Fights with friends :<
 

When was the last time you fought with a friend?

What triggered it? Who started it?

Did you guys make up or break up?

Did it seem silly later on once it was over?




I rarely argue with friends. I've probably had three real clashes. It seems like once they're over, they were so silly. DURING them, they were heated and emotionally draining. The number one problem during them always seemed to be miscommunication. What probably didn't help at all was that they were all online involving people I'm really friends with. We never got a chance to talk in person. So things would constantly get misinterpreted until we reached our resolution. >_>;;

I haven't really had a fight with a friend since high school.

I've got less tolerant as I've got older but I don't fight, I leave or push them away.

Basically, if you're a very good friend of mine, I consider you to be family, that status isn't changeable. Not many people get through to that status, but when they do, they're family for life, at the moment there's only one friend of mine who I consider family, and his wife and son too, as they're part of the package. They can get away with anything my blood relations can, as true family can fight, argue, sulk and always be family no matter what, so as far as I'm concerned, he's there for life.

Other than that, everyone else in my life is dispensable. It may sound harsh, but I've cut off people who I've known for years. I don't argue or fight with them. I have a "three strikes and you're out" rule. Someone can piss me off once and I'll forget, twice and I'll try to forgive, three times and they're dead to me.
I just cut off all contact with them. Maybe it doesn't just sound harsh, it actually is harsh. But it's me.

My family and I fight often, over silly things mostly, but they're never that serious that we'd even thing about breaking contact. I love them unconditionally.

i have never had a fight

I've never actually been in a fight with my friend. Actually... ok I was in like the 4th grade or something, and that was just one punch each and it was over. No idea what it was over. But my best friend and I have never foung. haha, though the last time I went to see her she left me in the hotel T__T Said that she had to pack up and help her mom move and didn't have any more time to hang out with me, it was kinda sudden and surprised me but it's water under the bridge. I think she was angry cause the night before we had gone out and I had a lot of fun, she didn't have so much fun. Oh well, and now she's all like, I miss you! I miss going out with you! Lol... so.. sometimes you gotta put family first. I had already visited like 5 days anyway. I guess I kinda wore out my wlecome? Could be...

Last time I got into a fight with a friend it was over an awkward situation she put me in. Even though I was being nice about it she flipped out and acted like a bitch. So she decided the best way to get back at me for being a good friend was to tell my boyfriend all these lies about me and get him to break up with me.

It worked, and I still want to jump her.

1. I'm assuming boyfriends count? If so, then sometime last week.

2. It was a misunderstanding between us. He thought I was mad at him and that I wanted him to leave when that wasn't the case so when he did leave, I got nasty.

3. We made up. We always do. We're not going to let a little fight stop us from loving one another.

4. I wouldn't say it was silly because the discussion we had afterward allowed us to address some important issues that we may have had the opportunity to talk about if we hadn't had that specific argument. It's always something to learn from for the future.

Last time I fought with a friend was over a year ago. She was someone that I was really close to and if neither one of us was working we were together all the time. We'd pick each other up from work and come drop things off like chocolate or slushies if the other was working, and we'd go on break together. It was really weird now that I think back on it. People thought we were dating, that's how much time we spend together. Her dad said something about her and I dating and how he did not like gays but he would be okay with her dating me because he thought lesbians were hot but that if her brother ever became gay he'd disown him. Before that she'd say things like "It's tough having a girlfriend" whenever I'd say I never have money because I always spend it on her. She also told me she loved me and that she would date me. After her dad said that, she turned it around to "if you were a guy".

Not too long after that, she started dating this guy that did not treat her right at all and all he did was yell at her and try to make her feel like crap about not being with him as much as she was with me. I wouldn't have minded if he actually treated her right. So I said something to him and she got mad. A bit after that, her, her boyfriend, and I went on a trip out of state and, to put it short, he got in her face and started yelling at her so I told him I'd punch him if he did not back off.

After that she still stayed with him so I told her that I can't stand seeing him treating her like that which turned into a huge argument and we have not spoken since even though she left him a few months after that. It's been over a year since we stopped talking. Every time I see her she walks the other way. There's been a few times where she's walked into shelves and things like that after seeing me in stores.

It is stupid to lose a friend over a guy but I am also not the type to just sit back and watch someone I love being being treated like that. Plus, that girl put me through so much shit that I really feel that unless she is going to be serious about being with me and not lying and playing games that it's really not worth it to me. I hate when people games like that. Is it really that hard to just be okay with who you are? =/

Normally I do not fight with friends though because there is not much that really puts me over the edge. I also tend to forgive people easy because everyone gets mad sometimes and says things they do not mean. In her case though, it was more than just one thing, it was a whole lot of things.

It wasn't really what you'd call a 'fight'. But over a year ago, one of my friends got extremely mad at me because I got married :(
My husband and I had decided on a spur of the moment that we wanted to get married and made an appointment at a court house two weeks in advance. We didn't really think about who to invite or anything so it was an -extremely- small thing so only a few people attended. This friend of mine said that if he wasn't important enough to be invited to my wedding then I was just friends with him for convenience and went off about me about finding out from one of his brothers. He made the happiest day of my life feel like trash T^T

I haven't talked to him since

The last time my friends and I actually got into a fight was when we were in seventh grade (which was three or four years ago). At least, that's the most recent one that I can recall at the moment; this was a major fight, though, and we stayed angry over it for several weeks. After that, though, we didn't fight much anymore.
Although we do get in debates quite frequently, and two of my friends from our group have a tendency to get angry at each other when their opinions differ quite frequently, but no one stays angry longer than like ten minutes over anything anymore.

It's a bit complicated, actually... My friends and I are kind of all in this group of the six of us, and we normally all hang out together once a week, and have sleepovers and do other things together and such. I wouldn't call it a clique or anything, as we (or they, at least...) have other friends at school and such, but we've been doing this since we were in elementary school, to ensure that we all stay best friends. Well, for a time back when we were about 13, two of my friends had been acting somewhat obnoxious for a time and were driving the rest of us insane. So, one day when they both happened to not come over, we ended up discussing that quite a lot. Afterward, though, those two friends pretty much stopped what they were doing, so I assumed it was all over and would be forgotten. Well, somehow one of my friends decided that we had been talking about those two behind their backs. (Which we were, but we weren't going around insulting them or anything like that; we were mainly discussing how those two would go off and ignore the rest of us and then get angry over stupid things. I don't even know what to think of it now though. xD) Then she told them about it, and the next day, she admitted to us what she had done, but then she basically went to run away to her bus and abandon the rest of us to deal with them on our own. At this point, I was basically running after her through the school to try to prevent her from leaving us, and I grabbed onto the back of her jacket to stop her. She turned around, pushed me and shouted some nonsense, and then turned and ran. Apparently everyone around us interpreted this as a fight. xD After all of that, we didn't hang out as a group for like half a month, and a few of us were not on speaking terms to the others.

We said we hated each other, but we only stayed angry about two or three weeks. xD
The funny thing is, no one actually "made up," necessarily; the friend whom I had been so angry at that had hated me just sent me a message out of nowhere one day asking me about something totally unrelated. I replied and asked her if she hated me, she said no, and then we went on with talking about books we had read. (I don't think the rest of the group actually cared about anything anymore, to be honest, but she and I had gotten into some arguments over MySpace that I'm incredibly ashamed of nowadays...) Then she asked to come over the next week, and we contacted the others, and from then on, we were all best friends again.

YES. I feel quite ridiculous typing it all out even now; I'm ashamed of how we acted at times back in middle school. It's especially embarrassing to me because I've always viewed people who get into big, dramatic fights and such as really immature and obnoxious. The entire thing was pretty pointless. I'm especially ashamed of some of the messages I sent while arguing with my friend over the Internet (as though trading insults over MySpace isn't pathetic enough as it is). I'm normally at least somewhat creative and such in my insults, but we pretty much sounded like typical idiotic teenage girls like you hear arguing in the hallways at our school. I guess some good did come out of the whole thing, though - After that, no one has ever really gotten into a fight with anyone else anymore. I think it taught us somewhat not to take the others for granted.

it was actually about a month ago?

My friend got mad at me and thought that i went to the haunted house of hers high or drunk cause apparently i was acting "too strange to be sober". i was clearly sober at the time since i dont do drugs anymore nor drink when i know im going back home afterwards. we fought for about a week cause she didn't believe me.She knows im insane at times so i didn't really understand why she would even think i was :P
so in a way i triggered it but she started the fight .

We made up after a week of explaining and having several people who were with me that night try and get her to listen to me and believe me.

Now that i think about it it does seem pretty stupid, but kinda hurts that she didn't trust me enough not to.

I don't often argue with friends, but when I do, it's usually about moral things (like it's wrong to to x, but not y). Most of my friends are online, so most of the little shit doesn't phase me, because why bother? Too much energy on people who could make me go away with the click of a button (or who I could do that to).
The last time I argued with a friend was probably a week or more ago, because I don't remember it. :lol:

But the last argument I remember was because my BFF Yael was ignoring me, and I had no clue why. So I got really really angry at her, and when she finally talked to me, I cursed her out before she could even tell me what was up.
It turns out her Chron's had flared up really badly, and she was in horrible pain, and had been drugged out of her mind, and was sleeping most of the time so she didn't have to deal with the pain. :sweat:
Needless to say I felt like an ass, but to be fair, it constantly showed her as online, and a couple times, showed her talking to other people...just not me. :(

Year 2007

What triggered it? Who started it?
I started it. I told my classmates her secret. I called it as revenge for always ignoring me and making me embarrassed in front of many people. After that, we became complete strangers. It lasted for a year until my other friend made us shake hands.

Yes. Now when we are walking in the campus then we will remember it, we always laugh so hard.

When was the last time you fought with a friend?

It was a about a month or so ago....

What triggered it? Who started it?

a. Blaming soly me for something that wasn't only my fault
b. He did

Did you guys make up or break up?

Didn't make up but didn't break friendship either.... just let it go (though still angers me)

Did it seem silly later on once it was over?

Not at all everyone was acting as if the accident was completely my fault and thought that I got what I deserved... though I didn't even really do anything I just kind of assisted on an accident...

A couple weeks ago

She commented on my friends photos and called her a slut and some other things, so she basically started it.

Broke up, I'm not going to be friends with people who start drama and continually harass people over little things.

Made me angry at first but now i'm glad i'm not friends with her, we used to be really good friends but she started to try to act like popular kids and got a little annoying plus from what my one friend told me ( she never lies either ) is that all last year she was complaining about how much of a loser I was and didn't want to hang out with me...lol what a b*tch. XD

Other than that I rarely have fights with my friends, I just have fights with my nonfriends a lot. XD