i am no longer one but i did save it till i found someone i knew wouldn't blow it off like it was no big deal and i am still with him to this day i love him so much and we even got an engagement ring but we are going to wait till we been together a year before he really asks me to marry him.

Even though I want the experience, I'm waiting till marriage. Now finding a guy who understands and respects that is hard. But, apparently I have a guy that claims to respect my decision to wait. Just hope he doesn't run off. x.x

I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex. I think you should be....not necessarily proud...but you shouldn't feel bad if you've had sex. Abstinence is cool and everything, but people make it seem like if you're not a virgin...you are worthless. I think we need to be more open about this and make GOOD decisions so that we don't look back and regret what we've done. I'm not sure if I should have waited till marriage. I didn't and I don't feel bad about it....I did it with a guy that I am in love with and I think it's a different level of intimacy that people should experience.

I started at 15, which is a terrible age to start. I don't regret it, but I would wait if I could start over again. Sex makes you stupid when you're that young.

Nope, not that I'm saving it for marriage or anything.
Just bad luck with girls :sad:

Originally Posted by darkwingedfaerie

I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex. I think you should be....not necessarily proud...but you shouldn't feel bad if you've had sex. Abstinence is cool and everything, but people make it seem like if you're not a virgin...you are worthless. I think we need to be more open about this and make GOOD decisions so that we don't look back and regret what we've done. I'm not sure if I should have waited till marriage. I didn't and I don't feel bad about it....I did it with a guy that I am in love with and I think it's a different level of intimacy that people should experience.

I love you for writing this. I think when to have sex is a personal decision, and as long as you feel it is the right time, then you shouldn't be looked down on for it. However, I think there are definitely times when sex is totally the wrong thing to do. You need to make sure you're ready for that level of intimacy before you go charging into it. Sex makes you incredibly vulnerable.

I am now, hopelessly, addicted to it.
I don't think it feels good; it makes me sick that a person is so close to me physically. I practically have to have an out of body experience with it.
The problem is, I've used it as getting close emotionally to somebody. Sex has always equaled love in all of my relationships. It makes me feel pretty reguardless of how I feel about myself. It's horrible. I know I use it as substitution or a way to escape. I can't help it. It usually gets really bad after a breakup. I don't care about names or faces after that point. I need to be close. I've had, probably, five pregnancy scares and have been tested for HIV twice. ((This isn't a horror story, it's a warning.))

If you are going to have sex, be comfortable with yourself emotionally and physically. Know yourself inside and out. It's something used for repopulation, not as an escape from the mondane. It never helps you get over the one you love. Think before you get naked.

I'm still a virgin because I haven't met anyone I want to share that experience with yet. I don't think I'll wait until marriage though because it isn't out of religion but rather personal choice. :)

Not yet. Not until I meet my wiiife. <33

I have. To be honest, It was nothing special to me. I really liked the guy... The only problem was that we could never do it in a bed or something like that.. But I'm picky. I've decieded to wait longer for the next one.

That's my advice. Wait awhile in a relationship, otherwise it becomes an issue early on.

Saving it for marriage (religious reasons), though sometimes I'm unsure if I even want to get married because of the expectations that come with it. I haven't even had my first kiss yet and I'm nineteen. Sometimes it depresses me and I wonder if I'll be a virgin forever, but other times I feel as though it's the only way to go.

i have but i regret it and havent dated since either lol *shivers* i say NO to relationships period after that experience lol ( its been 4 1/2 yrs now !)

I haven't had sex yet. I'm not really waiting for marriage, but waiting for that special guy. I don't want to lose my virginity to just some guy who I date for awhile, and end up having the relationship soon after. After all your only a virgin once, so I think its best to wait to have sex. Either for that special guy or marriage.

I'm almost 25, had sex the first time when I was 18.

It wasn't enjoyable, so I'm glad it was with someone I didn't actually care for. I don't think I'd want to associate something bad like that with someone I loved.

