ive had sex. I regretted it cuz I thought I loved them but I was only loveing the idea of being love with them. But then the second person came, and then the third.. and at that point I was like.. you know its a real emotional thing tha happens when gettting intimate and thats what is important to me, having the emotional side come out. Cuz it doesn't necessarily have to be all about urge and pleasure or whatever. I trully do feel alot different with someone after I do.

i have had sex and i wished i would have waitted for marriage it would have been the best choice i could have evr made

I am up in the air on this topic. I could go both ways because I am not sure if I want to be married to have a kid. In today's society it is okay to be a single parent and I would rather raise my kid in a loving home then put them through a life of fighting and hatred. I truly believe sex has lost it's intimacy and it's now become something to 'do' which really makes me think twice about throwing it all away for some one who will use me. The risk is completely unnecessary.

Originally Posted by [rad!o.act!ve]

It is really worth waiting for the right person, because it's your first time and you're not gonna forget it.
My friend had sex when she was 14 or something. Disgusting.

If you wish to be respected for your opinion, you should probably not call other people's experiences and opinions "disgusting".

yup

I have, but it was with my fiance, now husband. First time for both of us and it was his birthday. I have no regrets. I was just a couple months shy of 20, now I am 20. I can safely say that I waited for the right person to come along, not just marrige.

Yes i have im 24 and gave it up when i was 17!

i gave it up last year and i'm glad i did, i may not marry him but i'm glad i know what to expect from intercourse :mrmayor:

Sometimes you don't get to chose whether or not you want to save sex for marriage. This is the case with me, though I'm not as bitter about it as I used to be.

It's something that is sometimes worth saving. and if you do save it, all the power to you. and if you don't, then for whatever reason I hope they're still happy.

I personally may not have waited for marriage.. but I waited for someone special. He's in my life today even and I've known him for 3 years. :] He's my best friend and I talk to him about a lot. Will we end up together? Who knows. Will we be around eachother forever? Probably. lawl. He's my first love. I regret the relationship cause it turned south at one point, but I don't regret him. He's a good guy when he puts his right foot forward. :P

However, I feel horrible for the people who are forced into things that they don't want to do.. It's horrible. But honestly, it doesn't make them any less special or significant. and if they find the right someone, they won't care, infact they'll probably want to beat some you know what. :)

I don't think I'm gonna wait till marriage, partly because then I would end up dreading my wedding day a little until it happened. Plus, I've heard sex is good, and have no idea when I'll get married. But hey, at least I made it past high school.

I have 2 kids so the answer is obvious. To all of you who are waiting until you are ready and for the right person, good for you. I was 16 and I do regret it, but at the same time I do not. Later circumstances with said person led me to the other half of my soul. We have been together for 12 years, and we have two beautiful girls.

I've had a lot of sexual abuse in my past since I was a child. The first time I had actual sexual intercourse though, I was 13, which wasn't by choice. Yay for perverts and pedos that like to screw up young girls' lives and minds... Not. -_- Life just got harder after that, I kept choosing the bad men, abusive in ever possible way. It took me 22 years, but I'm glad to have finally gotten out of that pattern and found the man of my dreams who loves me unconditionally, respects me and my wishes, and treats me like a goddess. Love you baby! *smoochies*

Yes... I think you may've been asking girls this question, though... It's far different if you're a guy... Keeping this clean, my first time was around my sophomore year... First boyfriend ever, and, silly me, I thought I loved him. Three weeks later, he dumped me and ran off to Ohio to meet this person he met online. e_e; I was so depressed until I met my current one...and I wouldn't trade him for anything.

Originally Posted by Cyove

I've had a lot of sexual abuse in my past since I was a child. The first time I had actual sexual intercourse though, I was 13, which wasn't by choice. Yay for perverts and pedos that like to screw up young girls' lives and minds... Not. -_- Life just got harder after that, I kept choosing the bad men, abusive in ever possible way. It took me 22 years, but I'm glad to have finally gotten out of that pattern and found the man of my dreams who loves me unconditionally, respects me and my wishes, and treats me like a goddess. Love you baby! *smoochies*

That's horrible! Abuse must have been in the family then..? I can't even believe how much pain you have gone through...but all strength to you. *hugs* I'm happy to hear that you found someone you could trust and love.

