I'm getting married in less than 2 weeks and am extremely excited.

How many other Menewshans are married/engaged?

If you're engaged, what are your plans?
(dress, special location, theme, etc...)


We're having ours in Las Vegas in the Stratosphere at sunset. It's sort of an off-beat wedding as far as style goes. (I'll post pictures eventually to show what I mean) Our reception is going to by zombie influenced with cheesy wedding favors. (batman bags for boys, hello kitty for girls) Our cake topper is a zombie bride and groom and our cake will be red velvet. I'm so excited. ^-^

Okay...here's a pic of my "dress". It looks much better in person. All parts handmade by Etsy sellers except for the shoes. (those are Iron Fist)

awwww. live happily ever after! :)

How sweet! I hope everything goes well for you. (:

I'm neither engaged nor married; I'm only graduating high school this year! I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. We'll see how that goes in the future, I guess! (:

I'm engaged. Getting married in January.

We're not having a wedding; we're having a life celebration that lasts for three days.

Our first day will be a party with friends. Since I will have just graduated with my first degree, it will be our "last night of singledom," my graduation party, and his "omg this is the last semester until I graduate!" party. If I have a job lined up by then, it will also serve as my job keg. At the party, all female guests will wear white, and male guests will wear black. My fiance and I will be wearing very vibrant, saturated colors. Right now it looks like we'll be wearing aqua, but it's contingent on the dress I pick out for the occasion. I'll be wearing a tea-length prom or homecoming dress. There will be lots of tulle involved. The music for the party is going to be courteously DJ'd by the radio station I work at, with the equipment from the light and sound organization that my fiance works at. We'll have a cash bar, because I'm too poor to pay for alcohol for so many people.

Our second day will be our meeting with the Justice of the Peace to actually get married. We'll recover from our hangovers and prepare for the reception the next day. I'll get to wear a tshirt and jeans to my "wedding," yeah!

The final day will be a dinner reception with family. We'll have a slideshow with pictures and the like. Oh, and cheesecake. No wedding cake. It's expensive and tastes horrid. Since our families are from across the state (quite literally at opposite ends), it'll be a chance for them to finally meet each other. It will likely be the only time they're together in one place like that. We're renting out the clubhouse up the street from where my dad lives. It's kinda small, but our house won't fit everyone.

The following weekend is a 3-day weekend (Hubby will have had his first week of school that week), when we'll take our honeymoon, if we can afford one.

All of this is being organized via Facebook.

So we won't have:
A wedding ceremony (we're not particularly religious)
A wedding party (no groomsmen or bridesmaids)
A wedding dress or tux
A "wedding cake"
An expensive photographer
Flowers
Table toppers
Favors
Wedding invitations
Save the date cards
A honeymoon (possibly)
Hair/Makeup appointments
Dress fittings
Monogrammed anything
A cake topper
A wedding planner ($$$!!!)

The only thing we expect to spend money on is catering for the family reception, the clubhouse rental fee, and a venue rental for the friends party. We can't really afford anything else.

We've already saved a lot of money by not having an engagement party, and by not buying "engagement rings" (my ring is a "promise ring"--if you slap the word "engagement" onto a ring, it tends to inflate the price by a few thousand dollars for no real reason). We also didn't send out engagement announcements or take engagement photos. My fiance doesn't even have a ring.

I'm not keen on the wedding industry. Put the word "wedding" next to something, and it gets absurdly priced. Wedding cake, wedding dress, wedding favors, wedding invites. I've made better cakes than I've had at weddings, I've found very nice white formal dresses (even bridesmaid dresses!) that would be suitable and cost a fraction of a wedding dress, and what makes wedding favors and invites so much better than regular favors or invites?

It took me a long, long time to figure all of this out. When thinking of ways to try to make my wedding unique, I realized that no one really cares about any of them. If I wear a white dress and a veil, no one is going to remember much about what I looked like except me. If I pick roses instead of calla lillies, no one is going to care except me. And if my cake is white and has three tiers, no one is going to remember what it tastes like except me. If I pick pastor Bill over pastor Phil, no one is going to remember what he said except me.

But, if I throw out all of those superficial things, and focus on what's truly important to me (friends and family being together to celebrate the union of me and my husband-to-be), then people will remember the brightly-colored dress I wore, the cheesecake at the reception, the slideshow, the radical dancing, and gosh darnit, how much fun they had! I won't need a photographer to help me remember these things; I'll have all the people who were there to remind me (plus they'll be taking their own photos; they might not be professional-quality, but who cares? I'll know what they liked by the photos they took, and they'll be all over Facebook!)

