@Oni--I guess I'll have to say, before this turns into a full-blown debate, that no matter what you or anyone else says, I am still not having sex before marriage. With anyone. If I didn't follow God, I would seriously take into consideration what you have been telling me--but the fact of the matter is that I DO love and follow God, and so sex before marriage is a no-no. I'm going to trust that God is going to send me a husband who will not divorce me over our sex life (and vice versa), and that if there ARE problems with our sex life, we will work together to find ways to fix them.

I appreciate your taking time to give me that advice, however; it's made me more determined than ever to DEFINITELY talk with my potential husband about what place sex (and other important issues) are going to have in our potential marriage before we go any further, as well as possible solutions to possible problems, etc. Obviously we won't be able to solve everything beforehand, because life is not that easy, but hopefully it will help some things before they happen.

I've has sex like .... 15 times? Yeah that sounds rite i am only 16 im gonna get married in 10 months though.

Why are you getting married at the age of 16/17? :gonk: That seems like a horrible idea to me. You've got so much time to have single life experiences! You're still a kid pretty much, so I feel like you should go out and experience life instead of tying yourself down at such an early age. You're too young to really know yourself, let alone be in a serious relationship where you're considering getting married. Marriage takes a lot of work, and at the age of 16, one can barely take care of themselves, let alone another person. :/

I'm 28 years old, and I still don't feel ready to take that leap. I'm trying not to follow the path of my divorced parents...

Oni: I've have depression since I got into high school, I'm also bipolar, and I've never been to a doctor to actually get diagnosed. The doctors around here seem a little.... well... not altogether themselves.

Counselors cost money, I have no money because my babies father don't pay child support and I'm on welfare. I live in ohio and I can't find a good job at the moment. Living with my parents isn't doing me any better either, they try to take care of my son as if he is theirs, and I don't have any space. I can't even think clearly because I feel so cramped and stressed.

I really do not know what to do, I have so many responsibilities and my boyfriend is out drinking and smoking everyday. (well he doesn't drink everyday though he does smoke everyday) I don't understand how I can get him to help me, I just want my son to have a father. He hasn't been there this whole time though, he missed his first everything.

Yes, I have had sex. I had sex before I was married, but I think it's great that more and more teens are choosing to wait until they're married. I think it's really important. Or at least practice safe sex anyway. There are so many diseases out there now.. *shakes head* I mean, by all means do what your heart tells you. But make sure you're being responsible at the same time.

Does "sexting" count?

Sexting - The act of cybering and/or sending naughty text messages. This may include images, graphic situations, etc.

Of course, it's not sexual intercourse or touching, but does it count for anything?

I have but only once and I am engaged not that that makes it right

Nope. But I dont really mind. Its not taht important really.
Even though half the population are sluts now.

Originally Posted by Scarling Zombie

Does "sexting" count?

Sexting - The act of cybering and/or sending naughty text messages. This may include images, graphic situations, etc.

Of course, it's not sexual intercourse or touching, but does it count for anything?

Dont count. Sex is Intercourse.

I first had sex when I was 14.
It was not the best decision I've ever made, but I find that guilt tripping myself because I wasn't ready (obviously, I thought I was) doesn't make it magically go away. So I try not to. I really wish I'd saved myself for my current boyfriend, though. We're not married or anything but he means a lot more to me than the idiot I lost my virginity to did. e__e

I wouldn't have waited until marriage either way, though. You have to test drive the car before you buy it... xD

Its seems to me like no matter what any one else says, having sex is all up to you as your own. I was told over and over that sex should be saved until marriage, but I didn't figure that out until I met the right person. Now I wish I could go back, but you can't take it back, you can only change the future. Live life and learn from your mistakes, or other peoples if thats how it works for you.

Originally Posted by MoonLightRaine

Oni: I've have depression since I got into high school, I'm also bipolar, and I've never been to a doctor to actually get diagnosed. The doctors around here seem a little.... well... not altogether themselves.

Counselors cost money, I have no money because my babies father don't pay child support and I'm on welfare. I live in ohio and I can't find a good job at the moment. Living with my parents isn't doing me any better either, they try to take care of my son as if he is theirs, and I don't have any space. I can't even think clearly because I feel so cramped and stressed.

I really do not know what to do, I have so many responsibilities and my boyfriend is out drinking and smoking everyday. (well he doesn't drink everyday though he does smoke everyday) I don't understand how I can get him to help me, I just want my son to have a father. He hasn't been there this whole time though, he missed his first everything.

Have you contacted the local WIC (women, infants and children) program? It seems that you probably could qualify. They have counselors and other services that can help at little to no cost.

My heart goes out to you about the drinking boyfriend. It's very hard to have a partner who doesn't want to take responsibility.

But I personally say that you should just treat it like he's not a part of the picture and let him know that until he cleans up his habits that you do not want him to be around his son because you want your son to grow up and not think that getting drunk and high all the time is the way that people do things.

