I've come to realize that sexuality is a spectrum. It's not black and white. You don't have to be strictly straight or gay. Bisexual is right in the middle.

I've identified as lesbian, but there is a small part of me that is attracted to certain men. Maybe because they are feminine looking? (Bill Kaulitz, Criss Angel). But there are some "manly" men I am attracted to, as well. Thinking about this, I realized the rainbow is a very good "logo" for sexuality, because it is a spectrum. You don't have to be just straight or gay or bisexual.

Or maybe I'm just way off base here o.O But if I had to put percentages on it, I'd say I'm 90% lesbian, 10% straight. I don't know how else to put it :lol:

What do you think? Sexuality is a spectrum, or is it strictly, gay straight or bi? And what about pan/omni sexuals? *Which I believe are the same thing?*

For you, I'd say you spend lots of time on the gay side of bi.

But yeah, sexuality, attraction, it's all a fluid spectrum. You may be straight now, but you might be a little bit gay later in life! Also I've never heard omnisexual before, is that the same as pan?

Mm, but even further than the sexuality spectrum is the romantic attraction spectrum. Most peoples' romantic attractions line up with their sexuality, so it's not much of a problem, but some are all over the place. Heteromantic homosexual, homoromantic bisexual, it gets kinda complicated sometimes. Knowing all your prefixes really helps. If you wanna research it a bit, head to AVEN wiki. It's got asexual in its name, but it's got tons of other info, too.

Haha, I haven't found quite where I lay on the spectrum, but I believe demisexual fits me quite well (which implies biromanticism, but i side with heteroromantic a bit more). I've got plenty of time to decide anyway. :]

I think that saying sexuality is a spectrum is a lovely way of putting it. I don't think that having a label on sexuality is a good thing, IMO.
I, myself, am straight, but there have been times where I have had a "crush" on girls.
But I wouldn't say that I am bi or lesbian because I have never acted on these affections and I am much more attracted to men.
So I'd be about 90% straight and 10% lesbian? I wonder what color that would be on the sextrum? XD

That is a wonderful word/logo! A rainbow fits sexuality quite well. Like these two others had said before me, these things aren't just hard facts. Emotions, attractions, and even things that are written in your DNA account for who and what you find attractive.
I've thought myself to be straight for a long time, but recently I'm quite sure I'm very bisexual. Though I'm more 60% straight and 40% lesbian, that doesn't stop the fact that I've been thinking about trying to find a first romantic girlfriend.
So yes, a rainbow works for it all. There are so many combinations and colors in the spectrum, no one say say for sure that it's simply one or the other. It just doesn't work that way.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has noticed this, and feels the same way :)

and coccyx: I have never heard of those words before! I'll have to look them up tomorrow. Too late to think properly now @[email protected] I believe pansexual and omnisexual are the same. If not the same, similar.

I hate labels for gender and sexuality for that reason. They are not just black and white and there are so many variation of sexuality and gender that labels just seem silly to me. I identify as a person that likes people.

I had no idea what a demisexual was but then I looked it up and, holy crap! I think that's what I am 0-o

My god there's so many terms to describe sexuality! I think that in itself shows sexuality is a huge puddle of rainbow-colored vomit. Black and white? Psh. I think especially nowadays it's become even wider as it's more acceptable to branch out and experiment with sexuality.
..Though I'm completely straight it sounds so boring nowadays. Everyone has some uber appealing term to label themselves and I'm sitting over here stuck as one of the only classic straight girls. :drool: I can find the female gender attractive but that's only surface attraction; it doesn't define emotional or sexual which I could never have.

I have to agree with you. For a long time i thought i was straighter than a arrow; and yet i have encountered one or two men that were attractive. I guess everyone got at least 1% of gay/lesbian in them.

I used to consider myself straight but with a dirty mind when I was younger, and when I entered high school I began to think about sexuality using percentages. 75% straight, 25% gay, I'd say. My freshman year was when I developed a crush on a female friend, the first friend I made in high school. But after that fell apart, I got into a relationship with a male that ended badly around the beginning of last year. Now I'm in a same-sex relationship, and so far I'm happy.

I don't know what I consider myself officially as. I don't believe I ever will because I tend to change my mind on gender depending on who I develop feelings for. I suppose you can say bisexual, but I think I have the ability to fall in love with anyone.

I think as a guy it's sort of different because "gay" for a guy is completely different. While for the most part it's okay for girls to 'experiment', if a dude kisses another dude he's going to be judged a lot differently.

So I don't really feel attracted to any guys, but at the same time I wonder if society pushed any potential homosexual feelings out of me.

Originally Posted by Voe

My god there's so many terms to describe sexuality! I think that in itself shows sexuality is a huge puddle of rainbow-colored vomit. Black and white? Psh. I think especially nowadays it's become even wider as it's more acceptable to branch out and experiment with sexuality.
..Though I'm completely straight it sounds so boring nowadays. Everyone has some uber appealing term to label themselves and I'm sitting over here stuck as one of the only classic straight girls. :drool: I can find the female gender attractive but that's only surface attraction; it doesn't define emotional or sexual which I could never have.

