hmm.. i don`t agree in arrange marriage.. its like your being held in the neck already and is not free.. :(

It's true.:vicky:

Sometimes, there is a real benefit from arranged marriages. If it is not done carelessly or for the wrong reasons, sometimes parents can be far more wise and sage than youth blinded by love and desire. There are some cases where arranged marriages turn out to be the best thing for the couple. Granted there's a lot of light shed on only the incorrect ones.

But consider, in the US the divorce rate is at an alarming rate and these are almost all self-chosen marriages. Is it possible that if there was more parental input that the divorce rate might not be so staggering?

No problem! And yes, they are all pretty much the same at the core, they just express themselves differently. :angel:

I know alot of people are all rage and disagreement against this because, in today's world, the phrase "arranged marriage" is often uttered with dread, sarcasm or negativity. When I was little, I had an Aunty from the middle east who had an arranged marriage, and she has been with my Uncle for much longer than anyone I know who has chosen who they married. Her parents obviously loved her and cared about her and made sure that she ended up with a sensible, nice, hardworking man. I think that if people looked less at stories and more at real people, they'd see a whole lot more happy endings.

Thanks Ms. Lunkinspades about sharing your idea. I am not sure whether if it is possible, if there is a parental input, then the divorce thing in US would be lessen. You kinda give me some idea on the other side about this.

In our culture or tradition, which arrange marriage take place, both parties cannot do that so easily, about divorce thing?, cause there are so many things attached that is needed to be considered before having that divorce thing. First and foremost, the marriage were not planned by them. The two marriage couple should think of that idea, that if they're going to break off their marriage, then there will be a possibility that both parents might have a misunderstanding and leads to unpleasant scenery. Secondly, the marriage things in our culture, is not only about you two nor your parents, this also includes the whole family or clan as a whole. Thirdly, before marriage take place in both persons, female and male, the male is obliged to give a dowry to a girl, depending on the family had set. So, it's kinda wasting money if they are going to break off that marriage easily. Fourth, this is the most important, the children. The children will be highly affected when both parties would like to go on a separate ways. Where in , children, are highly important to us.

I don't know if this kind of tradition in ours, will be much applicable in some other the country to avoid the spreading disease of divorce.:rawrmayor:
:vicky:

Zivvy already stated what I wanted to say.

i don't.. people should be free to choose who they want to spend their life with.. someone they really love.. :)