My boyfriend of three years just dumped me.
He's a really great guy.
He pulls the chair out for a girl and just makes them feel special.

I still love him and want him to move on as quickly as possible. I want him to feel no pain over this split.

What makes you want to date a guy?
Empathy?
Money?

Love is what made me want to first date my husband. I fell head over heel for him the moment I met him. He was and still is everything that I have ever wanted in a guy. He's charming, funny, incredibly sexy, smart...*starts to swoon over him all over again* Everyone called it puppy love but I knew it was the real thing. After a few months of being friends and a few more months of dating we were hitched. Our 2nd anniversary will be February 10th of next year. I'm really sorry that yor boyfriend broke up with you. I hope that you feel better soon. I know it'll be hard but tomorrow is a new day and all that jazz.

My last boyfriend was a douchebag. I fell in love with him because he was big, strong, funny, smart, had a beard (and I love facial hair), family-oriented (though he didn't know if he wanted kids), etc. But I should have said no when he told me he didn't want to be my boyfriend but wanted to fool around with me all the time.

But as far as guys in general go, I want to fall in love with a gentleman. I want a man who'll open the door for me, who'll treat me like the lady I am, who'll be chivalrous and yet be charming and sexy, able to make my knees go weak with just a kiss. I want a man who'll be handy around the house and stuff, not someone who doesn't know how to hang a curtain rod like my Father.

There just aren't enough guys out there like that...I can't seem to find one. =/

Originally Posted by Scarling Zombie

My boyfriend of three years just dumped me.
He's a really great guy.
He pulls the chair out for a girl and just makes them feel special.

I still love him and want him to move on as quickly as possible. I want him to feel no pain over this split.

What makes you want to date a guy?
Empathy?
Money?

the way a guy treats me makes me want to date him. that in addition to his personality and how he interacts with other people. i would never say that money is truly a factor in my choice. i don't think empathy ever has played a role either. my boyfriend sounds like the guy you just dated. he is pretty chivalrous and it's hard to find those kinds of guys these days. i hope you feel better about this soon dear. :hug:

Guys have never really interested me too much, but the only thing that really seems to draw me to them is a sense of humor.

Also, I'm never the one that does any courting. How funny.

I'd probably get attracted to someone if they paid me the most attention...though thats a very bad reason...
I can't quite know yes as I have never dated anyone before XD

I just want better for him.

What makes me want to date a guy is his personality. that can say alot, and also common interests, I like to share a few common interests, but I want to have a few different interests so perhaps we can share them and find new interests.

What makes me love a guy and want to chase after him is:

He has to like most things I like, opposites don't attract for me, I need to have someone to share my interests with.

He also needs to be extremely open-minded and a feminist. I'm both of these, and if he has a discriminatory bone in his body, I'm kicking the guy to the curb forever.

He also can be religious, but needs to be respectful enough not to shove it down my throat. Respectful of my phobias and other disabilities I have is a must. I don't want a guy constantly feeling sorry for me or agitated that I'm not "normal".

He needs to be strong enough to deal with my emotional baggage and also his. Mine because sometimes I get depressed if someone criticizes me, and he needs to slap some sense into me and make me giggle.

Luckily, my fiance is that type of guy and more. I didn't even need to woo him, I just started talking about random interests of mine -- found out he had the same and our conversations went on and on until love developed.

I mean come on, who else can talk about the hottest guy/girl in anime, metaphysics, human and animal rights, quantum physics, school, medical ailments, the future, technology, the gross things humans do, and STILL keep an interest on the topic at hand for hours?

The guy also needs to double as your best friend incase your own best friends are too busy for you tee-hee =)

It has a lot to do with his personality and how he responds to things. My current boyfriend, he's my Chaotic Prince Charming. He's generous, he's thoughtful (he's actually refused to drink with the guys, so he could drive me home after a party, after I've told him, that I could just call my brother.), When we go out, he hates letting me pay for stuff, even though I whip out my debit card faster than he does (just to even things up once and a while). He loves showing me off to our friends, and taking me places. He's always telling me how beautiful I am, even if I'm sick and feel like crap.

But the thing I love most.... He doesn't try to change me. My personality, or my body. I've had ex's telling me that I should work out (I have a little bit of flub on my thighs, tummy, and arms.), but he doesn't. If I wanted to work out, he'd support me, but he likes me kinda squishy.

My boyfriend started out as one of my best guy friends. Hes known practically everything about me since day one, and vice versa, and yet every time we see each other, we fall in love all over again.

(Before you ask, yes I'm a girl)

I like guys with tattoo's and piercings, just my thing. (The world I'm in) But he also has to be a gentlemen. Be funny and good looking, and have to love video games. Oo xD Jeez, maybe I'm too picky. I just left my 5 year relationship and am out looking again! Here we go!

You girls always say you want a nice sweet guy. But then in realilty most girls always date the bad guys, who it's clear they don't have a future with.
The good guys are the ones who sit around lonely and never get a GF because girls turn them down to date douches, who they then complain they need a "good guy."
tisk tisk.

Oh Angrod, you silly one. I don't believe we purposely choose the bad ones. Well, I do not choose them because I knew the guy was bad. It happens, I mean, I try to get to know a guy before I date them, but people can deceive by acting nice and sometimes they can do that well. My ex was a nice guy...so I thought. He was normal so far as I was dating him for two years, until I saw the ugly side of him....he was physically abusive.

