How do you deal with death?
 

I internalize it a lot; that basically means I keep it wrapped up in my head. When the pressure gets to be too much I'll talk to my Mom. I'm really a private person, and I'm the person my family leans on when something goes wrong, so I'm used to bearing up and being strong, no matter what.

You have to learn to accept it. It can be and is the hardest period for you when you lose something close to you. Best thing I found that always helped me when people died was remembering them for who they were, not that they died.

Edit:: Bottling it up is not good. It can really mess with you later in life. I had a friend die in august of 2007 and it was really bothering me last year. Since right now is so close to the 2 year anniversary, I am saddened by the date being so close, but I do not let it effect me with my work. Effecting you in work and school can be potentially dangerous, all depending on the job you have. When you are in school it can effect your grades which could effect your future. Finding your coping method quickly is what I suggest.

You just learn to accept it. I've been dealing with it since i was five so....

What I did when my dad passed away two years ago was grieved for a little while (like a day or two) and then tried to do my best to keep a normal routene up. I hung out with friends, talked to people about it a little, cried a bit, and just tried to keep going.

And I'm sorry to hear of your lose of your hamster, I know my hamsters old and I'm scared of losing her. I hope you feel better soon! (: <3

I feel apathetic. For some reason, death does not bother me unless I'm close to the person/animal.

I'm sorry about your pet, though. They're always hard to lose.

Thanks you guys. I'm glad that there's always someone to talk to, whether I know them or not... But I don't know what to do because when I got to see her, she was fur and bones! :'( I don't even know how she died.... Do female dwarf hammies fight until one dies?? The store clerk said that robo-dwarf hammies are the most social of hamsters and that they are most happy when they are in same-gender couples (like kagome and kikyo) and that they don't bite very much... But why would one hammie be alive when the other one was mangled?

Pretty easily, actually. I'm starting to think I have a heart made of stone.

I understand that everything dies eventually but when it comes to my pets, I cried more than when my great grandma died... I think it's because my heart isn't really used to death yet.

Only time can mend a broken heart.

That is true.... My Mom said that they probably fought or she was sick... I just wish that I could reverse time to see if it could be avoided... AND I HAD A DATE WITH MY BOYFRIEND TODAY TOO! I don't like him to see me bawl like that but things happen for certain reasons.... I just hope that kikyo doesn't die on me over-night.... (she's the last hammy I have)

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. :(

Were the two hamsters litter mates? I think they are best if they are from the same litter, or at least introduced at a very young age. Dwarf hamsters usually are OK to keep together as long as they are same sex. I think I had three together at one time when I was keeping some. They were all the same sex and same litter, and I hadn't any problem. Also, if they do fight, usually you'll notice it before something gets out of hand...or at least I have had issues with housing hamsters in the same cage and I was able to separate them in time. (Important Note: Syrian (the 'stereotypical' hamsters) Hamsters are extremely territorial and under no circumstances should you keep them together unless they're still too young and with mama. Otherwise you will have a dead hamster on your hands.)

Death is a hard thing to deal with, especially when it's with someone you've formed a deep attachment to. I usually go through a period of grief and feeling quite sad, but I try to reflect on the influence they had on me and the happier moments with them. What they were, instead of what they've become I guess as it's been said. I feel for you though. I have a cat right now that I've had since the first day it was born and I love him to death. He has such a personality and is really well loved that when he dies it's really going to leave a hole in both my husband and I's heart. This is the kind of cat who always goes to bed at the food of our bed with us, and always follows hubby to the couch in the morning when he's having his cereal to cuddle on the couch. He's such an affectionate little guy for a cat and I don't think we'll ever have a cat quite as special. (This is making me feel all sad thinking about it right now! And he isn't even dead yet!)

I learned to accept it. You see, I live in a wood-like area and we have a lot of trees here so we have many animals. We have our share of "findings", especially a couple of babies. It's sad, but it's life.

I am very sorry for your loss...

Remember, Death is natural. Every living thing or person will die. I just lost my gram a few months ago to cancer... I think I handled it better than most people because I knew she was getting old and that it would happen. I mourned more as she was in the hospital rather than when she actually passed away...

Now, my dog actually has cancer now.. Which I'm starting to think is a great big kick in the face from life considering this is happening like dominoes falling. ONe after another...

But, as for others, you may want to hold onto your (happy) thoughts about the afterlife. Sometimes people find comfort in faith. Know always that there will be someone there for you, and know who those people (or that person) is.

That is the best I can tell you.

well i'm not sure but i know that I've had 2 hamsters, 1 bird, 1dog, and a bunny die. I do miss them but i'm not to overly upset about them anymore. I think you just have to accept the fact that they're gone and that they've gone to a better place. I really don't know what else to say. I miss my old dog Tippy, he died of 2 different tumors in his digestive system. We had to put him down. I was one when we got him and he was a puppy he was 1 also, so we kind of grew up together. It's kind of depressing, but i'm fine. He was 77 dogs years 11 in human years when he died. I was 11 at the time. I was so devastated it was like I lost my very first best friend.

I'll admit I don't take it particularly well. I tend to overthink it, dwell on it...I try not to let it affect me too much where it could cause me...complications, but I'll admit to having had to escape to the restroom at work on Saturday after listening to a group of kids talking about someone named Jasmine. .___.;

I've had a lot of experience with death, but unfortunately I'm still trying to find my best coping method.

Thanks again you guys. I'm amazed at how nice people are here compared to Gaia or meez.

When I have to deal with death/loss I get extremely sarcastic (which is impressive since I am normally VERY sarcastic) and I get this amazingly morbid dark humor...At least I am funny to be around....Even if I am in the land of the sads....

I'm sorry for your loss. :(

I am very bad at dealing with death by myself, especially at funerals, when the fact that they're dead hits me like an oncoming train. It's only when I have a distraction afterwords, such as good family and friends, that I feel as if I can deal with it, that this isn't the end of the world, that I still have time, and that the deceased one wouldn't want me spending that time constantly bawling over the loss of their life. I still might cry a great deal from time to time, but it's not quite as bad.

I just deal with it. Cry a little I guess...but then I move on. It's not like crying will bring them back to life...Unless you have some weird healing powers then share with the rest of the world D< !!! xD Good Luck though..sorry about your hamster.