Hi everyone...I was wondering if some of you were like me,,,,that is when you are sad, when you feel you are lft apart, when someone does does something that hurts your feeling or when you just see people having fun and you are not doing the same with them...and you start thinking you are the problem and...you simply cant go to them and say hi and continue whatever they are doing because you feel out of place non invited...and so you shut up and walk away...alone...and when someone hurts you or leaves you alone...you just dont say a word...sort of swallow things...and try to act normal...
What do you think? are you like this?
What can I do to change this attitude of shyness I have?
honestly I feel unable to go ahead and say a word, I feel paralized always thinking I am not worth enough to go say something.
thanks for reading

I hate to sound like a jackass, but that's why my occupation is "Resident Jackass." It's my job.

I suggest two things: The direct path, which is just simply overcoming your fear. Let go of all of your inhibitions, because if you let fear conquer you, you're only leaving yourself open to more pain in the future.

Build self-esteem or something. Find someone with common interests, make friends with them, and through them make more. Also, this is just the aloof part of me speaking: Don't open yourself up too much, because even though mental pains are inflicted by loneliness, so is having a bunch of superficial friends. A few tight ones that you can trust are cool, but a bunch of people that don't give two shits are dangerous to you.

My advice: Don't take baby steps, leap headlong, otherwise the effect may not be desired. If you know another artist for example, introduce yourself, talk art. That worked for me when I still had use of both hands.

Thank you hun, though I do have good friends the kind you can talk (at least 4 or 5) but I dont even want to tell them...dont want them to see me as a "problematic or depressed girl" and dont worry , you dont sound like a "Jackass"

When I get sad I try not to let it get to me.
*Is a Christian*

I can't say I have. I have a friend or two that hangs out with a different 'group'. I know I don't fit in, so I just wait around until he's done.

I get mad. lol
idk why...
btw nice avi its soooo cute! ^_^

I have the same problem, but that's mostly because of my inability to ask for help...

I have this misconception that if I ask for help, it's a sign of weakness, and I can't be weak because then people won't like me.... I have some serious issues, and it doesn't get easier not talking to anyone, but I cope with it. I learned my lesson in a moment of weakness, and I can't risk the same thing happening all over again...

I have friends and such I can talk to, but I don't want to push my problems on them. They don't deserve that, and I believe they have enough with their own problems ^^

hmmm what to do ... that's a question I've asked myself countless times and yet with no answer.

I'm usually the one who cheers others up so when I'm depressed I don't show it to my friends, I either bottle it up inside or I go to a very special friend of mine. He always listens and loves me so much he always has words to cheer me up so I always end up feeling lucky and loved.

But when I can't chat with him it becomes really painful and my chest starts to hurt all the time but still I try to remember the good moments I had with my friends and feel a bit better

I'm the exact same way. The only way I can get it out is by writing or drawing, and the mood effects those, too. My boyfriend can tell if something is up, but I just fake a smile and mutter, "Nothing." I know he knows I'm lying, but he doesn't continue with the subject. I'm very emotional and if I talk while something is wrong, I'll cry. I usually tend to bottle everything up. D:

Lots of people have tried to break the habit, but it's really hard, and I'm sure you know that too. It's like...Trying to teach a cat to stop meowing, or a mother to stop loving her child. It's one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. D:

Sorry, enough about me. I'm really not sure how to help. D:

Originally Posted by Dearest

I have the same problem, but that's mostly because of my inability to ask for help...

I have this misconception that if I ask for help, it's a sign of weakness, and I can't be weak because then people won't like me.... I have some serious issues, and it doesn't get easier not talking to anyone, but I cope with it. I learned my lesson in a moment of weakness, and I can't risk the same thing happening all over again...

I have friends and such I can talk to, but I don't want to push my problems on them. They don't deserve that, and I believe they have enough with their own problems ^^

Exactly ! I feel sorry for them and dont want to give them more trouble, I wish they come to me when they are having trouble though...so sometimes they ask me why you want us to do what you dont? ..heheh...
@akane thanks Im the one that cheers up people too that is why is it so dificult for me to show them a sad image like ...idont like the shame image see?
my chest hurts too sometimes I even cry...that needs to change...

