I mean if ya that insecure, if your gf is that jealous that you will delete someone you've know for longer than the gf then FU D:<


anyone else have friends who do stuff like that?

Ive had male friends who've i've known longer than their gfs just cut off all ties with me- ignores, removes from friends list, remove from messenger,etc everything. Then when the relationship ends- "Hey wanna add back?" Never had that problem with gay men or females and my bf doesn't tell me not to talk or have male friends online. To quote him "Wtf you gonna do ? Hop a plane to England to hang out with some chav named 'Wa Dafaq Iz Dees Schit" ? ""

So very true.

As I get older I collect more and more male friends...they treat me better than most of my female friends ever have. My guys have to be aware that that's just how I live.

I love my bfs, not my guy friends...but my friends are important to me, no matter what gender. Until you fully instill yourself into my life, you will have no precedence over my friends...and once you have made yourself a permanent place in my existence, well...you better have a damn good reason for wanting me to get rid of a friend, as I would have for you.

I love having more guy friends than girls. I just find men are more fun to be around and they tend to treat me better.
I've never had that problem. Most of the guys I know are dating friends of mine, but even those that arent wouldn't dare do something like that to me, or risk being ostracized from the rest of the group. It's just how our system works. Everyone comes to me for advice and a good time no matter what their situation is.

i agree. I don't know how his gf is personally but I know i don't cut everyone out of my life for fear that the lover will get mad. I had another friend who did that, so much so he changed jobs so he wouldn't have to see us. His gf was the jealous type though, she didn't want him to have any contact with any female- friend or family member. But she had her ex bfs, guy friends and guys a bit too chummy with her hanging around her. (turns out she was "with" them a lot ) I've rarely seen my female friends go "OMG I got a bf now :D male friends GTFO D:< "

I pay a little less attention to some of my guy friends when I have a BF...but that was mainly because some of my guy friends used to/still do have unrequited crushes on me and I don't want that interrupting my relationships.

Still...yeah...no. Girls keep their guy friends, I think.

I love mine.

Yeah, I actually did come to think of it... at first I was going to say that I've never had to experience that, but I have.
I had a friend on Xbox LIVE for the longest time and we always talked and texted. ( I love my Xbox friends. c: )
He hasn't deleted me or anything like that, but he never talks to me anymore.

Well, I've never once done that. The only reason I've ever cut ties with someone, was an ex after we broke up because I found out she was cheating on me.
For me it's kind of the opposite. I have a lot of really close female friends.

I don't get why people think just because you have a significant other that you cut ties with friends. Friends are more important to me because when the relationship is over they'll still be there where as the s/o won't.

I don't get jealous most of the time. I don't have a reason to be so I don't get why people get jealous over nothing. I had a friend that was really close to me. We spent pretty much every waking moment together and worked together. We knew each other for a bit over three years and her dad started giving her crap about dating me so she went and was flirting with the first younger guy she could find that came into work. He turned out to be abusive and controlling. I said something to her about it. Him and I got into a fight because he started getting in her face so I told him to get off her and leave her alone. Soon after that she stopped talking to me all together and wouldn't answer my texts and blocked me on everything. Even at work, she would leave the department and try avoiding me which caused a bunch of issues that I had to deal with because I was her boss at the time. She also would start crying when I tried coaching her so I ended up having to get other managers involved. I ended up leaving because of all the drama she was starting. Even after she broke up with her boyfriend she still isn't talking to me and every time I say hi or anything at all to her she looks like she's going to cry so I try to not go into that store any more.

I have a pretty mixed bag of friends and anyone I date has to deal with them or things won't go anywhere. Hell, my bestie is a guy and we play flirt and basically talk nonstop but he's also how I met my boyfriend and they're roommates so he pretty much has no choice in the matter :lol:

Anyone who's so willing to just drop you doesn't deserve to be your friend in the first place.

Some partners are just jealous and can't cope with their other half having any friends of the opposite sex. Particularly friendships that were well established before they became part of their partners life. Or, someone who's been part of their partner's life, but they have just not met before.


Here's a little story for ya:
Back in '08 me and Juru went to Florida over Memorial weekend, for the combined AGM and social get-together of the company that owned Mene at the time. Now myself especially had spent a lot of time every weekday, for the previous 8 months, in a chatroom with the people we were meeting, and I was good friends with all of them. But this was a family thing and they brought wives and husbands and kids along too.

The majority of the people we worked with then were guys, there were just two other women. ALL the wives of the guys gave me and Juru the cold shoulder. The one husband, he was perfectly cool with us and hungout in our room with his wife, getting drunk...

Those women just didn't like fact that we were females, and spent hours every day with their husbands. Even if it was in a room full of other people, and online, ffs. It's a control thing, nothing more. They especially didn't like that we were familiar with them, and had in-jokes, and all the other stuff that friends have. Simply because we were a new thing to the wives, but not to the husbands.

It probably didn't help that both me and Juru are single women, either. They'd have instantly been on their guard, especially when we all first met up and it's all "HI!! OMG, so nice to finally meet you!" and all that stuff. And then you get, "And this is my wife" *introduces* ....*deathglare from wife*... D8<

It's just stupid, but it's how people are, sadly :(

Though it's a huge insult to your partner of you get all pissy about them having friends/colleagues of the opposite sex, because that just shows that you don't trust them : /

Ahh the dreaded death glare. Comes standard with every female.
But yes, jealousy and control can turn any situation quite nasty.

