Parents
 

Most of us have them, and most of the time, they drive us insane.
I personally am going to move out in 9 months time. I cannot live under this roof any longer. My parents are really derogatory towards me, and my mother is a piece of work. She is constantly rude, and always spiteful and displeased with me. I cannot handle living here anymore.

How is your relationship with your parents? Is it good, or bad, or both?

I pretty much cut off all communication with my family. I was tired of being the only one 'trying' to make things work...

I know how that feels.
It is unbearable to be under the same roof as people who really don't make an effort.
It adds to the pain that my dad treats me as a subordinate.

Well I kept trying to be a good daughter even years after moving out... But all I got in return was complaining and whining and "Give me money" and "I need help paying my bills" and "Hey send us more stuff!" But never a "thank you" or anything of that nature... Not even a single Birthday or X-mas card...

i didnt get along with my mom for the longest time. and then i got pregnant and this whole world of understanding opened up for both of us. i understood her more as a parent and she understood me more as an adult. i wasnt treated like a child anymore. which drove me absolutly insane. the problem with parents is they see you as the baby you were for them when...well when you were a baby. my husband said its going to be hard to take our children seriously when theyre older because weve spent so long wiping their poopy butts. but its something you have to learn to do as an adult. treat your children when theyre able to be, as adults as well.
my mom and my dad split a few years back upon his request adn i still havent really forgiven him for it. but aside from that we have a good relationship. we fight about how to raise children though ( i think he didnt do it right and he says he did it just fine because of how i turned out um hello? i counciled myself out of alot of things you did to me D: ) but we get along for the most part. we can sit around and tlak for hours so its not like we have an akward relationship. i love my parents and i think once a child becomes a parent themselves they do start to understand the weird little things their parents did to them that drove them crazy.
its all in your best interest. really. XD

It's sad to hear that, because I hear it a little too often. That just makes me turn around to my mother and smile for a second to give her that 'I'm so glad you're like my best friend' look. She completely understands me. I mean we get into our quarrels like any pair would, but we work things out and move on with our lives. We don't have time for drama, you know? My father caused enough of that when I was younger-- I guess we both learned that all we really had was each other. She's been on her own raising me since I was about 5 and a half. We've been through really tough times (especially when I was younger and still believed in Santa. She has a letter where I wrote and said all I wanted was a Barbie and a check for some money for my mom.

That pretty much sums up how much I care about her. My family is exceptionally small. One grandma, one aunt, two cousins and an uncle. That's my little family. =)

I really hope I never see the day when my mother's treatment of me makes sense. Really.

She is on a constant balance between yelling at me and making me the cause of all her troubles, and trying to be friends.
And she switches moods so fast it is scary.

Also, she is always trying to improve my appearance. Like, she is always talking about the weight I am gaining. I am not 105lbs, I am 115lbs, and she is anal about it.
Also, my nose piercing is 'appalling' and my hair is 'inappropriate'.

Ten minutes ago we had yet another screaming match because she apparently doesn't 'like' pasta, and I cooked pasta for dinner. And than she knocked into me while I was carrying the water, and I dropped it, and she got mad at me for spilling.

My house, and sanity are going to the dogs.

That is awful! I don't think I am going to keep contact.

I intend to move out as soon as my friend turns 16. She is going to get emancipated, and I am going to go live with her.
I will not get emancipated, but I will tell my parents that if they attempt to meddle in my life I will get emancipated from them.
We have our apartment picked out. Close to school.^^

I am so jealous. I really am.

My mother is too high stung, and has no idea how to handle herself around other people. Aka me.

;/perhaps she needs some counciling XP
not to be rude or anything XP
but it seems a little weird for her to be acting like that. im sorry she does that to you. and i dont think any action would merit that. i was originally speaking of curfews and keeping track of who you go out with.
she seems to be anal about details that really dont matter... and kinda remindes me of my sister in a way... perhaps its a good thing youre getting out of there soon. time away could do you good. (:

She totally needs counciling. I suggested it and she FREAKED out.

I am an A and B student, and I have never broken curfew. Actually, I don't have a curfew to break, because I always set up when I will be home.
It is crazy. It isn't like she is mentally insane, she is Vice President of a bank, but she just... naraw!

And it is always me and my flaws. She cannot seem to stop insulting me, she gets a high off of it.

It's alright I guess... D:

I don't think my family has any issues.
My mom is like a parrot though.
Always repeats what I'm telling her I swear.
And she never says it back right eithe. DX
Like I'll say,

"And Mr. Whaley said..."

"Oh Mr. Whales sat..."


Like really... >___>''

I got my nose pierce by telling my mother that I was going to have it done, with or without her consent, but if I had to do it by myself, I would use a rusty needle.

The thing about it is, I don't hog my mom.
She even has her own myspace. =)
With my friends added along side me. Clicky Click It's not updated much, because the last blog she made we talked over. But you can see my friends are hers as well. She's like an equal opportunity mother since my best friend has a whacked out mother probably just as bad as yours. Thankfully enough, she's my best friend so I saved her from that rut she was digging herself into. Straight F's to Straight A's all through high school for the most part. It's fun to watch whole hearted changes in people. =)

I am glad that you have that relationship with your mom.
By the time that I get out, I am going to be so fed up with her I don't think I will ever be able to talk to her again.

My friends have some hella weird parents, and some nice ones.
But no one like that.

I really wish I could have that kind of bond, instead of the crappy none existent one I have.

Remember though, even through all the good and bad-- they are your parents. No matter how old you get, you will always be their baby. They won't view you as an adult... ever. I've seen it first hand with my mom and my grandma. I've seen her still baby and nag my mom from time to time. It's cute actually. I think the best thing right now would just to get up, hug them, and be thankful you at least have parents.

I did that to my ears, but they got infected!

@Menstrual Cramps- If they were huggy, at all. I think I will steer clear of then for a while.

Do it when they are in a rather calmed state. I believe you're all worked up (you and your parents) and you're venting. We all say things we don't mean, it's human nature.

I wish I could say I was venting. I am a little.
But in all honesty, our relationship is so volatile that it is kinda like this all the time.

I had to move out.. I couldn't stand to live with them anymore.

It was a laugh because my parents would always say " You will probably won't move out until your 25" o_O

Well I prove them wrong. Anyway it actually made things alot better. They have moved to another country now but we still always talk on the phone, thru email and cam. So It's good.