I understand you really well...
Usually I only show my weakness to friends I have over the internet ... in real life, no matter what I always try my hardest not to cry...

Though I'm also quite stupid because even though I try to hide my weakness I secretly wish that my closest friends would notice it...

Has that also happened to you?

yes... it is hard to admit...but I aways wish they knew ...so I could get a hug...and some love...but I did that once and didnt feel good, they worried so much, made me feel so guilty....

Yeah I know, same here... whenever I show a little bit that I am sad they always get so worried that I try my hardest to smile a bit and tell them it was nothing... and sometimes I even make up some story so they won't worry any further

I don't tell people either, and I constantly get the chest pains. I try not to cry, either. o.o Sometimes, the place I try to bottle everything in kind of..overfills? That is the only time I'll actually cry.

I'm the one who helps everyone with their problems, too! They ALWAYS come to me asking for help. I'm not sure why. They think I'm smart or something. They think I'm always happy, too. I'm quiet in general, so they can't really tell the difference.

yesh...I make up stories sometimes too...and then i feel like blaming myself when Im alone....
what can we do girls?

I think the only good thing to do is to pay good attention to the good and happy moments because if you actually notice how much you are loved it seems like the pain goes away a bit or something...

I know.. I try though the unreasonable fear is always there...

I agree. D:

Ooh, I haven't written a story in ages. I'm usually a poem/song lyrics kind of girl.

I do have two stories in progress right now. One is generally a joke, about my OC and my friend's OC. They're twins, and they're like..Incestuous? Yeah, that's the word. It's weird.

The other is about a very eccentric rockstar living in Japan. I could never really go that far with this one. D;

yes I do Im writing about 3 girls and a secret (adventure/mystery kind)

Awe I feel your pain.
I might be a bit different, though.
See..whenever an 'Enemy' or a 'Bully' of mine insults me or trys to hurt me, I always have a winning comeback at them, but its when my friends start to play something, I cant join in. I dont know why..sort of like shyness, but a fear of being rejected if I ask to join, or be though of as a nuisence..:/
Hrm. It sucks and unfortunately, I dont know hwo to change this..D;

I always have a superb comeback, too.
In fact, that's pretty much how me and my boyfriend met. XD;
We got in a large argument.

x___X uhg...I know what you feel. Really...

I'm a boneified coward. I can't break up with anyone so I always make them break up with me, by pretending to ignore them...v.v. And I often walk away from people, and feel alone. I hate it. I try to change but nothing's really working for me. Uhg. I hate myself because of it lately. Being a coward sucks.


I need to learn how to be a bit of an asshole sometimes. Because I'm not going to survive the world without BEING an asshole sometimes.

I don't ever want to say I'm sad, at least not through my mouth. I try not to. Sometimes when I need to I do. But when its something more personal, I express my feelings through poetry and music lyrics. Its hard because I try to make those things rhyme. xP

But I find it hard to talk to the people around me about things like that. Cause they mainly joke around or, just don't give a darn. It sucks, life sucks. But poetry and music help me.

@Dino - Yes, saying you're sad through your mouth is really hard. It's like admitting your own defeat. It would be so much easier if people just automatically understood how you were feeling, and gave you the love you needed at that time...

I have friends who I like to talk to, but they always try to come with simple solutions, not realising that the problem is too deep, or that I am unable to do what they are suggesting. (like: "You just have to change your way of thinking! :)"

It's just too big a task to put on in a state of depression or sadness. You won't see light at the end of the tunnel unless you know that the tunnel really has an end. As long as you're in the midst of it, you're not likely to see an end to it. It's something of a vicious cycle.

I used to be like that all through high school. I pretty much quit caring about what other people thought and just starting saying what was on my mind and that seemed to help a lot. When I do get really depressed I normally don’t tell anyone, but my husband since I feel no one else really needs to know.