/rant

So yeah. I think that's about as off-beat as it gets, short of eloping altogether.

Congrats! I've been married twice, but the first one was horrific. Never marry a redneck, otherwise you run the risk of pointing in the general direction of you would be father in law to let the preacher know who he is only to turn around and see him knocking back a bottle of homemade wine. Or have your new mother in law give you the gift of kicking your abusive ex boyfriends ass as a wedding present (okay, that was kinda fun). The second wedding was moved up by a year as I found out we were expecting and the hubbies family is chock full of very strict Catholic's. We ended up getting married in the blizzard of the decade (4+ feet of snow in one weekend!) and I'm still not sure how we pulled it off. I couldn't have asked for prettier weather though. The snow was beautiful!

I got married on April the 17th. We didn't have very much money to play with as we would have liked. Though, we pulled it off. A friend of my husbands let us use their bar for the ceremony, a family member was the preacher. We basically had a Gothic wedding, everyone was dressed in red and black. We wrote our own vows (that was scary and a headache, but totally worth it) and since my dad passed away four years back my mom gave me away. We didn't have a huge cake, but we had a little sheet cake with a coffin on top. It was really cool and unique.

On our one year mark, we are either going to get re-married on the beach or at Renn Fest. We haven't made up our minds yet. Then again, since my husband is in the Navy, that decision might be made up for us. meaning, we'd have to do the beach. But, the marriage is going very well. I'm just going to have to get use to moving a lot and him being gone for months on end.

I was engaged once, but he cheated on me before we even started planning the wedding. Fail.
I think the zombie idea is super awesome. I want a geeky informal wedding...if I had my way I'd be wearing a sundress made of white duct tape and would sprint down the aisile, hand in hand with my betrothed, to Green Day's 'Hearts Collide' (nobody owns me, so nobody's going to be giving me away). Afeter the ceremony I'd like to have a mosh pit crowdsurf us to the location of the reception. Favors and invites would be handmade by me, as I wouldn't want a crowd of a thousand at my wedding. Just very close friends and the family I still talk to.
...My boyfriend's a strict Catholic and says his dream wedding involves a three-hour ceremony with full Mass included, and the bride & groom riding horses from opposite ends of the street in the traditional style & dress of rich, snotty Rennaissance-era people to enter the church. :sweat: He's a history major. I'm a Celtic Reconstructionist Pagan, tech support spec/web designer studying to be a veterinarian. The only thing I'd agree to is the horses. LOL

I just saw an old friend today and she told me she was getting married in 17 days, and that made me really happy. I've never really known anyone who's getting married, so it was a cool conversation.
Congratulations on yours though. Is it going to be big?

Originally Posted by Nissa

The second wedding was moved up by a year as I found out we were expecting and the hubbies family is chock full of very strict Catholic's.

OMG, that reminds me of the phone call my fiance made to his dad after I had said yes.

"Hey dad... uh... I'm engaged."

"Oh! Is she pregnant or something?"

".... no. No, we're getting married because we love each other."

"Oh. Okay. Good luck."

~_~

(mind you, he proposed to me after having dated for 3 years, so it's not like it's something we're rushing in to)

Congratualations! =)
No, I'm not married, nor engaged, we shall see someday though......

Congrats to everyone in this thread who is married/engaged.

Originally Posted by Keyori

I'm engaged. Getting married in January.

We're not having a wedding; we're having a life celebration that lasts for three days.

Our first day will be a party with friends. Since I will have just graduated with my first degree, it will be our "last night of singledom," my graduation party, and his "omg this is the last semester until I graduate!" party. If I have a job lined up by then, it will also serve as my job keg. At the party, all female guests will wear white, and male guests will wear black. My fiance and I will be wearing very vibrant, saturated colors. Right now it looks like we'll be wearing aqua, but it's contingent on the dress I pick out for the occasion. I'll be wearing a tea-length prom or homecoming dress. There will be lots of tulle involved. The music for the party is going to be courteously DJ'd by the radio station I work at, with the equipment from the light and sound organization that my fiance works at. We'll have a cash bar, because I'm too poor to pay for alcohol for so many people.

Our second day will be our meeting with the Justice of the Peace to actually get married. We'll recover from our hangovers and prepare for the reception the next day. I'll get to wear a tshirt and jeans to my "wedding," yeah!