I try not to be the jealous type although it's varies from person to person. When my ex cheated on me at irst I was like " Ok he's car pooling to ork its not cheating its saving the environment" then he started getting calls from her a lot and I was like " Ok maybe her car broke down or something like that" then he'd leave while being on a date with me to quote "Help her" after a month of that I was like " stop talking to her while we're together and please stop being late for our dates because you had to help her with stuff," He had female friends but it was that one female friend I wasn't too keen on after a while.

It has to be said though, that some female friends will intentionally try to make a male friend's girl jealous, for any number of reasons. Be it the need for attention, spitefulness or just plain boredom. I think most people cut that kind of shit out once someone does it to them though...being on the receiving end of what you're normally dishing out can be a real eye-opener for a lot of people!

How about a friend with and super insecure wife its driving us nuts! I can't stand the way she is. Always looks mad and miserable! Even already cheated on our friend :( he just loves the kids sad they aren't his. A previous marriage she won't leave him. Of course not she won't leave money!

It is rather pathetic and immature that a person's significant other feels the need to be entirely dominant to the point that they attempt to force all of said person's friends away. I often find myself wondering how they feel they have exclusive rights to said person, what makes them entitled to be the only one said person is allowed to converse with and see in a public venue? Frankly I feel that all too often people who engage in "Adult" relationships, fail to understand what exactly that means, perhaps they should realize there is a reason they are refered to as "Adult" in the first place, because they will not last being degraded by such idiotic childishness.

That happens with my friends who are girls as well- they just cut me out of their life completely once they're dating someone new. They want to sit by them at lunch every single day, never text me.. take all photos of themselves with their dates.. it's just annoying as hell. >>

I do notice this behavior is more typical of females than males. I won't lie, I only have one female friend that I like to talk to...the rest of them, well...we just don't hit it off. I've always gotten on well with males. They tend to be fun and easygoing and they don't really gossip or start drama like most women I know do.

Originally Posted by Faulkner

I do notice this behavior is more typical of females than males. I won't lie, I only have one female friend that I like to talk to...the rest of them, well...we just don't hit it off. I've always gotten on well with males. They tend to be fun and easygoing and they don't really gossip or start drama like most women I know do.

I need to find guy friends who are more like that. The only 3 of my guy friends like that, I havent had a chance to hang out with in quite a long time. >.<

As for the whole thing of a guy removing a girl from his friend list/contacts/etc because of his girlfriend, well, he needs to grow a back bone, and tell whoever he is dating that they cant control who he hangs out with. I dont care if a girl breaks up with me because I wont cut ties with friends, but sorry for this language...FUCK THAT SHIT! I dont change for noone. I am who I am, my friends are who they are, dont like it? GTFO! ....Sorry, I had too many girls try and decide who I can and cant hang out with.

ok me and my bf have both deleted people,but is nobody important,just people from school and crap. I see nothing wrong with it. if you are actually serious about the relationship,which we are and we are truely in love. most people don't know what true love is. if you lvoe someone you only see that person and nobody else. Anyway though seriously... if you're in love with someone they are all you will need. you dont need aquantances. and my bf didnt talk to none of those girls anyways but you know how people like to start drama when your suddenly in a relationship? i think yea especially since we both each others first and last...people try to ruin it for you..

cute avi sarah :D
I don't mind if both parties do that even if I do think it's kinda crappy, but not when its the boyfriend who cuts out all his female friends while the gf keeps all her male friends, exs and everyone else who is male of the species. I have lesbian friends who get gfs and they don't go "OMG get those girls out of your life D:< " Even if the female friend is lez or hetero, the lesbian gf doesn't say anything , not even about other men.

It's not just guys. I had a gfriend who ended up with one of those domineering paranoid dudes who didn't want her to have any friends. Not only was she surely somehow sleeping with all her old male friends, her feem friends were probably telling her to break up with him/hooking her up with guys.

When she finally ditched him he kept hacking all of our computers. I think I mentioned this briefly when I first joined? Fortunately he seems to have finally given up on her now that she's back with her old bfriend.

@ explodey he sounds like a meanie :( I hate those jealous kind, not " Hmm she seems to be a bit too chummy with him" but the " SHE SPOKED TO THE CASHIER AT MCDONALDS! I KNEW SHE WAS CHEATING ON ME D:<"

Originally Posted by ElysiumFate

So very true.

As I get older I collect more and more male friends...they treat me better than most of my female friends ever have. My guys have to be aware that that's just how I live.

I love my bfs, not my guy friends...but my friends are important to me, no matter what gender. Until you fully instill yourself into my life, you will have no precedence over my friends...and once you have made yourself a permanent place in my existence, well...you better have a damn good reason for wanting me to get rid of a friend, as I would have for you.

I 100% agree with you.
thats how I feel too

Originally Posted by anadentone

@ explodey he sounds like a meanie :( I hate those jealous kind, not " Hmm she seems to be a bit too chummy with him" but the " SHE SPOKED TO THE CASHIER AT MCDONALDS! I KNEW SHE WAS CHEATING ON ME D:<"

That was this dude in a nutshell. She finally divorced him. Best move she ever made.

Well I understand it that way...If your gf/bf tells you to delete people of the other sex or whatever (well if you're not straight it's the other way,but you get what I'm saying..) but you don't do it yourself then I think that's not right... sounds not good....I know the only reason we really did that was cause of how people are nowadays,try to decrease drama,ya know..but we both did it of course,not just one and not the other. I know drama is gunna happen either way but,at least deleting people will decrease internet dramas. I see what ya mean though in a way....depends on the peoples relationship too.>.> if they are actually even really committed...or just pity little puppydog love that doesn't last longer than a week or so..