I call everyone Hon. It's in grained in me. Mom called everyone hon, it's like taught or something.

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How do you greet / refer to others online?

I make up a unique nickname for them, or just call them their name.

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Do you find it degrading to be called 'Darling', 'Honey', etc?

No. My sister does it, and just about all the girls that work at the local Sobeys here call everyone "Honey"

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It's just a name, don't know why it would bother people xD but what odds. If someone has a problem with a name they should just say. Then you can avoid calling them it again. No point completely changing something you do for everyone.

some times if you use Darling, Babe, or Dear it sends the wrong impression. To me at least. I've always heard those used as terms of intimate affection rather than platonicly

Honestly, Ive had almost all the names in the book thrown my way. It doesnt bother me when anyone uses Darling/Hun/Babe/etc. Though, normally they are associated with affection, so being the over-thinker I am, I end up over thinking stuff, and reading too into it.

I would only say hun, honey, darling, etc with my significant other. I call my friends by their names, or nicknames. Whichever they prefer saying I'll call them that. But I would probably feel odd if someone said that to me. But I probably wouldn't mind being called hun, seeing as an old friend used to say that to me. But my friends already have an array of names for me -3-. My best friend started to call me Lady when she didn't know how to pronounce with pen name (my user name fyi). And that stuck to me. And I usually laugh whenever she calls me that XD. But I'll go by Laila, Lady, or just my first FULL name (I hate little nicknames made from my first name).

When people use darling/hon/honey/etc. to me, it makes me think twice. Girls often think of it as a friendly term (I guess) and men often view it as intimate affection. They always look at me weird when I ask them why they called me that. I mean I can understand if I got close, but it makes me think I'm closer to them than I actually feel that I am.

In that sense, it might be overly complimentary to be using those words on friendly terms.

But that's jut a guess. If people feel like calling me that, then I let them. But sometimes it comes out of nowhere and throws me for a loop.

I don't entirely like it when people call me names like 'Darling, or Hon etc.' I myself view that as something you'd call someone if you were close/intimate with them.

It makes me feel a little awkward when someone else uses things like that to address me. I've never been able to get close enough to a person to actually feel as if being called 'Darling' by them is okay.

But, I guess that's because I'm rather antisocial?
People scare me, and I scare people, which is why we tend to stray away from eachother.

I'm currently working on trying to become more social, but. It doesn't seem to help when I'm called 'Honey' by people I considor as complete strangers. It just throws me all out of whack.

I feel very uncomfortable whenever anyone Calls me 'Darling', 'Hun' or 'Babe'. To me they are used for people you love, not for people you've only just met and don't even know how they look >.>
In real life, if anyone called me 'Hun' or 'Babe' I would probably start walking in the other direction very fast o___o;

i used to hate when my boyfriend called me "babe" still find it slightly irritating but i ignore it. i actually like "baby" more for some reason. :yes: it sounds nicer. babe is more....overused?

i only call my close female friends sweety or hun.

i would much rather call others beautiful, handsome, cutie, etc. you know, make 'em feel special =3

Online, I usually call someone by their whole username.
After we've been talking for a while I start using an abbreviated form of their username, and then if we're buds I use a nickname.
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In real life...I just call people by their names.
If you go by a middle name or a nickname I'll use that.
But I usually call everyone by first name.


In a relationship I'd probably use bae. I dunno, it sounds sweet/tender to me.

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If someone that doesn't know me starts calling me darling, right off the bat, I find it disturbing.
And if someone that doesn't know me calls me hun, it would probably come off as condescending to me, which would probably piss me off.
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That's weird! I say honey, darling and babe to my friends irl, but they know I mean it sarcastically. Or, you know, just to call them something. I wouldn't ever do it online, though. O:

I say "sweetie" a lot to others online.

I dislike it only when it comes from certain people. Online i tend to find it a little partonising unless you know the person. I don't use pet terms like that online or in real life very often at all. I usually just address people by their name or nickname, if there is one and they prefer that.

- How do you greet / refer to others online?

I usually just call them some variation of their screen name. Sometimes I'll call people dude, just because I do it in real life, too, regardless of gender. I type how I talk, so that's how it's gonna come out.

- Do you find it degrading to be called 'Darling', 'Honey', etc?

I grew up in the South. I don't even understand how it could be degrading. I think it's sweet. It's exactly because the terms are "personal" that it's so sweet.

I don't see how it could be degrading, but I guess people are raised differently.

I HATE it when someone called me honey, darling, or hon
it makes it seem like their trying to act all maturish and like put people down. like their all superior or something. it honestly pisses me off

Hm, I guess I can understand where you are coming from but most of the time, I think they are just trying to be polite.

@lolipoper -- I don't know what kind of people you've been dealing with, but most of the people (and it's almost always women) where I'm from who use those words are just the type of people who are motherly. I actually feel more comfortable dealing with those types. It's not coming from a place of superiority; it's coming from a place of caring. Of course, there are people who use the terms sarcastically, but you can always hear it in their voice (or read it in the context of the words) when they're just being rude.

I either call people by their full username, or a little nickname that I made out of it.
But I hate when people want to nickname me Arse.
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There are some nicknames that I prefer such as Seni (my favorite one), Atti, cAt-chan, Arsen, Sen, etc.

Wow, I call everyone hon! Depends on my mood. Most people I know online have their won nicknames, so I usually use those XD Oh, and my calls me cocodrila and patitas de flamingo, which can be so annoying! Also, I get excited to be called by my real name and not the usual variety of mispronunciations I usually get XP

I think I'd get annoyed if someone called me any of those, LOL. I'm not sure what it is about them, but they give me the impression of being talked down to. Especially if it's coming from a stranger, or someone you don't know really well. It might depend on the context it's used in though. I wouldn't ever call anyone by any of those, and no one really calls me by them either, thankfully. I have noticed people using words like that online on forums before when talking to other people, and it strikes me as kind of odd. >_<

Hey babe.

If it's a person I like, they can call me hun, honey, darling, babe, etc. But if it's someone I don't like it makes me angry. I won't say anything to them, but in my head I'll be like 'I'm not your honey/darling/babe/etc.'. I call some people that at times, mostly when if they come to me for advice, or I give advice to them.

I use to not like it when people would use those pet names. Sounds patronizing although I know that it is usually not meant that way. I have gotten use to it now and it doesn't really bother me anymore. I find being called honey funny because my name is amber.(sap->honey) XD

I tend to call people by their names, or by 'chickadee' 'dude' 'you' or 'stupid'

Depending on how they act.


I don't care if someone calls me 'honey' or baby'
Because I find them to be terms of endearment.

Especially if you know the origins of 'baby' xD