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hmm.. Marrige. I support marrige, I do.. but only when 2 people are deeply inlove. Not when parents set up marriges between their children for the sake of bonding with the other family. Neither do I like when an old rich sleezer marries hot young woman.. she probably just want his money and cant wait until he is dead.. >< I dont really know if I want to get married yet.. maybe if I I find the rigt one for me.. And if I were to marry it would only be a small ceremony,.. not this princess, 1000 guests, 5 floor cake, 20 kilo dress kind of wedding XP |
It can work out, but I don't think marriage is for everyone. I definitely agree that it can be practical and all that jazz, but some people simply don't need it.
Some people need space, and if you're like me, you can't spend a lot of time with one person or they'll annoy you. It happens, I don't know why, but there are few people I can stand to be around for more than a few days. (That may be just me though... XD ) For a lot of people, getting married means settling down and people become more comfortable with each other- well that also means, that a lot of the time, people gain weight, it doesn't have to be a lot, but it happens. And then well, sex drive goes down.... Yeah, I'm sure that one's said a lot, but I believe it. Either that or it can be like sex becomes an obligation and all sorts of weirdness... XD I think a lot of it is the pressure and strain of the actual title 'marriage.' I mean, my dad's friends lived together for years, I think it was about six, without being married and then when they finally decided to get married it didn't work out. But who knows, could've been anything.... XD Oh well, I probably seem really cynical about it all, but I don't think everyone's marriage is the same. So yeah... I'm tired of typing my crap opinion.... :3 |
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I believe that marriage is an important decision but that far too often it is thrust upon people who are not really ready for it... For example my mom wanting to have my boyfriend of one year and I get married simply because I am pregnant. I think a divorce is harder on a child then having parents who live separately or together but are not yet married... I want to be absolutely sure that he is going to be the one for me before I go and marry him (cause I do feel it is important to do so to make the bonds even stronger and for the reasons you gave)... Now it isn't just one baby who is going to look up to him as a father but my son (from another relationship that didn't work out) is going to see him as a role model and do as he does... That is a lot of responsibility for someone who is inexperienced as he. But then if he steps up all the better right. And my son will have a steady father figure that does good things as apposed to the bad that his real father does. And he can weigh those actions against each other and hopefully choose the right situation to be in!
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I'm not really a religios person, but I take my marriage very seriously. To me its not so much about papers or God, but a promise to my husband (and his promise to me of course). Our marriage signifies how much we love, care, and respect each other. So much so that we're willing to put up with each other's positives and negatives for the rest of our lifes.
Of course I always tease my husband that he was crazy enough to marry me twice, because we got our sheet of paper in March, and then had a big family ceremony and reception in September. XD Oh but that was two years ago<3 |
I definitely support all kinds of marriage: even homosexual marriage!
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I don't really like the whole idea of getting married. I'm afraid of getting up in front of a ton of people and I don't like wearing rings. xD I will be so nervous when that day comes... It does seem like a silly idea to get married nowadays because the divorce rate is so high. It's like no one takes it seriously anymore. But I do plan on getting married after being with someone for a very long time. |
Marriage.
Is it true that you get your college paid for by the government just because you are married? Because I have never heard of this. I'm just curious since me and my boyfriend are both in college and live far away from each other, and have no money, especially because of college. Having no money pretty much means no getting married because we can't buy a house or anything.
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I am indeed somewhat religious, and do believe that marriage is a state of union which was originally organized and ordained by the most high. But also, I view marriage as a permanent (well, hopefully, anyway) bond between two people that is meant to make them stronger. With the bond of marriage, the "two strands becoming one" the couple become stronger as people, since they now have a true companion whom they can depend upon.
There are also the other perks to being married; insurance, schooling, finances (as long as both work), and other things. But the biggest thing with marriage is that some people don't really know if they're ready for it. It's a big step, and sure, you can be in love with someone and want to marry them, but you do need to be your own person and not depend solely on the person you intend to marry as your guide in life. This is one mistake that I made, and it cost me. When my fiance left me for another girl, I was so completely devastated that I didn't know what to do. So while I believe in marriage, I also think that the couple should make sure that they're ready before even proposing. It would help out in the long run, and avoid any promises that might not be kept. |
I personally don't think that marriage is all that important aside from the benefits it gives thanks to the government. Love is love, but marriage is love with benefits. xD
In all seriousness, though, I do believe weddings are a good thing and should be celebrated because it's a happy day of celebrating love. But other than that, it's no more meaningful than any other holiday with your loved one. I'm not religious, so that may have something to do with it, but I'm just happy with loving some one and being with them. :3 I don't need a ring and a freakishly expensive party to express their love to me. |
I think marriage is just a piece of paper. It's a document that is used to prove that a couple is legally binded together and it allows them to have various benefits. Also, it helps control people from going around and sleeping in different houses every night to minimize sexually tranmitted diseases and such. It also helps us be a society in which there is at least, in the very end, some trust. You trust that your husband or wife is loyal to you because you married him or her or something along those lines.
However, in relation of marriage with love, I don't believe that you have to be married in order to prove your love to someone. Love should be simply just that, and there's no need for any sort of papers or glorious ceremonies to show it. Love is intangible, it's not something you can hold or touch. And although some people like to use marriage to make the love seem tangible, I believe as long as both people in the relationship know its there, then it's all that matters. Marriage also doesn't prove love, as you can just as easily have a marriage without any love. So, except for legal reasons, marriage is useless. |
I support marriage...and perhaps it is archaic...but I believe it's more than just a piece of paper. I look at it as an agreement or almost a contract to show that you're truly willing to be bound to this person for the rest of your life.
And I agree that it's a good idea for legal reasons. As for all the fuss that goes into getting married...well shit, let's just say that I don't plan on spending a small fortune on my wedding. |
Love and marriage are two separate things. Marriage is a legal binding contract between two people. Period. It’s even defined as such:
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You’ll also note that it says its USUALLY intimate and sexual… it didn’t say always. So happiness need not apply in marriage. Would I get married someday? Heck yes If I loved someone enough to tolerate their bull crap for the next 30-some odd years of my life. I’m not a big fan of divorce, it usually ends pretty badly. I want to keep the house and my dog thank you very much! |
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You see, in England, "mature students" get their education paid for by the government. Mature Students are usually classed as people over a certain age, people who have been employed full time for at least three years, or people that are married. And, because my husband and I are both full time students and neither of us have a job, we get paid extra grant money, as we're both classed as each other's "dependants". It's a pretty sweet deal. :wink: |
Wow. :? I wish the States had an arrangement like that. XP
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I look at marriage as a govermental thing, so I find it REALLY entertaining when I see someone asking someone to marry em in a really emotional way or such, I know, cruel, or is that even the word for it?
Anyways, its just a peice of paper that gives you legal rights to be together or something. Plus, you dont need a peice of paper to proove that you are in love, I dont mean this in a way that people dont need to get married, Im saying this as if you have a boyfriend and everyone around you is getting married or such. |
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