I love good guys. They open doors and have jobs, and they rarely have nick names like "Snake".

I like a guy who takes interest in me and who I am. I don't care much about appearances, as long as he at least knows how to dress and cleans up good. He has to be someone who knows how to really make me laugh. A guy to me has to have a lot in common, and a lot of differences. And the big thing is, he has to be HONEST with me.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend as well. He started to act like a total asshole to me. What really did break it is that he dragged me to a drinking party (which I didn't want to go to AT ALL), and he drank a few beers. Thing is, he didn't ask "Do you want to go or head back at my house". Nope, he just dragged me along. Whenever I tell him he shouldn't do something, he goes ahead and does it. It really started to bother the hell outta me. I wish that I just walked back to his house, called my dad to come pick me up, and left without a word :/. Oh, and he also cheated on me twice with his ex >.>

But things are good right now, we don't talk much anymore, since he can't have a decent conversation with me. I have an awesome girlfriend, and that's all that matters right now :3

I love a badass .
But , he has to know when to control himself .
He has to treat me and my friends with respect.
And well looks are everything , I could never be with someone who didn't have somthing on his face that didn't attract me .
So I guess it's his attitude towards me , not so much others .

Originally Posted by Sprinklebuns

Oh Angrod, you silly one. I don't believe we purposely choose the bad ones. Well, I do not choose them because I knew the guy was bad. It happens, I mean, I try to get to know a guy before I date them, but people can deceive by acting nice and sometimes they can do that well. My ex was a nice guy...so I thought. He was normal so far as I was dating him for two years, until I saw the ugly side of him....he was physically abusive.

I am pretty silly. :D And touchè, good point, that does happen sometimes. I guess some things you just don't learn until you're with them for a while.

If he dumped you, how would he be in pain?

I'm fond of humor in a person.

glasses. and if they can beat me at bust a move. also i really like to be a bitch. so if someone can fight back thats hot. haha

I'm so sorry to hear that!

I look for a guy with a sense of humor, one who no matter what can make me laugh come rain or shine. A guy who doesn't care if I look silly in an outfit or some stupid sometimes when I try to sound smart. I look for a guy with good manners who actually cares about how he presents himself to the public and to me. A guy who tries to impress must be something special because most men I meet these days don't ever try to dress nice or even to show respectable manners (like burping and and not saying excuse me, I mean come on).

I was recently cheated on so I really am looking fr a guy who I know I can trust and feel safe and comfortable with, I want a guy who wants to take care of me. I'm not looking to be treated like a princess but a little kindness goes a long way. I want a guy who will just randomly hold my hand, one who might hug me just because he felt like it. I am so tired of guys who only care about their own carnal desires. What ever happened to the innocence of relationships these days, I ask?

I don't know if that perfect guy exists out there but I know beggars can't be choosers and I know I should never try to change someone because it will only lead to trouble later in the relationship.

Well my husband's the only guy I really get serious with. Everyone else has been a woman. I'm pansexual so I don't notice things like gender or what not. I just date people depending on their personality. Putting up with my pets is a must and putting up with my weird obsession with aquatic life is another. I have to have my freedom too. My husband gets it and he also gets the fact that I like to have a girlfriend around too. It's not swinging it's a long term girlfriend type of thing.

I think the biggest factor that made me fall for my husband was how genuine and caring he seemed. I was going through a stressful period in my life and he was there to listen to me and was able to relate. We both have had our battles with depression and have hit our rock bottoms so we really bonded together over sharing that.

For me, I swoon over men who make me feel loved and special. I also happen to like them when they are extremely open and honest. A guy needs to be as honest as he can in a relationship with me. I also want him to be loyal, loving, and a little possessive. Heh, and it wouldn't hurt if I could give him gifts and not make him feel so bad.

Which is why I am so deeply in love with my current boyfriend of 5 months. It's a long-distance relationship, and one I am damn proud to keep going with the love and respect that he gives to me. He is smart, funny as hell, cute, open, honest, caring, concerned, loving, and most of all, dedicated to our relationship. We both have had some bad times in the past, but, who doesn't have that in a relationship? Hmm?

But, getting off of the subject, if you read up top, then you'll understand what makes me fall for guys so easily. :3

From what I'm hearing, he'll be fine to find another girl.
He really is a great guy...

And, he's in pain because he loves me so much, but we can't physically be together due to the fact he's all the way in Utah and I am stuck in Illinois for the time being.

Originally Posted by Angrod

You girls always say you want a nice sweet guy. But then in realilty most girls always date the bad guys, who it's clear they don't have a future with.
The good guys are the ones who sit around lonely and never get a GF because girls turn them down to date douches, who they then complain they need a "good guy."
tisk tisk.

This is sooooo true! I personally always seemed drawn to the "dangerous" guys. Of course I had little to no interest in having a future with them.

The guys I was engaged to were sweet, funny, and fairly even tempered. My first husband showed his true colors within the first year, but I still hoped it would turn out okay. It didn't. My present husband is my sweetheart. He does little things to remind me he loves me. We share some common interests, but each have things we like to do that the other doesn't. It all balances out. What drew me to my husband? He had a sarcastic sense of humor which amused me...and a job! He had worked for the same company for over 10 years. That is commitment.

It breaks my heart to see my friends and even my nephew that are all the sweetest guys get looked over because they aren't forceful at all. The girls that find them attractive want to rule them with an iron fist. It's really sad.