I'm married, so yes, but I had sex before I was married also. I did wait till I was 18 though.

I had sex at the age of 18. To my current boyfriend and my first true love.
Even though my mother was disappointed, I don't regret it.
I was ready and so was he. And the plus side - he was also a virgin.
(3 years and still going strong wooo!)

I've had sex.
I've really never held high in being a virgin.
Never saw as being a virgin as something special.
Because it's something we were all born with, everyone is born a virgin. You didn't earn it.

I enjoy sex. I lost it to a good friend.
I do not regret it.

I also did not want to loose it to that "special" someone. Because I've learned that a lot of people who waited for that one person.
But when that person showed their true colors they regretted it.

Nothing against anyone who is still a virgin. That's your choice. I'm not bashing you. I'm just sharing my experiences, and my choices.

I have nothing against with people who are waiting, it was a personal choice that I felt was right for me. Not waiting for a special someone is all.

Yeah.
I haven't been a virgin since my fifteenth birthday.
I lost it to my best friend and I don't regret it at all.
It helped keep things from be awkward when I became more sexually active with my serious boyfriends.

I have, and will continue to do so. :]
I regret giving it away for the reasons I did, but I don't regret to whom I gave it necessarily, or even when I did. [16] I gave it to him because I was afraid of losing him like I had lost my ex, the only man I've ever actually loved. We always did, and probably always will, have a strong chemistry between us, but who knows if we're "meant" for each other. [My ex and I that is lol]
Right now the guy I gave it to is still very much my friend, nothing is awkward between us, and his girlfriend is okay that we still hang out and talk to each other.
As for my ex, he's still with my former best friend. X_x

Complicated Love issues aside; ^^;

I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex, as long as you can answer three questions.
1) Can you imagine yourself, for any reason, regretting the fact that this person will ALWAYS be the person you gave it to? [You can't take it back, and try again, so be sure.]
2) Can you imagine yourself, for any reason, regretting the fact that from this point forward in your life, you will not have the shroud of innocence in your life? [You will be considered old enough to make your decisions in EVERYTHING, if you're "mature" enough to handle this, so be sure you can handle all the responsibilities life has to throw at you as well]
3) Can you imagine yourself, for any reason, regretting this moment if the person you are about to willingly hand this piece of you over to forever suddenly leaves your life, without a trace? [If they're a friend, they could decide it ruined your friendship and leave; If they're a boyfriend, they may have what they want, and leave you.]

IMO, if you're alright with all of those questions, then by all means, move forward, and welcome to the Kinky side of life! ;)

Been there done that. When you love the person it's special.

I'm 18 and I haven't had sex but when I was with my ex-girlfriend there was one time when things got hot and heavy and we almost did something but it was after that I started thinking about my postion on this subject. I probably would do "it" if I ever meet another girl and have the opprutinity but I just think you know what if I get her pergant, it's just that one thought that makes me think if I ever have a chance will I take it or say no thanks. So will I ever have sex?
Not sure.

Did it, loved it, and I usually can't wait to do it again (probably the guy in me talking). Seriously though, if your going to do it, my advice is this. Don't do it unless you can laugh about it later. It was awkward for me the first time and we ended up having a ball and cracking up laughing about how it went down.

Originally Posted by crystalbalde

I'm 18 and I haven't had sex but when I was with my ex-girlfriend there was one time when things got hot and heavy and we almost did something but it was after that I started thinking about my postion on this subject. I probably would do "it" if I ever meet another girl and have the opprutinity but I just think you know what if I get her pergant, it's just that one thought that makes me think if I ever have a chance will I take it or say no thanks. So will I ever have sex?
Not sure.

You can always avoid pregnancy with birthcontrol, so you shouldn't be so afraid of that. Just remember to buy quality condoms! xD

Originally Posted by Erailea

I'm in my early 20's and proud to say I'm a virgin :D

I'm saving sex (any and every form of sex) for marriage or at the very least after I have been with the guy for about three years because at that point you would be very close to them. But that choice will come when I enter a relationship for that long. So for now I'll say, I'm saving it for marriage.

good! ill be proud to say that too! ^^ but im 14, im gonna wait till after college or.. marriage to make sure its with the person i really love