dumped by a hotty
 

Yup, that's how I feel right now. I got dumped by the person that I like. We weren't officially going out, but things did happen that made me wonder.. you know? But nope. Dumped. I wanna do something and was happy watching anime till the stupid site stopped working. 2 episodes before the end of the series!! ERGO PROXY!!!!
anyways, my point being: don't you just hate it when that happens? you show someone a part of yourself and end up being rejected cuz they 'aren't looking to date', as if their last lover f'ed 'em over somehow.

I won't even start with the rest of my life.
But those things do suck. I hope your friend gets out ok. I had a friend in the same position, but she was able to get away by.. what's it called... emancipating (sp?) herself from her abusive mom.
Maybe she could do the same?

and just to let you know, I hope you never have to feel the shock of being dumped out of the blue by someone that you like. it really is VERY depressing.

well I hope she makes it out ok.
ergo proxy.
and I was like that with my 'first love'. that was a heartbreaker.. I was crazy for the next couple of months, dated a friend as a rebound, then went on to get over both of them easier because of it. it was.. strange, to say the least. but I was also a rebound, so I wasn't using anyone or anything. >_>;;
what I mean to say is, there's always someone new. sad to say it, but there are too many people in the world to only be compatable with one. after all, I think this may be my second love. I can't tell yet. XP

Hehe! I have been there before as well. Although, last time I was dumped I was single for 2 years. It kind of sucked a lot and took me a bit to get back on my feet. I'm sure things'll start looking up for you though. There are plenty of girls out there! (:

ya, but... I don't know. a lot happened and I'd hoped that that would at least make them think more of me than just a 'maybe friends with benefits' kinda thing. I doubt I'll even get a txt within the next week. I went into it knowing that it could turn out this way and I thought I'd prepared myself for it, but I really thought we'd had a connection.. bleh.

'I just don't want to hurt you'. I hate that line sooo much.

I am a guy so I have to say one thing. If they are shy ASK THEM OUT!!! THEY WILL NEVER DO IT. Alrighty then. I have only had 3 relationships and they each have lasted a year or longer. You mentioned showing them a side no one else knows about. Well if it is a huge bomb do it over time. Especially if you are dating. If its just a soft loving side go for it! ( But remember this is advice from a guy over the internet so please dont follow it, get rejected, then blame it on me and especially not yourself. Its not you its them. Its always the guys fault trust me ;)

Oh and also something I left out, If you are in the age range of 14-16 don't let your emotions, especially love, rule you. Truth be told it usually isn't true love. I know it is sad to say... Only like 10 percent of people marry their "first love" :o

dude, I'm almost 20, and when I said that I showed them a lot I ment that we had sex. we hung out and then BAM. then it's 'I don't want to date anyone right now'. *sad*
can't really break it down more than that.

no offense, but... you might have scared her off with hopping on the good foot and doing the bad thing (as a friend of mine called it in High School XD ). I don't know your friend, but some people would think having sex outside a relationship is.... well... not right.

Either that or she might be confused.... *shrugs* It's hard to say since I don't know them

no, it wasn't really me that initiated it. honest.
we're still going to hang and stuff and she admitted to wanting to do more, she just doesn't want to make it 'official' or whatever.
I know I'm being used, but I just can't help myself. I don't want to give her up.

Heh. I'm not really the person to talk to. I'm not a casual dater. I don't date someone unless there is a good chance I'll marry them. Very much the case with my current boyfriend.

If she's using you the best thing to do is cut the line. It's not right to let her do that to you. You may love them, but if they don't have the respect for you it will be you in the end that is completely and utterly crushed. If they're really meant for you they'll come after you and make the relationship happen. If they don't, then you know all they wanted was what you could offer and not anything about your feelings or emotions

ya, I really don't know what to do. I'm actually kinda hoping that they'll see the good points and decide to give me a shot. XP
I'm hopeless.

@erailea- I know you're right, but I've been obsessed for months, and it seemed to be the same on both sides. before actually talking we practicly stalked each other for almost 5 months, so it seemed as if it was pretty mutual. XP

Don't let them drag you along like a lost puppy D:

I don't. ever since she said that I haven't txt'ed her first. I've waited for her to initiate things, which she has. that's a pretty big deal I guess since she's shy and never did that before. I'm not trying to make plans anymore either, I'm going to wait and see if she tries to. XP

That sounds like a good plan to me. She needs to work out everything that's undoubtedly going through her head and make a decision. Hopefully it'll be one both of you appreciate.

I think I may be haunting her thoughts tho. we both have fairly long hair and I gave her a hair tie to think of me, so she must think of me every time she sees it. it would explain why she txt'ed me. :D
ok, well my laptop's about to die. bbl

If she really cares for you she'd think about you without the hair tie, but I will admit any object given to you by someone you like/love/care for would spark memories of them.

M-k, bye then and good luck!

back.
and ya, I'm on my best behavior, but I don't think I really need to be. not to sound conceited, but I think I'm a really caring person and a good bf.
there may have been a past person that made them not want to be in a relationship, so maybe all I need to do is show that I'm not like them..
I can dream, can't I? lol
and it sounds plausible (sp. lol). she may not want to be in a relationship cuz the last one was an a-hole or something. in which case I still have a real shot.
wish me luck!! from here on out all I can really do is be myself and hope that they really like me. it seems as if they do already, at least a little bit..

I really do wish you luck.

Just never let anyone use you.

thanks erailea.

god, i know what that's like. i had a FWB nut i wanted her to be more. well, she didnt wanna. that was the last night i saw her lol