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Elmira Swift: I didn't exaggerate. That's what the nurse told me when I was shaking almost uncontrollably after the first of my twins were taken out via c-section. I told her how cold I was, and she said I'd feel better once they put my uterus back in. It struck me at that point that I really should have looked into what went into a c-section a lot more before agreeing to have one. I just assumed my doctor knew what was best...and I was scared something bad would happen to the twins if I had them naturally. As it turns out the healing from the c-section was so wretched I've regretted that decision ever since, especially because I'm pretty sure I could have managed a natural birth with them. /sigh. Anyway, no exaggerations necessary for my girls, I told them what happened during mine. Just because my nurse had no tact...doesn't make it not true!
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I'm sorry your experience was so terrible! Completely ridiculous for them to put you through that if there were other options. My experience wasn't remotely as bad as what you've described. I had a great anesthesiologist and obstetrician. The nurse in the OR, I found out later, was an experienced midwife who now teaches graduate courses at a private university. She knew more about helping my son than the pediatrician.
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Ehh...it happens. I've heard both good and bad things from both birth experiences. Mine just happened to be horrible for the c-section, I didn't want to get out of bed for 3 days after...and even then I didn't want to but they made me. Natural birth I felt totally great after, both times. But I knew of people who could get up and walk around like nothing happened after a c-section. (I wonder if they had better drugs than me? lol) I also ended up with ghost/gas pains in my shoulders from when they closed me up and no amount of vikodin would take care of it. So ya know, it all has to do with the experience you have as to your take on the method of birth.
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I don't remember having "The Talk" with my parents, I don't think I ever did. But hubby and I promised that if Leo ever asked, we would tell him the truth. No lies. |
That's easy my dear we are all grown, like corn. :)
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But do we have as much dietary fiber as corn?
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No one had 'the talk' with me. I had to learn about it on the streets. ... We had very informative road signs.
The way I explained it to my sister was that when a man and a woman love each other very much, they get married and they receive a special phone. The married couple use this phone to call Jesus, and Jesus delivers your baby. Nine months or less, otherwise it's free. She was like fifteen when I told her this, so she didn't believe me. [roll] |
teenagers. Always thinking they know better.
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I'm not sure if I should be happy to have learned something new...or disturbed. I guess I'll go with both. I'm happily disturbed.
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I "found out" about sex because I snuck in when my family (I'm the baby of us) was watching the movie Austin Powers.
I was hiding behind the couch (I was told I was not old enough to watch the movie but I was a rebel of course) when the character Alotta Fagina came into the mix. My family members all burst out in laughter, but I got frustrated and stood up and was like "WHATS SO FUNNY, WHY CANT I WATCH A FUNNY MOVIE ITS NOT EVEN SCARY." They were kind irked I had snuck down but I think they felt bad for leaving me out and they were like "Her name is funny, Alotta Fagina is a funny name". Of course I was confused and kept asking what was so friggin funny about Fagina, what's Fagina mean, what's a lot of Faginas, what's the joke? It went on for like three days, me walking around talking about Faginas. My older sister eventually got sick of me asking and briefly explained the whole baby making deal to me. She was like 13 at the time and I was about 6 so to her it was funny to go against my mom's wishes to keep it a secret from me. Retrospectively, I think it was pretty stupid for my mom to try and secret-ize a word of something that was a part of my own body. >_> |
[RFIM] That has to be the funniest story I've ever read/heard about how someone had "the talk"! And I'm old, so you know I've heard a lot of stories!
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Who would have known Austin Powers would turn out to be a learning experience for someone! [lol]
Though I agree, your own body parts shouldn't be kept a secret from you. 6 is too young to know every single detail about sex, sure, but I don't think it'd be inappropriate just to tell someone what a vagina is. |
That just proves how religion has added a whole raft of totally needless shame to being human, doesn't it ><
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Heheh, well I'm glad y'all could get bit of a laugh out of it. C:
My sister wasn't detailed at all really. For a 13 year old, she did a pretty good job. It was basically like: "You know your pee-pee? Thats a vagina. Thats what the joke was." "Noooo no way oh no I was using that word so much! " "Yup that made it even funnier. But since you're a girl, you have a vagina. Boys call there pee-pees a penis. And they stick them in vaginas and thats how babies are made!!!" After which I basically died of embarassment and felt really dumb for not knowing and also like what the ewwww no my parents did that gross ew ew typical reaction that one expresses when one learns of procreation. XD (edit to add, I did also think that a boy basically urinated in a girl to make a baby because I had so little to go off of. I wonder if this was a common misconception? XD) My sister just thought it was all hilarious. Typical big sister teasing little sister eheh. any who, my mum never really found out about it. She's the type who considers herself religious, but doesnt really practice it. I honestly think she felt the need to hide it because the word made her embarrassed and she didn't want to deal with having to tell me. the interesting thing at the end of the day is that there was nothing really crazy about the concept of sex and babies, what was crazy was that no one told me why vagina/fagina was funny, regardless of the fact that I was old enough to know I had genitalia. which is what y'all are saying too eheheh. C: |
For me, sex ed was a little hilarious. I guess it was like most people in my situation though.
I legitimately thought women became pregnant after you rubbed some time of jelly on their boobs... Either way, I remember in 6th grade my dad trying to tell me but I was embarrassed and ran out of the room (I think I was scared about him telling me I was right). So... time passes and I start hearing guys talk about jacking off, etc. So I basically asked this black guy who was older and bigger than me how you do that... I'm not sure I ever lived that down in Jr. High. Let's just say he laughed and then told everyone around. So in 6th and 7th grade I read the dictionary to figure out what sex was. And then I fit it together piece by piece over the next 2-3 years. Legitimately didn't know everything until freshmen year of high school... Either way, my parents have never talked to me about sex. But I'm not sure I would trade it for a standard education now. I won't get into how I thought the jelly maneuver happened in factories... Too much information? |
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