball gowns in the past, and I found that when I tried on dresses that weren't white, they didn't feel special like a wedding dress... they just felt like yet another ball gown.

What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)

Sounds like an opportunity to re-do everything you wish you'd done differently the first time!

I know that a lot of people seem to think that a second wedding should be a smaller, more modest affair, but I never understood that way of thinking. If you and your hubby both want a huge party, go for it.
Also, don't be afraid to wear white if you want to! The whole white being for virgins/first time brides thing is actually just a very common misconception. Traditionally, a white wedding dress was a symbol of wealth, not virginity.

Wedding showers... good or pointless?

I don't really understand what they're all about, to be honest. I'm from the UK, and they're only just now starting to become popular over here.
My cousins threw me a "bridal shower"... but all we ended up doing was playing a few silly games, reminiscing and getting really drunk together. The night ended in us staggering up and down the street, with me in a "wedding dress" made from toilet paper.
I'm not sure if wedding showers are usually supposed to be like that!

What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

This:


What exactly is it? I have no idea.
It was a wedding present from an elderly couple who turned up to our ceremony. Neither me nor my husband had any idea who they were, but they seemed to know us.

I was really the same way. I got married the first time because I was expecting his child... our parents both expected it and... well my parents basically threatened that I'd never see my grandparents again if I didn't. It was a really sad time for me espically because I knew I didn't love him and there was someone I really did love so much more at the time. I thought several times abou running away and being with him instead but I dug my grave so I just decided maybe I should lay in it.... I didn't stay there for long. Needless to say... about 2 months after my son was born I couldn't take it anymore and I left. Things have been rough but I've been a lot happier since.

Aww, congrats!

Are you married?

No, for now I'm engaged. ^^

Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?

Not really, I'm not one of the super fancy type of people who like those.

Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?

Nope. >_<;;

If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?

Sure, I'd love to go to a wedding. XD

Traditional white dress or something different?

Something different. ;)

What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)

Don't really know. I'd only marry someone to be with them the rest of my life.

Wedding showers... good or pointless?
It sounds like a cute idea.

What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

See above. XD Never been married/to a wedding.

I am married, I eloped, saved a lot of money and it was so simple to plan. Really get a few friends and see the JP, go on a wicked cool trip and come home, when people ask what you did over the week say I got married. Great fun!!.

Congratulations! Enjoy your wedding, no matter how you have it!

Personally I got married in a car on the trip out of town to a gaming convention. Once at the convention we had a friend give a ceremony in a room full of gamers. It was so much fun, and several people even bought us gifts. The gifts were wonderful, because we knew they were given from the heart, not as a "payment" for dinner.

I am not a "fairy tale princess wedding" kind of girl. But I do win more "my wedding was unique" contests than most.

Sounds like you had a fun wedding. And who cares about the "fairy tale princess" wedding...It's your special day.

Are you married?
Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?
Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?
If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?
Traditional white dress or something different?
What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)
Wedding showers... good or pointless?
What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

I'm married :) I got married on May last year.
There really was no theme at our wedding, just some colors that
were repeated a lot.
I had tons of good sites for ideas, but I've deleted them all... D: sorry.
but google is your friend :P so are wedding magazines.
I'd so dress up!
Whatever you feel most comfortable and beautiful in :)
It's perfectly fine.
Well.. we don't have them here, seems fun though.
money :DD because we need it.

CONGRADULATIONS! ^^ You must be so excited!

I am not married, and I don't want a themed wedding. I'm Mormon, so we have the actual marriage ceremony in the temple. Very small, very private. There's like at most 10 people in there.

But we have HUGE receptions to make up for all the foo-foo "Here comes the bride" stuff.
Most of us just have it in the gym at the church house.

A friend's weddings, if it's themed, sure, I'll dress up for it. If it's too ridiculous I won't be happy about it. xP



I'm all for the traditional weddings. White modest dresses. I hate going to weddings and see the bride in some skimpy tight dress. ESPECIALLY the ones that show the stomach under lace. Seriously, you shouldn't look like a slut on your wedding day.


Wedding showers, haven't really heard of those. xP I don't see the point of it. Receptions cover all that. I guess I'm just used to Mormon weddings. They're very different from "normal" weddings.

Well I'm currently engaged, and this will be my second wedding. My first wedding wasn't anything over the tops. Just a simple visit to the registrar's office in England (where I lived for 5 years), and then a small get together at the MIL's house.