The final day will be a dinner reception with family. We'll have a slideshow with pictures and the like. Oh, and cheesecake. No wedding cake. It's expensive and tastes horrid. Since our families are from across the state (quite literally at opposite ends), it'll be a chance for them to finally meet each other. It will likely be the only time they're together in one place like that. We're renting out the clubhouse up the street from where my dad lives. It's kinda small, but our house won't fit everyone.

The following weekend is a 3-day weekend (Hubby will have had his first week of school that week), when we'll take our honeymoon, if we can afford one.

All of this is being organized via Facebook.

So we won't have:
A wedding ceremony (we're not particularly religious)
A wedding party (no groomsmen or bridesmaids)
A wedding dress or tux
A "wedding cake"
An expensive photographer
Flowers
Table toppers
Favors
Wedding invitations
Save the date cards
A honeymoon (possibly)
Hair/Makeup appointments
Dress fittings
Monogrammed anything
A cake topper
A wedding planner ($$$!!!)

The only thing we expect to spend money on is catering for the family reception, the clubhouse rental fee, and a venue rental for the friends party. We can't really afford anything else.

We've already saved a lot of money by not having an engagement party, and by not buying "engagement rings" (my ring is a "promise ring"--if you slap the word "engagement" onto a ring, it tends to inflate the price by a few thousand dollars for no real reason). We also didn't send out engagement announcements or take engagement photos. My fiance doesn't even have a ring.

I'm not keen on the wedding industry. Put the word "wedding" next to something, and it gets absurdly priced. Wedding cake, wedding dress, wedding favors, wedding invites. I've made better cakes than I've had at weddings, I've found very nice white formal dresses (even bridesmaid dresses!) that would be suitable and cost a fraction of a wedding dress, and what makes wedding favors and invites so much better than regular favors or invites?

It took me a long, long time to figure all of this out. When thinking of ways to try to make my wedding unique, I realized that no one really cares about any of them. If I wear a white dress and a veil, no one is going to remember much about what I looked like except me. If I pick roses instead of calla lillies, no one is going to care except me. And if my cake is white and has three tiers, no one is going to remember what it tastes like except me. If I pick pastor Bill over pastor Phil, no one is going to remember what he said except me.

But, if I throw out all of those superficial things, and focus on what's truly important to me (friends and family being together to celebrate the union of me and my husband-to-be), then people will remember the brightly-colored dress I wore, the cheesecake at the reception, the slideshow, the radical dancing, and gosh darnit, how much fun they had! I won't need a photographer to help me remember these things; I'll have all the people who were there to remind me (plus they'll be taking their own photos; they might not be professional-quality, but who cares? I'll know what they liked by the photos they took, and they'll be all over Facebook!)

/rant

So yeah. I think that's about as off-beat as it gets, short of eloping altogether.

Our wedding isn't going to be huge at all. I think there will be around 20 or so people. The cake actually wasn't expensive at all, only $130. (considering that it's red velvet and gluten free, that's not bad at all) It's also made by an individual girl out there, not just some faceless company. The reception is around $500 which is also pretty well priced. (it's a mexican restaurant, my bf's fave) The actual ceremony isn't really going to be a huge thing. We're not remotely religious, so it will be a civil ceremony. The time allotted is only like 30 minutes I think. I didn't pick out any flowers, because I don't care. (the Stratosphere provides some for you anyways) My "wedding dress" isn't even a dress and isn't actually meant for weddings. I just found pieces I liked to put together. As for the favors, I'm using regular party favors. I didn't see the point in spending stupid amounts of money on actual wedding favors. I also made our invites myself, so I saved a lot of money there. I mean...I really don't think our wedding contributed much to the "industry". I think as long as you're happy with what you're getting, that's all that really matters. Oh yeah, and I'm not paying for a pro photographer...but I am getting one for free. I'm lucky enough to be related to one.

Congratulations! I love your dress! It's absolutely gorgeous. :3 Heck, I would wear it on a normal day. Sans the tulle, of course. XD

Congratulations!
It sounds like it'll be a lot of fun. And that dress is amazing!
I always prefer it when people have weddings with more character, something that really represent their personalities.

