what do you do?
sometimes my parents fight over stupid things I think they love doing it, for the smallest things like my dad doesnt like my mom's food or he says I shouldnt be so much with the computer and he complains to my mom telling her she should supervise what I do...that makes me mad because he gets so angry at her and it is actually a problem he should deal with me since i am old enough to understand things..(15) and i dont like the way he yells at mom..

then my mom yells at him cause she says the money is not enough or because he comes late (so typical I know)

well sometimes they fight about any stupid thing I have thought over and over why dont they just divorce...

I am an only child and I have to hide in my room till they finish, sometimes I dont want to bring friends home because of that, I had several horrible experiences of them not caring my friend's presence and started a fight with them in the house, omg it was so embarrassing !!!

So well do you have these kind of experiences at home...if so

What do you do?
Do you try to stop them?
Do you enjoy when they fight because you want them to split up?
Do you try to help one of them?
Do you just hide in your room?
Do you go out until the fight is over?

DOnt you hate when they change and keep like nothing has happened at the end of the fight?
Help?

This should probably go in the Life Issues sub-forum, but...
What do you do? Put on headphones and crank up the tunes.
Do you try to stop them? Not unless I get involved.
Do you enjoy when they fight because you want them to split up? I don't enjoy the fighting, though I actually wouldn't mind if they split -.-'
Do you try to help one of them? I usually help my dad, since my mom tends to start the arguments when he's done nothing wrong.
Do you just hide in your room? Yep.
Do you go out until the fight is over? I try not to x.x

I myself generally just ignore fights unless I'm somehow part of it. If I must, I try and break up the fight even if it means breaking my usual habit of being quiet and ignoring the fight by using music and headphones (which have protected my sanity for now).

I don't like it when my parents fight because when I was 10 they were real close in getting a divorce and it makes my heart ache to think they might go through with it almost 10 years later... I hope they don't...

thanks <3

My parents would fight a lot when I was little.
I think what finally made my mom decide to get a divorce was that I actually gave her a plate and was like, "here mommy, throw this at daddy." And I was like seven.

Now they get along pretty well as long as they're not around each other for longer than a few hours a day. It's been about 17 years since their divorce. So yeah...
long time. But they were really violent when they'd fight. Like they'd break things and throw stuff. So much better this way.

Now when they do get into it it's usually because my dad's being a jerk and my mom never stands up for herself so I generally tell him to stop acting like a jackass because I don't like seeing her get walked on. :3

What do you do?
I usually don't do anything but since I went to see my parents' counselor with my mom I've learned that I shouldn't put up with them fighting around me. He told me that I should view myself as an adult and I should politely ask them to leave if they're being intrusive with their fightining. Actually my dad and mom were fighting once and I basically started the fight in a way. It basically killed me to know that I, in a way, started the petty argument.

Do you try to stop them?
I've tired but I've been yelled at. It wasn't fun.

Do you enjoy when they fight because you want them to split up?
Heck no. If my parents split up I'd be paranoid about hurting someone if I had to choose one.

Do you try to help one of them?
Yeah

Do you just hide in your room?
I've tried that. I yelled at my wall.

Do you go out until the fight is over?
yeah

I have to admit that some things in my family have happened that are just not enjoyable. Oh well, my life is continuing.

Yes that in my house happens almost everyday and I can't stand it anymore. My mother is the one that thinks that always has reason and everyone around is wrong. Seriously! Why can't she be more normal and say once in a while that was wrong?!

O and she loves to complain when my father comes home a bit drunk or doesn't do the things in her way... Well maybe he gets drunk because he wants to forget about the yells and probably must be feeling like hell...

And I loved when she said that I was pretending to be in depression and getting all suicide to get all I want from my father... I still don't get it where she came with that...

What do you do? I try to not hear but sometimes is impossible to not hear the loud yells of my mother.

Do you try to stop them? I gave up on that.

Do you enjoy when they fight because you want them to split up? Sometimes I wish that they slip up because I can0't stand my mother anymore. I still wonder why my father didn't ask for divorce. I'm the only daughter in the house... I would chose my father if I had that choice.

Do you try to help one of them? I don't help none of them anymore... I gave up on that to. They gave up on helping me since my mother convinced herself and my father that I was pretending to be in depression.

Do you just hide in your room? All the time!

Do you go out until the fight is over? When I'm feeling to depress to be dealing with my mother yells.

Dont you hate when they change and keep like nothing has happened at the end of the fight? Yeah! They sometimes act like that. I seriously get lost and confuse. But I don't even ask or talk to them. I barely talk to them now. Only when I need to give them an urgent information... Or when they ask me something. But normally I just don't talk to them anymore. No point if they don't believe in me...

My parents do it at work - which is at the mall food court where other people hear their yelling in Cantonese(chinese)

So embarrassing, and I have to be the one outside working the front because, who else is going to take care of the customers?

But my parents fight Big rarely. They try to get the kids out of it, though. My mom always tells my sister and me to go shopping at the mall so we don't see them fighting... which is stupid, because if they are fighting, there is no way they'll be able to work.

They rarely do it at home, or if they do, they do it in their bedroom I guess.

I so much understand you Livia *hugs* you are not alone

D-Yoop: - huggles back- Yeah.. It's hard. There are days that we can stand them but they are others that I actually ed up wishing they were dead >-< A bad thought because we shouldn't wish that to anyone so I quickly look up and ask for forgiveness of the thought . I'm a bit religious but... There are some things that I don't believe on what the bible says xD

same here...I go to a catholic school and all and even i had used that like "you send me there and you do not respect your own beliefs " but...nothing works...
sometimes I had "almost" wished he died...but i refrain myself because i know it is bad to wish that...
I hate it when things become violent....
@red and black wow yelling in cantonese >.< well at least clients wont understand them =D

It just simply sucks when we have to hear their stupid fights.. My head sometimes starts to hurt for their negative fights x.x

@Livia: That's not fun. If you need anyone to talk to you can send me a message.

Anyways I know I've been pretty mad at my parents before and I've controled my anger. I try not to be depressed about these things anymore because I already have enough to worry about.

Originally Posted by D-Yoop

@red and black wow yelling in cantonese >.< well at least clients wont understand them =D

Which is worse, because it allows my parents to think they can yell like that in public (the mall counts as a public place with people of all ages)

Especially bad is that one time someone called for security to check what the problem is. I wasn't there that time, but I know my parents fight over trivial things often.

My dad is really stupid. He keeps on arguing in cantonese even when there are customers and my mom is almost over the edge, trying to ignore him and serve the customers. My dad never cares about what the customer thinks of him. >o<

sometimes I cry but i try them not to listen to me...idk what they would say if they knew...sometimes i think they pretend i am not there in the house ...

@life in red and black: OH that's not fun. I know it's annoying to see people make a scene. I was just glad my parents got in an argument in a state park rather than in the grocery store.

@D-Yoop: It can be hard to hide the fact that you're crying. I've done it before although it was an entirely different subject.

yeah I know .... =( I dont know if I want them to find out or not ..I guess pretty inside I want them to know

Originally Posted by DelilahHeart

@life in red and black: OH that's not fun. I know it's annoying to see people make a scene. I was just glad my parents got in an argument in a state park rather than in the grocery store.

I wouldn't want to have them make a scene in a grocery store since people we know probably shop there, I guess. My parents try to not get at each other's throats when we go anywhere since their only days off are Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter to hang out with their kids.
You can hear my dad grinding his teeth a couple times on those days.
At least it's a state park, and not an amusement park. They kick you out if you're at an amusement park >.<

hahahaha thats true <.< poor you *hugs for you too*

I didn't know they'd kick people out for that. Well I don't have to worry since I'm basically afraid of amusement park rides. I don't go anywhere near them.

*huggles D-Yoop back*

We've never been kicked out, but I've seen others "for causing a scene and disturbance".

You have a point there. Although now I'm wondering why they don't kick out families with kids that are causing a scene.

Because the parents should know better? And kids are their future customers, and unless they are older kids, little kids have to be ignored or treated as throwing a tantrum. You always blame the parents when a kid acts out...

My mom and dad used to fight all the time when I was a kid. My dad has frustration and stress issues and the only way he knows how to deal with them is yell at someone or something. Most of the time I would just ignore it or leave the room. Other times I’d just close the door to my room and immerse myself in a video game or something to take my mind of it. As I got older he would start yelling at both my mom and I. I remember actually telling my mother that I wanted her to divorce my dad during a time when it got really bad. At times I’d scream back at him, though of course that didn’t work. Several years later he finally started taking medication, which helped a great deal. He still yells and such at times, but it’s not as bad and it only happens upon occasions when he’s under a whole lot of stress.

I used to go hide in my room and listen to music
very loudly and cry and stuff. >__> The few times
I'd try to stand up for my mom, it wouldn't do anything.

I don't think there really is anything you can do
when two people are fighting and they refuse to
listen to you.