This time will probably be a simple wedding at the county courthouse, and then maybe a small barbecue or something depending of the time of year.

I don't really do the whole party or big princess thing. If I had a butt-load of money I'd go somewhere secluded and get hitched just the two of us. :cool:

Well while we don't have a ton of money we're going to have about a year to plan and save. My paychecks don't get used for a lot so I'll probably be able to save plenty in that time. We're actually looking into having a renaissance wedding. Though I'm not planning on going overboard there are plenty of ways to have a semi-cheap and still excellent wedding. I've found a place I can get my dress at for about $300... which is pretty dang good as far as wedding dresses go.

Congratulations! 8D

And now for the spoonfeeds, because I really have no idea how to properly congrat someone on being proposed to without sounding like A) a hyper highschooler, or B) like everyone else. XP

Are you married?

Nope! :D Fourteen is a little young to be marrying in my opinion. P:

Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?

PIRATE WEDDING. D< Out door pirate wedding. IN A FOREST. Whom ever my husband will be, he HAS to let me have an out door pirate wedding in a forest. :<
... I am not crazy. D: Stop looking at me like that. I'M NOT CRAZY I SAY! NOT CRAZY!

Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?

Can't say I do, sorry. D:

If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?

D8 YES. holy fudge YES. You are asking this to a girl who would, if given half the chance, wear costumes every single day. Being given the consent to wear a costume to wedding would be a dream come true.

Traditional white dress or something different?

Traditional white dress. o: 'S just my opinion, though. I find them so pretty~!

What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)

Mmmm, I dunno. I'm one the fence about weddings already, so I'm the wrong person to give input on this. >_>

Wedding showers... good or pointless?

A whoozawhatzit? o_o

What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

See question one. XD

Ooooo, how wonderful! I saw you mention it on the 50 book challenge thread, but it was a few pages beforehand so wasn't able to congratulate you properly!

As for the questions...
I've never been married. Fifteen and all. You know.
I do want a themed wedding. Like, a drag theme would be so fun. XD Or a bring your dog wedding. Or I dunno, like, a renaissance style deal. Or a literary wedding! How grand that would be...
Books are a wonderful place for wedding ideas! Just read lots of books. Look at lots of art. listen to lots of music. That is how ideas for anything come.
YES, I would go to a wedding in a costume! That'd be like, buckets of fun.
BLUE DRESS. I want a blue dress at my weddiiiiing. D: I mean, silver if I MUST be traditional, but I don't want a white dress.
God. Ew. I HATE wedding showers. Pointless to the max. And SO boring.

Me personally, I'll just copy my parents and elope. I'm not big on all the stress and stuff that comes with a wedding. It's just not that big of a deal to me. If I love someone enough to spend my life with them, I don't need or want to have a big elaborate celebration to prove that. Gimme the ring and sign the paper, we're done, thanks. XD

I think I've actually found a dress. There was this girl who posted one online that she hasn't ever worn that she's trying to get rid of because she was trying to decide between a reinassance wedding and a christmas and christmas won out for her... so she's trying to sell the other dress she bought... <3 I'm hopefully going to look at it tonight. *nods*

Weddings are just a dream to me right now. I've never been to one because my cousins always schedule their weddings when I have school. D: (And my mom is viscous about me staying in school.)
Though I do have some advice for you. :D
You know those beautiful bare foot weddings you can have on the beach? I suggest NOT doing that. People love to do them near the gulf coast area where the beaches are all pearly white and elegant, but not only do you smell really salty, but you get the dumb drunken tourists who make loud noises near your wedding. "whooooooo!!!"KISS HER!" "DO HER!"
Sure its memorable, but not in a good way. D:
I love simple weddings, because then you get to spend more money on making the next couple of nights really memorable! ^.~

@Lathrine: A pirate wedding would be so cool! XD

Before I try to answer questions; congrats. :D Even though it's your second one (as you mentioned), you should go all out.

I don't have any experience with weddings. But you don't often get to redo a wedding, so you should choose what you want, colors AND flowers. Tradition can wait and if you like a theme go with it, just keep in mind you probably will be seeing these pictures for the rest of your life, so don't do anything too ridiculous. :D I personally think that it'd be awesome to see a purple wedding dress (a light one) but that's just me. :3

And since I mentioned tradition... Apparently there's something about people liking June weddings. So I imagine serious wedding places get those times picked out fast? :/ I'm no expert though, but I do think I know why June's popular in a symbolic sense.