Get out of my head, you sound very much like me. I generally classify as "straight," because I like/prefer/enjoy men the most...But, I admit, I love breasts. ; __; But I mean, I've heard even gay men love breasts? So...:lol: Though, most other parts of the female form gross me out, especially when naked.

But, yeah.

Both culturally and historically there is an incredible amount of variety when it comes to sexuality. What we perceive of it today is but a snapshot of an ever changing phenomena.

I can't decide whether people are over-simplifying or over-complicating the issue. On one hand, people don't seem to recognize the full variety of sexualities. On the other, people have a habit of attributing much more to sexuality than actually affects it.

Allow me to say Welcome To The 60/70's.
Y'see, many reaserchers have discovered this as well, noting that most of the populus doesn't fit into the Straight or Gay ends of this spectrum.
Also, thanks. You have made my day by showing that some people can think. Good going.

I have no idea what I should identify as anymore and I don't really know if I even should think about it... I've always reffered to sexuality as a liquid thing that can't really be closed in a couple of terms. I used to say that I'm bisexual and my interest in both genders is pretty much the same, but at the same time, I wasn't really interested in people sexually. From time to time, I might say that a guy is good looking or that a girl is beautiful, but I'd never say "I'd hit it".

I've had light crushes on girls and a girlfriend once, but I wasn't really attached to her. Then I started going out with my boyfriend and I've pretty much lost all sexual interest in other people, but I won't say that, for example, making out with a girl would be disgusting for me (well... I'd be disgusted with myself, but not because of the fact that it was a girl, but because it was someone other than my boyfriend)

I wonder if I should go and browse the wiki to find a term for me or just say that I am what I am and I'm happy with it.

Originally Posted by Glitter Golgotha

I can't decide whether people are over-simplifying or over-complicating the issue. On one hand, people don't seem to recognize the full variety of sexualities. On the other, people have a habit of attributing much more to sexuality than actually affects it.

I would lean more towards people still oversimplifying sexuality. There are still making assumptions based on culturally and historically positioned understandings of sexuality. However in saying that, treating it as a transitional spectrum does allow for a more versatile system.

Originally Posted by coccyx

Mm, but even further than the sexuality spectrum is the romantic attraction spectrum. Most peoples' romantic attractions line up with their sexuality, so it's not much of a problem, but some are all over the place. Heteromantic homosexual, homoromantic bisexual, it gets kinda complicated sometimes.

I knew people's romantic attractions didn't always line up with their sexual attractions, but I've never heard those terms before. Very interesting. I'm going to be browsing that wiki for a while now, probably..

I'm very happy to see so many people here realise sexuality is not a fixed thing either, but fluid, and apt to change. I myself don't like to stick to any of these labels personally, since my preferences change too rapidly, as well as my gender identity being quite fluid, complicating matters a bit more.

I myself are Bisexual,
I love both men and woman equally,
Woman have lovely figures and Breasts, Who doesn't love breasts?!,
Men Have Penises, Let's not get into that tho.
But I'm moving more towards woman, seeing as woman who are attracted to other woman who are attracted to woman,Who know what the other feels and likes, goes.

You know... nowadays it's very hard to put anything into black and white. The world is definitely becoming a more open place, making room for a large spectrum that's existed all along to finally show. Each person is so unique and different in their daily lives, though processes, emotions, everything, that you can't just put a black and/or white label on something anymore and make it fit perfectly- it never did fit, people just liked to pretend it all did. The rainbow is the perfect symbol for sexuality, because just like everything else in life, none of us is strictly one color.

And even further, like said above, romantic attraction is also something different. :yes: I myself don't consider myself "straight". I consider myself heteroromantic asexual. For those of you who don't really understand that, look here.

P.S- Clair is Christian, too. :)

If that's true, I'm the entire spectrum, black, gray, and white. I'm a Pansexual, which I describe to people as "If it has a postal code, I can screw it.", which really gets a lot of shock value.
But romantically, I'm very limited, and very heterosexual. I could never romantically love a girl as I do sexually, I just couldn't. And there are certain men I could never romantically be interested in, but are interested in sexually.
Sometimes it really causes a lot of confusion.

though i'm straight, i hate it when people hate on someone else just because he/she is homosexual :C
i mean, it's not their fault, and it's not like it's a bad thing either. :/
sorry for random off topic ness 8D

okay back on topic:
i think that sexuality isn't just a rainbow... lol... XDD
after all, a rainbow only includes red through purple
it doesn't include the grey areas of life/love
:C

I am still questioning what sexuality I am. D:
I have been experimenting, though I haven't decided.
So yes, I guess I am bisexual. I hate when people judge me. Especially my mum. D: