Do you have issues with that? How do you cope? Do you feel pressure? well i have to be honest. in school im quiet and i always try to fit in to atleast get some friends or feel welcomed. in 7th grade some people in class kept asking me if i was goth. i wore black frequently. ive got to say im more of a punk styled kid. just misunderstood. how about you?

haha I can't really say I know much of what "being myself" actually means. I just do whatever floats my boat at any given time. Of course...some people get the wrong idea and then they try to tell me that something isn't very "me" and then..ugh. Pressure. People try to put others into one little role and I just can't do that. I get borreeeddddd :gonk:

As one of the weirdest kids in both my grammar and high schools, I'll be the first to admit that it isn't the easiest to be oneself. It's especially difficult in middle/high school because we barely even know who we are. Looking back, there were definitely some hard times for me, including bouts of depression and thoughts of suicide. Yet, I've always found that by being honest to myself, I've found some of the most reliable friends around. It's never easy being the odd one out, but if you stick with it and just be who you want to be, you'll find yourself happier in the long run. I certainly would've had a lot more friends if I just bent to the social norms, but I wouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror knowing that I had compromised my values for people who didn't give a damn about me. Just do what makes you happy, love yourself, and love everyone else. If that's not good enough for someone, they aren't worth your time.

I agree with your words @generaloutrageous being myself has always been hard. being shy makes it harder.

I just graduated from high school and I'll be honest. I never fit in anywhere. My family moved alot so I was never in one place for more than three or two years. I was very quiet and kept to myself. I was picked on alot and generally had little to no interest because unlike everyone else I was never in one spot long enough to even know what the kids were into in that day and age.

Highschool started rough but it got better. I simply was myself. That is, I liked what I liked, I didn't like what I didn't like and I frankly didn't give a shoe what people thought of me. I never felt that need to fit in as badly as others seem to feel it. I always figured if someone doesn't like you for you, and who you are. Then they're not worth giving a hoot about. I eventually made friends. Good friends. Sometimes it takes a while but you'll always find someone.

As for pressure, people will always try to get you to do crazy or try new and maybe even do the wrong things. Pressure is everywhere during school. But its up to you to determine how strong you really are and if you care about yourself enough to give in or over come.

I don't really think anyone even at my age really knows who they are. So being yourself is just doing what you feel is right. What seems comfortable to you. Eventually you'll find a pattern and realize what is and is not who and what you are. :]

Sorry if this is long has misspellings or anything like that.

~Kora

Originally Posted by angelwings13

I agree with your words @generaloutrageous being myself has always been hard. being shy makes it harder.

It's difficult to be shy, yeah. The trick is to know who you are and show the world. You'll eventually find someone just as weird as you. Maybe even a bunch of people!

@seven

i totally get where you are coming from. the bullying for me was so bad in middle school i went to like four different ones.

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Originally Posted by General Lee Outrageous

It's difficult to be shy, yeah. The trick is to know who you are and show the world. You'll eventually find someone just as weird as you. Maybe even a bunch of people!

ive found that crowd xD my friends i made freshman year.

I've already found a bunch of weird people. My friends. xD

I just try to be more outgoing, and not as violent. Other than that, I'm pretty much myself, because after fifth grade, I stopped giving a damn. Although, I have found a fondness for clothes. I just hate finding them.

Originally Posted by Xx_IwIshIwasafIsh_xX

I've already found a bunch of weird people. My friends. xD

I just try to be more outgoing, and not as violent. Other than that, I'm pretty much myself, because after fifth grade, I stopped giving a damn. Although, I have found a fondness for clothes. I just hate finding them.

haha i cant seem to find clothes that express my style and mood anywhere around here and i dont like hot topic.

You're you. You're not goth. You're not punk. You're not preppy. You're you, and you dress how you want. Never let someone label you. You're only falling into a stereotype and it's not a good thing to be in. Not everyone who wears black is "goth" and not everyone with blond hair is stupid.

While yes, it may be difficult to "be yourself" when everyone else seems to fall into a sort of clique, you must. Regardless of what they say, because most of those people in cliques are too afraid to stand up out of their stereotype and be themselves. A friend of mine refused to discuss her favorite music in school because it wasn't what her friends liked, and she thought they would think she was weird for listening to it.

I said fuck it. I like the music I like. I wear the clothes I wear. I do my hair how I do my hair. Because I WANT to. Not because I feel I have to fit in somewhere. There is a very overused phrase but I think it fits here.

"I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not."

Be you, because there's only one you in the whole world.

Originally Posted by ll P W E E P ll

You're you. You're not goth. You're not punk. You're not preppy. You're you, and you dress how you want. Never let someone label you. You're only falling into a stereotype and it's not a good thing to be in. Not everyone who wears black is "goth" and not everyone with blond hair is stupid.