Blah, weddings.
Collaring ceremonies are cute.
Also allow multiple partners.

Originally Posted by FeyonaSaibre

Are you married?
Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?
Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?
If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?
Traditional white dress or something different?
What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)
Wedding showers... good or pointless?
What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

First of all...Congrats. Now...On to question land.
Yes, I am married...I have been married since October.
I did not have a theme wedding, but a friend of mine had the COOLEST theme wedding ever. She got married on Halloween, so it was a costume party wedding. We had coffins for candy favors, and she carried a boquet of sticks with tiny pumpkins on it! Sooo much fun.
While it can be a little obnoxious, theknot.com is a great resource for wedding junk. I stole the idea I used for my programs from there. It also has a checklist/timeline etc. that was pretty useful.
OF COURSE I'd wear a costume if that was requested. But I think that is fun!
My dress had black in it, and that really set the theme for my wedding. My "colors" were black, white and red. Mostly black and white, with some white and red flowers.
2nd wedding, who cares, do what you wanta do, it's your life and everyone else can fuck themselves if they get judgemental on ya.
I thought the shower thing was hokey..but that is me, and I am a no nonsense or hokeyness kinda gal.
Best gift has to be money...We used it to get some seriously amazing kitchen knives and pots and pans. Honestly, those get daily use and were worth every expensive penny.

I'd also recommend bed bath and beyond to ya...Their return policy is amazing and they had our "fine china" for HALF what Macy's had it for. Crazy huh!

Congratulations and good luck, my dear.

Originally Posted by FeyonaSaibre

Are you married?
Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?
Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?
If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?
Traditional white dress or something different?
What's your take on 2nd weddings? (This is my second and his first.)
Wedding showers... good or pointless?
What's the best gift you've ever gotten from a wedding?

Being that I am 17, I have yet to be married. But I do look forward to it.

I fully intend on having a nature-themed wedding: outside, in greens, blues and browns...

I read. A lot. I am also incredibly creative and imaginative, so my wedding is all made up in my head.

I would definately attend your wedding, costume or no, because they are beautiful. There's nothing quite like the look on a person's face when they are about to be joined to the person they love.

I intend to wear a pale blue dress with silver chains. The rest of the gang would be asked to follow my color scheme, but other than that, be comfy and enjoy yourself!

2nd, 3rd, 16th, who cares! A wedding is a symbol for those being joined, something to remember as the consecration of their bond. It is always meaningful and the way in which it is done is individual and as unique as each person.

Wedding shower? Really? I've heard of baby showers, but wedding showers? What are they exactly? I mean, isn't that essentially what bachelor(ette) parties or the reception is for?

I caught the boquet at my bf's (an ex now) parents' wedding. He caught the garter. :shock:

Wedding showers happen... the batchlorette party doesn't involve any gifts really... just your last night of fun as a free girl. Last one I went to I ended up going to a strip club... *blush* but yeah... so showers are meant essentially for the people who want to give you the gifts but either can't make it to the wedding because of scheduling or don't want to have to worry about you opening it there. I had so many presents to open at my first wedding that a lot of the guests ended up leaving before they were all opened...

side note.... I bought the dress. It was just $120... I was thrilled! It does need to be adjusted in the shoulders and across the chest area because i'm a bit bigger upstairs than the girl who bought it was... but there's plenty of room in the material for that. I also already have the basket for the flower girl.. but it's going to need a lot of work.

Our date set is May 22, 2010. I know it's over a full year away but it gives us time to plan and not stress too much about money.

Are you married?

No, I'm engaged though.

Have you ever wanted/had a themed wedding?

Hmmm... Haven't really thought about it, my fiance is 17 and so am I, we're still too young to actually get married.

Do you know of any good places to get ideas for weddings?

Not really... My mom's wedding was on top a a mountain outside a pretty little cabin while the sunset behind her and her husband, they had phenomenal wedding pictures.

If I asked you to dress up in costume and attend mine, would you?

XD If I knew you in real life, then yes.

Traditional white dress or something different?

I'm typically one of the 'different' people. Personally, I wouldn't have an extremely formal wedding, nothing too fancy.

What's your take on 2nd weddings?

Doesn't bother me, my mom is on her third, but she finally got it right.

Wedding showers... good or pointless?

Hmmm... Nah, but I don't like people giving me stuff. XD