Who else here has a step parent? Or, like Clair, one of your parents remarried? How do you get along with these people? Do you like them? Do you argue with them?

Personally, it's up and down with me and my dad's wife. Sometimes, she acts all friendly and sweet towards me, and then the next thing I know, my family is coming to me telling me about the awful things she said about me... and I feel like I'm dealing with a highschooler-drama-queen-gossiper-two-face ... who is in her forties.

But I've heard of others getting along really well with their parents spouses! :D One of my good friends has an amazing relationship with her step mother. ^^

So, what about the rest of menewsha? How do you handle these people?

That sounds horrible. Some people never grow up, huh?

My "stepmother" is okay in my eyes. She does nice things for me, but I'm not close with her, and don't really need to be. I have tried living with them for short periods of times when I needed to get back on my feet, but being around her just puts me off. She is, however, smart, and has had a lot of intervention with my father to make him a better person. I salute her for that.

My father remarried when I was 19, having already been gone from home since 17, and I had never established a relationship with her before that while they had been dating. And legally, I'm a separate identity from my family anyway. For that reason, I chose not to consider myself part of this new family, and I've told them that. I even went into a speech to my father's stepdaughter that I'm not legally her stepsister unless I chose to be, and it made her kind of upset. I'm just not a family person, and have had a difficult relationship with my father, pretty much my entire life. ;X

@ Voe::
I have a similar thing with my dad's wife. They married when I was in middle school, but I JUST (not exaggerating, either) met her last week and I'm 19. I had spoken to her before, over the years, but I think she expected someone different when she met me. Someone more like her?

And my dad and his wife also had a baby- my youngest sibling is only 2... I'm old enough to be her mother. But I guess I'm not the only person who's had issues with my dad's wife... she likes to start drama, but somehow always ends up the victim, with everyone in our family (my dad's siblings, his father and his father's wife...) And she and my sister don't get along at all, either.

Well, my parents are separated but cannot afford to get divorced yet. But, my dad has a girlfriend and my mom has a boyfriend.

When I was in High School, I lived with my dad and his girlfriend for awhile. Then things went quickly down hill. She lied to my dad about having money, which wouldn't have made us like her more or less, but she bought my dad a lot of new and expensive things, keeping him under the illusion that she had money. So, once her money ran out, she fled back to Pennsylvania before my 17th birthday and came back a month later, without telling my dad. >___> She was a very jealous person; she thought my dad would go back to my mom, when really, my mom couldn't deal with my dad anymore and only saw him as the father of her children. Nothing more. She even got furious when she discovered my dad had my mom's number in his phone, when... it's important to keep the MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN'S NUMBER ON HAND!

Anyhow, she would get very angry when my brother and I wouldn't help her. But we got accustomed to asking her and her refusing our help, so we stopped asking. We were teenagers. I mean, how were we supposed to know to ask her if she wanted help every time she did something? She use to cause a lot of drama because of this. In any case, my dad and her eventually lost the house so my brother and I had to move in with my mom. This was early 2008.

Well, after a year of my mom living solo, eventually we moved in with her boyfriend. He is a very relaxed, chill guy. He's logically and treats my mom well, so that's always good. He doesn't fight with my mom. The only issue I have is his excessive drinking, which makes him turn from being a good person to being the village idiot. x__x But, he is getting better with that. I've lived with him for going on 4 years.

I do like my dad's girlfriend, but not when I'm living with her. She... just is wayyyy too emotional and will flip at the turn of a hat. My mom's boyfriend can drink a little too much and can be absent minded when it comes to pay stuff, but he has a good heart and doesn't like conflict. Plus, he treats my mom well, so that's all I can ask for.

My mom just recently got divorced from my dad and he moved to California.
Around May of last year she met a new guy named Scott.
He's been living with us for awhile now and he's pretty cool.
He doesn't like my sister who's on college because of something that happened over spring break.
That bothers me and my mom a little bit but he has a right to an opinion.
He's fun and we get along really well but since it happened so fast I feel like my mom kind of used him to replace the spot that my dad left.
I like him but I'd rather it just be me and my mom because in the beginning my mom payed more attention to Scott than she did to me and my grades started to fall because my mom wouldn't help me with my homework and she was never home because they were always out and blah di blah di blah.