While yes, it may be difficult to "be yourself" when everyone else seems to fall into a sort of clique, you must. Regardless of what they say, because most of those people in cliques are too afraid to stand up out of their stereotype and be themselves. A friend of mine refused to discuss her favorite music in school because it wasn't what her friends liked, and she thought they would think she was weird for listening to it.

I said fuck it. I like the music I like. I wear the clothes I wear. I do my hair how I do my hair. Because I WANT to. Not because I feel I have to fit in somewhere. There is a very overused phrase but I think it fits here.



Be you, because there's only one you in the whole world.

thats an awesome qoute. i feel better. i hate the labels but its hard not to be labeled. everywhere you go at there are cliques and you have to fit in somewhere and have to be within a group.

Hmm, it's not that way at my school at all. Although, there's several girls who call themselves popular. Why would you want that? They act like clones & try to fit the stereotype. It's lame. I'm just me. I wear what I want & I stay true to myself. I just wish I could speak up more.

Originally Posted by Abduco

Hmm, it's not that way at my school at all. Although, there's several girls who call themselves popular. Why would you want that? They act like clones & try to fit the stereotype. It's lame. I'm just me. I wear what I want & I stay true to myself. I just wish I could speak up more.

me to but i try to speak up

Originally Posted by angelwings13

haha i cant seem to find clothes that express my style and mood anywhere around here and i dont like hot topic.

I hate the expenses of Hot Topic, but if you do some digging, you can find some cool stuff. I get most of my socks and belts from there, and I've become known for awesome socks and belts. XDDD Honestly, I don't get how they don't find the same stuff as me. It's not like I shop anywhere obscure.

Actually, regarding my case..I've come to identify a lot with this:

"I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't."
— Marilyn Monroe

Well, when I'm around people I don't really know, I am a really quiet and shy person, the same goes for when I'm in class. But when I'm with my friends or family (mainly friends though), I am more confident, because they know me really well, and I feel that I can be myself around them.
But when I went into first year (I would have been about 11), people in my class called me 'The Weird Quiet Girl', and some actually thought I never talked, so when I did speak, they were really surprised. But it was because the people in my class weren't my friends, and I didn't know them that well, so I just chose not to talk to them.
And when I went round to one of my friend's houses (we aren't friends anymore), her dad thought I was a goth because of the way I dressed, I didn't think that wearing black skinny jeans and a black t-shirt was weird...and I wasn't a goth at all, but some people in school called me an emo too, but I wasn't, so it annoyed me when they judged me because of the way I dressed, which caused me to become even more quiet in class.

Originally Posted by HappyStarr

I hate the expenses of Hot Topic, but if you do some digging, you can find some cool stuff. I get most of my socks and belts from there, and I've become known for awesome socks and belts. XDDD Honestly, I don't get how they don't find the same stuff as me. It's not like I shop anywhere obscure.

Actually, regarding my case..I've come to identify a lot with this:

yeah. hot topic is expensive. i guess some local thrift shops should have what i want.

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Originally Posted by ShotgunSinner

Well, when I'm around people I don't really know, I am a really quiet and shy person, the same goes for when I'm in class. But when I'm with my friends or family (mainly friends though), I am more confident, because they know me really well, and I feel that I can be myself around them.
But when I went into first year (I would have been about 11), people in my class called me 'The Weird Quiet Girl', and some actually thought I never talked, so when I did speak, they were really surprised. But it was because the people in my class weren't my friends, and I didn't know them that well, so I just chose not to talk to them.
And when I went round to one of my friend's houses (we aren't friends anymore), her dad thought I was a goth because of the way I dressed, I didn't think that wearing black skinny jeans and a black t-shirt was weird...and I wasn't a goth at all, but some people in school called me an emo too, but I wasn't, so it annoyed me when they judged me because of the way I dressed, which caused me to become even more quiet in class.

Being labeled the first time made me feel weird and horrible but I got used to it.

Being labeled the first time made me feel weird and horrible but I got used to it.

Yeah, but it often led to incidents like being spat on or people throwing stuff at me when I walked home. It's okay now though, they've stopped and have moved on, or some have left school. It got really bad when I went into second and third year though, it stopped near the end of third year/start of fourth year though, so it's all good now, but it still annoys me when I get labelled like that, especially by complete strangers.

I just do whatever I want to at the moment. I don't really have one style or role to fit into. People a lot of times don't know how to take me because I do tend to be a bit out there and they don't expect that from me. I also come off as being a bit bitchy from what I've told because I do just say and do whatever is on my mind.