/heartless

I am 24 and yes, I have had sex. I am married and am on my second child now.
No, I did not wait for marriage, even though I wanted to. When you are told by your sisters and so-called friends that you are to fat and ugly to get married so you will always be a virgin and your father says that he is going to take you to Hawaii so they can sacrifice you there, it gets to your head and you take the first opportunity you have to do it. No it wasn't just with any guy, it was actually a friend who was also a virgin and I was 20 years old.

I'm personally saving myself for marriage. Also, while it might sound cheesy, abstinence is the only 100% way of avoiding STDs and unplanned pregnancies so that's always a plus.

I haven't even had any real temptations either. I went to a small high school where my class had 25 people that you were with all four years of school (the school as a whole was just a little over 100 students). By that point you kind of viewed each other as siblings and we always would jokingly tell the younger students not to date within their advisories (classes) because it was like incest.

I'm 19 and a virgin still only because I am having physical medical issues that make it difficult.
Trying not to be nasty here just honest >.>

I haven't and I doubt I would. I wouldn't want to do any of the people at my school. I mean, there are some kids that are good people but half of the people their are just disgusting. Whenever I am in my first period class and the football player are there I get paranoid. They could be crawling with disease I rather not have any. So when they leave and I go inside I just get a tissue paper and just wipe my desk clean. I hate it because it stinks and there is like some unknown liquid on my desk and so I have to wipe it, fear of catching anything disgusting. Also kids at my school go to clubs, rave parties, strip clubs and pretty much the usual thing kids do to experience fun in the night life. =/

I'm 22 and I first had sex when I was 18. It was on a vacation to visit my boyfriend at the time... and really was not pleasant at all. No fault of his, it was just ridiculous uncomfortable.

Now I'm married and am finding the whole ordeal much more pleasant to say the least. :boogie:

Originally Posted by jaeebird.

Saving it for marriage (religious reasons), though sometimes I'm unsure if I even want to get married because of the expectations that come with it. I haven't even had my first kiss yet and I'm nineteen. Sometimes it depresses me and I wonder if I'll be a virgin forever, but other times I feel as though it's the only way to go.

One of my best collage friends is the same only she is 20 and she just wants to be in love with the person, she doesn’t have to be married. Just thought I would add that because sometimes it gets her down that she hasn’t been kissed yet and I wanted to say hey you’re not the only one.

Anyway, I am no longer a virgin a couple of times over. I don’t really regret anything in my life so I don’t regret having sex either, I was 14. Young I know but there were circumstance.

Well, this thread is very interesting to say the least. I find it quite fascinating to see that most of the people who vote haven't.(at that the time of posting) It might be an age thing though...
No, I haven't done it yet. I've got hands haven't I?
Not trying to be perverted or anything, just saying. Pleasure is pretty much guaranteed that way. For all involved.;)

Not Yet.
Maybe In A Few Years xDDDDDDDDD

Originally Posted by Sparklypoo

Oh, I hadn't. and I'm 15...what where I live is absurd. And I never had a boyfriend,and no,no first kiss yet.
Here I'm seen as an alien xD
Specially because I want just serious relationships and just kiss people that I know very well,and that I REALLY LOVE...(what makes everyone see me more stranger!)

The marriage question? Hm... I'm not planning on getting married...

You are the first person who hit my opinion on the nail.
I'm 15 soon, I haven't kissed anyone in my life (i'm still innocent :3)

I dont want to get married, and I want a serious relationship.. I feel I'm
only going to get that when I'm older.. highschool is the wrong place
to look for serious relationships, that's what I think.

Interesting. Well, I am 19 and lost it when I was about 15 years old. Not to stand on a righteous pillar or anything, but I think waiting until after marriage is something I don't think people have thought out, honestly. Marriage is something that is supposedly forever, and I think the two people should figure out everything before they make that commitment. You get married and find out that he is bad in the sack - well you are stuck with him forever (or until a divorce). You realize a year into your marriage that you like something in the bedroom that he/she doesn't - and so on and so forth. Sex is a form of communication. When words fail (everyone has their fights or dry spells, at one point or another, end of story) sex will make up that communication.

Blah blah, my two cents.

I had sex and regret it..It was with a girl who just wanted my body then left me...