I don't like Step-Parents.

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When I little, I was very awkward and shy around my dad's wife. So much so that she thought I hated her for the longest time. Since I haven't had any contact with my dad in a few years, I think it'd be even more awkward now. If we were strangers, though, I think we'd get along alright. We'd talk about her husband with blatant anger issues, her two rambunctious teenage boys, and her young daughter.

Originally Posted by ahill787

Well, when my mother was pregnant with me, she left my father because he was on drugs and I was an accident. She was working at a ber, where she met a man who stayed with her through her pregnancy and my first thirteen years. I call him dad, after he went away to prison, she went through two boyfriends that she moved in with us, the first one never worked and drank beer and played video games from the moment he woke up to the moment he went to sleep. We got along, he was fun, he proposed to my mother, she said no, he later died of scorosis of the liver. The second boyfriend wasn't quite divorced, upon the divorce being final he went bankrupt and crazy and came to our house one day with a loaded pistol to kill us, thankfully unsuccessfully and went to jail. My mother's third and final boyfriend who was also not quite divorced, did divorce and marry her. That is her first marriage, they are an interracial couple, but he is a truely wonderful man. We get along very well. As for the man I consider my father, he got out of prison and married a lady three years older than me and had a son, we keep in touch and I also get along with her. There is a summary of a part of my Jerry Springer life. Hah!

Very Jerry Springer lol.

Originally Posted by Clair Voyant

Who else here has a step parent? Or, like Clair, one of your parents remarried?

What's the difference between these?

My parents aren't divorced, but haven't ever been friendly toward each other within my memory. Mom has a 'partner' of some kind, who she's been involved with since i was about 7 or 8. Around that age he used to take us out (as my mom can't drive).
As i got older i realised that he didn't really like me at all, only put up with me for the sake of my mom. He think's i'm too much like my dad, and has told my mother he doesn't like the way i speak to her. To me it's just the way i interact with her. Thankfully i don't ever have to see or speak to him, so it's not really an issue.

My parents divorced when I was a little baby so I didn't have to deal with as many emotions early on. When I was old enough to understand what a divorce was, being with my mom on weekdays and seeing my dad on weekends was just normal to me. Apparently my dad kept cheating on my mother is the reason for the divorce, which I can't blame her for.

My mom and biological father fought a lot. They'd always try to manipulate me into thinking one parent was bad over the other because they were caught saying/doing this/that. My dad was always a womanizer though. He'd call me fat (mind you I was only 8 or 10 years old) and put me to work trying to fix up his house while he'd mingle with his "girlfriends" and women he hit on in general. His house was kind of dumpy and I was afraid of it because it was out in the middle of nowhere, I had a fear of "monsters" when I was little. The house was cold because it was being 'remodeled' so there were open gaps in it. He didn't really have a kitchen so in the winter we'd have to cook on the grill outside or go out to eat. I remember always wearing my jacket. I also slept in his bedroom because his was closed off and had a heater. Mine was out in the part of the cold house and had rats because I had hid nasty Easter candy under my bed and forgot about it. He'd -always- insist I sleep out there though, especially when his bitches would spend the night. I hated how the women he brought over would always act like they were more important than me when I was the one who was supposed to be "visiting" him. He never did anything to stop it though...That house is still not finished being 'remodeled' to this day.

UGH, I DIGRESS! Lol, sorry. I haven't seen that man in over eight years and I never talk about him. Anyway, my mom remarried to my stepdad, Dan. He's a great person, and a best friend to me as well as a dad. He has always put me and my mom first and has been around more than my biological father ever has. What I like about him most is that we can joke with each other, and he really does try to understand me and be a cool parent. I love him. And the adjustment wasn't hard since he started dating my mom when I was around 9 years old and my real dad was a douchebag. Dan cares about me a lot.