I got married 3 years ago. I guess it was kind of a mix between traditional and non-traditional.
Our theme was "A Midsummer Night's Dream", because that play holds special significance for us, so the bridesmaids and I had renaissance-inspired dresses and everything was kind of nature/whimsy themed.
We had daffodils for the flowers, which were absolutely everywhere, because they're my favourites, and our wedding colours were white and apple green.
We got married in a church, mainly out of respect for our religious families, but the ceremony was strictly non-religious (no hymns, no bible readings, no prayers etc) it was centered pretty much around music, that was performed by a few of our particularly talented friends and family members.

My husband and I really don't like forced formality, so we kept the reception very informal. No order of events, no speeches, no seating plan etc. Everyone just sort of milled around in the pretty gardens outside, and ate and talked with everyone.

And we picked our photographer based upon the fact that he'd worked with Jimi Hendrix back in the day, and once set his trousers on fire! XD

Congrats, the dress is..interesting. My boyfriend and I have been together for pretty much a year, but we're absolutely crazy about each other. I know we'll get married when we are both ready for it. The kind of wedding I want is like...a fantasy-type wedding. You know, carraige pulled by white horses, doves, rice being thrown.....the kind of dress I want is something like Belle from Beauty and the Beast, except in baby blue or snow white.

Originally Posted by Katurine

Congratulations! I love your dress! It's absolutely gorgeous. :3 Heck, I would wear it on a normal day. Sans the tulle, of course. XD

Haha Thanks! Yeah, I'll probably wear the black and white dress part again later. The tulle part is a bit too fancy for a regular day. It will probably be used for photoshoots though.

Originally Posted by Cherish

Congratulations!
It sounds like it'll be a lot of fun. And that dress is amazing!
I always prefer it when people have weddings with more character, something that really represent their personalities.

I got married 3 years ago. I guess it was kind of a mix between traditional and non-traditional.
Our theme was "A Midsummer Night's Dream", because that play holds special significance for us, so the bridesmaids and I had renaissance-inspired dresses and everything was kind of nature/whimsy themed.
We had daffodils for the flowers, which were absolutely everywhere, because they're my favourites, and our wedding colours were white and apple green.
We got married in a church, mainly out of respect for our religious families, but the ceremony was strictly non-religious (no hymns, no bible readings, no prayers etc) it was centered pretty much around music, that was performed by a few of our particularly talented friends and family members.

My husband and I really don't like forced formality, so we kept the reception very informal. No order of events, no speeches, no seating plan etc. Everyone just sort of milled around in the pretty gardens outside, and ate and talked with everyone.

And we picked our photographer based upon the fact that he'd worked with Jimi Hendrix back in the day, and once set his trousers on fire! XD

That is such a cute theme. We really didn't pick a theme for our wedding, mostly because it was in Vegas. If it had been up to me, we would have had a Star Wars wedding at this one chapel there. Darth Vader is the minister. That would have been exciting, but my fiance hates Star Wars. It's sad.

Originally Posted by PrincessBane

Congrats, the dress is..interesting. My boyfriend and I have been together for pretty much a year, but we're absolutely crazy about each other. I know we'll get married when we are both ready for it. The kind of wedding I want is like...a fantasy-type wedding. You know, carraige pulled by white horses, doves, rice being thrown.....the kind of dress I want is something like Belle from Beauty and the Beast, except in baby blue or snow white.

That sounds pretty.

Haha You actually can't see the entire dress in the picture. There's a train as well, but it's being blocked by the tulle. I actually didn't have it on right...just a quick try on to make sure everything matched well with my new hair and everything. You will actually be able to see the train much better when I have it on right.

Darth Vader as the minister? Now THAT sounds cool! XD I'm not into Star Wars, but heck, DARTH VADER is awesome! :D You know who would be totally awesome as the minister? Cthulhu! :D Or At least Davey Jones from Pirates of the Caribbean. :3

that's such a pretty dress, I would wear it if I had the legs for it ^^; but congratulations :3 your wedding sounds like it would be very enjoyable to attend :3
I'm not engaged or married, I'm very single, but that might change in the near future :crosses fingers: I hope to get married someday, and be a good mom

Originally Posted by Katurine

Darth Vader as the minister? Now THAT sounds cool! XD I'm not into Star Wars, but heck, DARTH VADER is awesome! :D You know who would be totally awesome as the minister? Cthulhu! :D Or At least Davey Jones from Pirates of the Caribbean. :3

lol Cthulhu, that would be something to see.