You should give him a list of things that you want from him behavior wise before you'll let him spend time with your son.

IE: When you're with our child, I want you to be completely sober, when you're with our child, I want you to be respectful and refrain from swearing, etc.

Since you seem to be the more responsible one, you need to put up limits on your child's father's behavior, so that he can learn how to best benefit his son.

I'm very sorry that you are going through these things. :(

Nope, I havn't had sex yet and don't plan to ever have it..

I lost my virginity to a boy I dated for 3 years. we were both virgins. We broke up but we are still friends. My view is, do not sleep with someone unless you actually care for them. sex should be an act originating from the heart, not some vulgar carnal act. for me, i would never let anyone touch me unless i truly cared for them.

Yes, I have had it, I have been engaged three times, 21 in three days and now proudly single, I was not given an option at the very first, but my first consensual time i do not regret, though I believe that relationship ended before things could've gotten so much worse...I try to live life without regrets, but 15 is a young age and experimenting a lot can leave some scars. I admire those of you who plan to wait, but I don't judge you who chose not to. Just look to the future at try to live in the moment for the rest of your life's sake.

I don't think this is a perverted thread, just a curious one and one that I think a lot of people can take advice from. You know, if you are thinking about the future and how you want to go on, this thread could help you see many different points of views...so no shame in being honest!

No, I'm 14, and it'd be way more shocking if I did. O.O;

Yeah, I've had it, but I honestly wish I hadn't. I was just going through a rough phase. Lots of backstabbing frenimies and drama surounded my life in that period.

Originally Posted by Scarling Zombie

Does "sexting" count?

Sexting - The act of cybering and/or sending naughty text messages. This may include images, graphic situations, etc.

Of course, it's not sexual intercourse or touching, but does it count for anything?

I would say no, but that's just my personal opinion. It's very easy for a lot of people to fake emotion through typing, so you can talk dirty without meaning a single word and no one would know the wiser.

Can't say my school is full of a BUNCH of creepers, but they're all huge "blabbermouths". But yes I have had sex, it was someone i went out with for...i think 9 months or so. No one from my school thank gawd.

Yes I have.
I actually had some this afternoon. It was fun. xD Great stress reliever for me. :heart:
I'm 18 years old and unmarried and we use protection.

It's a personal choice, kudos to those that haven't. Kudos to those that have.
I happen to like it, and I'm careful about it, so I don't feel bad for doing it.
I also feel that if anything happened--I am mature enough to make the right decisions.

yes i have, though if i had the choice i would have waited a few more years and decided when myself. but right now i'm trying the whole celibate thing. i'm sick of being viewed as a sex symbol so i'm trying to find out who really cares and who just wants to get lucky ^_^

Originally Posted by Scarling Zombie

Does "sexting" count?

Sexting - The act of cybering and/or sending naughty text messages. This may include images, graphic situations, etc.

Of course, it's not sexual intercourse or touching, but does it count for anything?

i would say no, sex is defined as 2 people being physically intimate. what you're talking about is more teasing and forplay which is not sex.

i havent

I'm almost 21 and I didn't start sleeping with anyone till last Thanksgiving with my current bf. And I'm glad I waited till I was out of high school cuz one of my high school bfs was a real jerk (to say the least) and he was always pushing me about it. And then my last bf wanted to save it for marriage, but I didn't really want to. For me it was a piece of me (my virginity) that could only be given once, and ya never know if you're gonna end up hating your spouse after marriage and getting a divorce. I would rather have never married the guy and still be on speaking terms with him than divorced and hating each others guts.

No I haven't. I nearly did it.. but I just felt he wasn't the one for me. So I'm glad I didn't do it. I'm waiting for the right person, where I have a special feeling with. :)

I'm still with my first. A lot of people think I had sex before him, but I didn't (since my ex -loved- so spread such wonderful rumors. People believe the big football jock over me, of course). We got intimate when I was 15, just turning 16, and we didn't have intercourse until I was 17. It was, however, the most perfect and most beautiful moment of my entire life and I will -never- regret it, even if we don't work out someday. I didn't save it, but I will never regret losing it to him. He made it perfect.

The only thing I regret though, is that he was with 3 other girls before me. Him being much older, of course it was expected. In the end, though, I guess his experience helped him because he knew what he was doing and I wasn't nervous at all because of that.

I'm rambling. In short, yes I've had sex and yes I was INCREDIBLY young. But in the end, it worked for me <3 And though he was with others before me which does irritate me, I do take pride in being the best ;)

Nope.

I haven't found anyone where the desire to have sex was mutual. I'm not saving it for marriage, exactly, but someone I won't regret having sex with.

I just like being honest, not rationalizing and saying I'm waiting, as some people do. I'm not, it's just no one wants to have sex with me who isn't a creep.

i sure havent and i coudnt imagine doing the doo (lolz) wiht ANYONE at my school.there a bunch of clowns and most of the idiots here are users when it comes to that. i have alot of really good guy freinds at my school though so there arent complete jerks ^^