They can't and they wont. It maybe frustrating but I know you will find the perfect dress.

I have an appointment for a small boutique next week. I'm hoping it goes well. I kind of think smaller places would be more accommodating and willing to make sure their customers are happy.

Have you picked out music for your wedding? Shaun and I just can't settle on music. All he likes is dubstep. But I get headaches with dubstep and drum and bas stuff.

Smaller boutiques are often more intimate and pleasing.

We have a friend playing live violin music for us. She is doing a kind of pirate song for when my man is up front and a country kind of music for when I come in. Then at the end when we go out, since we both have a lot of Celtic blood, she is playing an Irish tune. For the processional we are doing a piano/violin duo of A Thousand Years.

I think if I ever get married again I'm just going to do a courthouse wedding...
If my partner wants a wedding dress I'll just have her wear one to that... other than that... well if she DID want a wedding it would be very small...

Yeah, ours will be small and probably not very elaborate but it will be awesome.

I have a saxophonist, coming in for 3 hours but then he still needs to take breaks so I have a DJ coming in for his breaks and for when he's not playing. He's a guest of the wedding as well so He's only going to play about 2 hours total after breaks. The DJ would cover the remaining 5. Both were free for me because their family friends but I still have to decide what I want our DJ to play.

I don't think anyone wants to say they even have a chance at ever remarrying. But... if the worst ever happened.. I wouldn't redo any of this and have a second wedding. To me, this IS my once in a lifetime wedding with who I see as my forever guy and that's it. anything else would be a courthouse thing.

Well for me if I do remarry... depending if my partner cares or not, is primarily on my mind as her caretaker and not her partner. If I get a job I want to be able to pass my benefits on to her.

Benefits are awesome. I know that's one thing that will help with being married. My fiance's car insurance would plummet and I could pick up his insurance and drop mine. Right now my health insurance is costing me $530 a month for just me and none of the plans offered by my work are lover than $400 >.< but the place he works at offers family coverage for $120. We dont have anything special going for us as far as other benefits :(

Makes sense. I don't know if I would every redo this either. Definitely wouldn't redo trying to plan a wedding with no job.

Well mostly I want to make sure she always has medical insurance and stuff...

yeah. with no job that's when you start selling plasma for the license and courthouse and maybe a nice dinner.

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i know this is a topic I generally avoid.. but in your case.. Yay obamacare! apply for it in October :) That's when the application process begins. It'd either be extremely affordable or maybe even free depending. It'd be one way to make sure you and your wife are taken care of.

unless you're not in the US.. then ignore everything I said >.<

I tried selling plasma a couple of years ago and they banned me after my second time because I passed out afterwards. Only time in my entire life that I have passed out.

Ouch. I did one year when I was younger and always made sure I drank so much water. Donating plasma always made me so light headed.

Yeah. I am thinking of looking into maybe medical studies, like Celerion.

So is there a tradition kind of dance that the father and bride do? I want to have dancing at my wedding, as much as some of us are good at. I know that traditionally the father gets the first dance with the bride, but neither my dad or I know much more beyond that.

i guess is tradition. A lot of people do dances with the bride/father of the bride and then the groom and his mom. I'm going to have that dance with a song called Cinderella. It migt b really cute but then it might make my dad (and me) cry.

That was what I was thinking.

People are not happy with my choice of turquoise as one of the wedding colors all because of the movie The Wedding Planner. >.<

What's wrong with turquoise?

Turquoise/aqua is one of my colors too.

supposedly there's a line in that movie saying that the color teal/turquoise means the marriage is doomed to end quickly. I haven't seen that movie but I doubt there are colors that mean doom. not even black. I've seen some super elegant black and white stuff.

I don't think so and I don't care. That color has happy memories for me. I love turquoise and silver jewelry.

I think the fact that about... 50% of marriages end in divorce nowadays that doesn't really seem to matter...

people just do all of these crazy things. like my cousin warned me that if Shaun and I are given knives for our shower then we have to pay for them or it means the relationship would be severed. I dont believe there's any truth to any of it, so I'm keeping the turquoise :P

A lot of it was probably old wives tales and it, in my opinion comes down to choice. Marriage will or will not work if you choose to make it work or not. If the gift of a knife and not paying for it means the relationship is doomed, then mine is doomed. My fiance gave me a decorative bowie knife two Christmas' ago and we are still together.

I got knives at my wedding... ended up divorcing but it was more a matter of the knives came into discussion afterwards as to who would get them.