Originally Posted by xnozomichanx

that's such a pretty dress, I would wear it if I had the legs for it ^^; but congratulations :3 your wedding sounds like it would be very enjoyable to attend :3
I'm not engaged or married, I'm very single, but that might change in the near future :crosses fingers: I hope to get married someday, and be a good mom

Aww...I'm sure you will when the time is right. I did mine in the reverse order, but I wouldn't change a thing.

Originally Posted by xnozomichanx

that's such a pretty dress, I would wear it if I had the legs for it ^^;

My sentiments exactly! I really don't have the body to pull it off, but it looks fabulous! XD

I am engaged, but I told people for the longest time we were just dating on account of the fact that I got so embarrassed when they would ask me when the wedding date was and I wouldn't have one in mind since we hadn't decided on it. :<

But he finally--finally!--made a decision! We will be getting married next summer. Although, I am still holding my breath until he puts money down on the ceremony/reception site!

He told me he wanted a wedding unlike one that he has ever been to. Tall order for me since we're not getting a planner! He is pagan but doesn't practice (I am agnostic) so he wants it on the full moon and at night after moonrise(of course!). But he wants to wear a traditional Japanese wedding attire and an overall Asian (mix of Japanese and Chinese) theme. *rolls eyes* He didn't want a reception at all, but I suggested that eating late at night wouldn't work, so we're having the reception on the following afternoon.

As for the site, we still need to view the place, but it's a huge country home that can be rented for days.


Congrats to all the other soon-to-be-wed couples out there! :)

Originally Posted by Urbeth

My sentiments exactly! I really don't have the body to pull it off, but it looks fabulous! XD

I am engaged, but I told people for the longest time we were just dating on account of the fact that I got so embarrassed when they would ask me when the wedding date was and I wouldn't have one in mind since we hadn't decided on it. :<

But he finally--finally!--made a decision! We will be getting married next summer. Although, I am still holding my breath until he puts money down on the ceremony/reception site!

He told me he wanted a wedding unlike one that he has ever been to. Tall order for me since we're not getting a planner! He is pagan but doesn't practice (I am agnostic) so he wants it on the full moon and at night after moonrise(of course!). But he wants to wear a traditional Japanese wedding attire and an overall Asian (mix of Japanese and Chinese) theme. *rolls eyes* He didn't want a reception at all, but I suggested that eating late at night wouldn't work, so we're having the reception on the following afternoon.

As for the site, we still need to view the place, but it's a huge country home that can be rented for days.


Congrats to all the other soon-to-be-wed couples out there! :)

That sounds like it will be fun! I would have done more theme wise, but my fiance and I don't have those types of things in common. I hope everything goes great for you guys though! You'll have to post pics here in a year! lol

Originally Posted by PhantomLolita

That sounds like it will be fun! I would have done more theme wise, but my fiance and I don't have those types of things in common. I hope everything goes great for you guys though! You'll have to post pics here in a year! lol

Thanks PhantomLolita! I think a themed wedding would be fun too but I don't think we could agree on a theme. As it is our families are going to be confused with the Japanese and Chinese influences. XP

Tonight a friend from college visited and we talked about our weddings--she's engaged but hasn't set a date yet. I felt bad asking her to help me with mine, but she was happy to! It has brought me a lot of relief as I can plan all this on my own.

The dress beautiful Phantom! And Congrats.

I'm engaged.
The date I want is going to be July 9th which is when he proposed to me. It probably will be next year though. We have a few things figured out but he says that I'm the one who's suppose to pick everything.
It's going to have a medieval theme to it (and maybe a hint of gothic but not sure if he'll go with that XD). There won't be any white horses though because I hate horses.
The flowers will be red, orange and a few white roses. Also some baby breath.
Its not going to be very big at all, just a few family and friends. We're not very traditional either.
My dress is more then likely going to be a princess looking corset grown with ribbons. Probably white and red or black and white. He wants to have a suit of armor... I said maybe if it s cool. XD
More then likely it will be a little strange because that's the way we are but its going to great when it happens. :)

Congrats! I am engaged. And getting married on August 29th. I am so excited. It's hard though.

Why is it hard? O.o

No, but I'd like to comment on your interesting choice of dress. Not my tastes, but it is unique looking.
I've seen a trend to get away from the traditional white gown. I haven't seen any brides in wedding pants yet though.
And the groom's outfit doesn't seem to vary much. Too bad for the men, not much to choose from.

Will you keep your hair pink for your wedding?. What I envy is having an understanding and accepting family. My family would make my life hell if I deviated from the norm. If I went out in a dress like this with pink hair, I would never hear the end of it from my family.