Is confronting something hard for you, or do you just go for it?

For me, I'll have everything planned out, with every single thing to bring up of what's causing the problem and support in case I'm attacked. But when it comes to stepping foward to say that all to the person, I just fall apart. It's not that I can't do it, I just become nervous and my plan crumbles.

Also the thing is, I can't just fly in and go for it without knowing what I'm going to talk about in depth and why I feel that way. But then sitting there rethinking it over and over and trying to memorize just makes it worse.

Sorry, I'm kind of in a situation of confronting a issue, you can see my horrid problem in Life Issues. But I just really need to talk with someone and gather the courage and also just to have a nice discussion. :)

So please discuss:
-What do you do to take certain actions?
-Do you just do it and live on?
-Do you also hesitate a bit on coming foward?
-Am I weird to create a "plan"?

It depends on the issue. If it's something with a particular person, especially someone who I've found particularly...unpredictable before, then yes, I will hesitate and put it off as long as possible; I will plan, from plan A all the way to plan Z; you name it, if it is the safe path, I will do it. For some reason or another I always seem to end up in short-term friendships with...people who are very difficult in the most destructive possible ways...so my experience in this area always tells me to err on the side of caution. e__e;

However, if the issue is with a thing or a situation - the core cause isn't human - I will just strategically tackle it head-on. That's the entire reason I'm sitting here on a nice computer instead of complaining about my old one that hardly works. XD;

This reminds me of the abortion thing we had going on at our college. They had pictures up of how abortion was wrong, very graphic. Then there were people holding signs in protest. They had a white bored where you could write down your opinions, but I was too scared to write on it. I wanted to write: "Smile. Your mom was Pro Life" Just because I saw it on a bumper sticker and I thought how true is that. We're such hypocrites, being born, but not allowing to experience what we experience. Anyway getting off topic, but I have issues with putting myself out there. I don't like to because I'm afraid someone will put me down or start arguing and I hate arguing.

Planning is great because you have stuff to rely on or if you know what your talking about then it's easy to just go right into it without a plan. For me it's just the fear of being rejected or mocked. So I tend to stay out of confrontations, but I do have my personal beliefs and I find it's easier to put them out there on the web then in front of people so that's my solution.

Anyway, I wish you luck :D You probably have way more courage than I do

Only when the issue is jury duty. :sarcasm:

Confronting someone is hard for me. I mean, if it is a teacher then I am fine to talk to them because they are there to help me. But if it is a scary teacher it takes a lot for me to do it. I think it over and over in my head and I go right out and say it. I also dislike it if other people hear me in on my plan. >>; I find it quite awkward. >3< Though if it towards another student I get all clamped up and won't say anything until they say something. But they never do. ;---; So I have to gather up my courage and say it. I hate it when they do that. -cries-

Confronting people was always a problem for me. I've always had very strong opinions, and I would plan things out in case I ever had to defend those positions, but when the time came, I would clam up. I was always afraid that I'd end up an outcast for saying what I had to say, or the person I said it to would hate me forever.

And then one time, I got into an argument with someone dear to me, and I said exactly what I was thinking. And to my surprise, they not only didn't hate or stop talking to me, but actually treated me with far more respect than they had before. I found out that confronting the issue head-on was better for me in the long run than avoiding it until it boiled over.

When I have a need to confront something, whether it an issue with another person or even something with myself, I either get angry and lash out or pretend it doesn't exist. Life tends to be much simpler that way, although it's probably not the best method for dealing with things.

I'm only hesitant if it's something I really want, but I feel like it's going to let someone I know down. Like I'm best friends with my mom, so I hate doing anything thats going to make her worry or thats going to disappoint her. Well I'm pretty much that way with everyone I know....
And due to the way my mind works, I need to know the set up of every single detail thats going on, so I can relay the message to my mother "just in case something happens"

Generally speaking, I absolutely hate confronting issues. I was the child who would cry when my brother was being scolded for doing something stupid. When it comes to my own self getting in trouble and so being punished I usually flip out and cry even more. So confronting even my own misbehavior is stressful. When my friends and I are having problems I try my very best to avoid all contact until the situation blows over; which it doesn't. If I see them walking towards me I tend to flee. Mature, right? I absolutely cannot stand having to fight face to face with someone on a personal issue on their behalf of mine.

It depends wether i have the time to think about it. If i'm forced straight into something i tend to panic and don't handle it well, but if something is pre-planned i can think it through and know what i'm doing.

I'd say so, at times. I can't tell whether it's me being cautious or indecisive.