My parents divorced when I was in elementary school, so I was still too young in my opinion to really have much emotion towards the whole thing. But both of my parents are remarried and seem to be quite content. My mother more so than my dad. I get along with my step parents pretty well. But since they aren't actually blood related to me, I don't feel much connection towards them at all, and feel that I'm forced to get along with them and love them as true family. I've had arguments with both step parents more than my actual parents. But that's because they don't really understand me at all, and don't really care at all to ask me much of anything.

I go to Job Corps now, so I don't live with either family now. But I still have to hear about how horrible each parent is from the other -_-. It drives me crazy. I have no desire to listen to something that happened years ago. And both are under the impression that the other hasn't changed and will never do so.

Though I do come and visit family from time to time, and there are a few times when things get pretty hectic. Especially with my dad and step mom. My step mom doesn't like my brother at all. My dad doesn't like my step brother. And I have to hear them all yell at each other quite often =_=. I get quite tired of listening to all of the drama, which some of the time, I get drawn into when I don't want to at all.

Originally Posted by Saisei

What's the difference between these?

I do not count her as my "step mother" as I do not live with her (or within a thousand miles of her) and she is not a "mother" figure in my life whatsoever. I'm 19, I was raised by my mother. I don't need nor do I want another "mother" figure. :)

My parents divorced when I was in elementary school I could understand. what was going on at the time since my Dad had. tired to hurt my mom a lot get drunk I don't know how many times. break glass plates, dish's and cups on the floor heck he once got so mad. about my brother being not normal since my brother has Autism he threw a tv out of the livening room window. my brother his own son was standing in the middle of broken glass.


My mom got remarried 2 freaking time's my first step dad. I don't want to talk about too much lets just say. I could not stand the porn freak that he was. as for my 2 step dad he can be nice at times. yet he drink's and smoke's a lot he has even pulled a gun out. on my own mom cause her dog's would not stop barking at him last summer. mom was sacred to death so she called the police he went to jail. but got out went to some hospital for a few weeks I think.

He has a son my mom and my self can't stand his son at all. the brat is 14years he lie's like crazy,steal's stuff form his friends then break it. he stole stuff form a cops house before form the cop's kids. my big sister and my self warned are mom telling her. Don't get married to this guy but she did any way.


As for my Dad he never got remarried he has a girlfriend. she is really nice to me own's a cat I get a long with her pretty well. I have gone to see movies with her and my dad before it's fun. she all ways give my brother,Big sister and my self x-mas gift's. a few times she gave me birth day cards even b-day gift that was nice of her.

I love my stepparents just as much as my real parents. They buy me food, and take my shopping. They always love to spend time with me. Ever since my parents got divorced, my step parents have been loving and help me get through tough things in life. Besides on Christmas and my b-day and stuff I get TONS of presents. Like a hundred or something. And there cool presents not lame ones.

My mother is remarried, where my father is not.

My mother married Ray in September of 2001, when I was five.

I do not get along with Ray, usually. There are certain times, but usually we are either fighting or just ignoring each other. He tells me what to do, like a parent should, but he's more demanding about it, and if I ask questions, he gets mad. He doesn't understand that I want to know WHY I have to do something before I do it. And his stupid rules. I get grounded for not wearing socks in the house in the winter. We do have heating, so I don't see the problem with this.

He also calls me names, and will tell me how I'm stupid, etc. Lately my mom has been noticing this and calling him an ass, which, not gonna lie, makes me a little happy inside. XD

My father has never remarried, as he says marriages always result in failures. I hate when he talks to me about this, because then it makes me feel like he won't be happy at my wedding, or approve of anything I do. In fact, he's not talking to me because I have a boyfriend, and he's not white.

I don't have any current step parents although my mum is single and dating someone, my best friend has two full families and his step parents havedestroyed his life. I feel so bad for him sometimes.