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Going out in public.
Do you ever go out alone in public and fear running into someone you don't like? For example, the mall, as it's a pretty good gathering place for people.
I personally just don't like going out somewhere and seeing someone I know, but I'm not exactly on good terms with. It's almost as if you're bring watched by someone that you obviously don't want seeing you. Earlier in the week, I was out shopping around. I bought a new pair of shoes from Hot Topic, picked up a few shirts here and there... bought a belt, and then I stopped by in the food court. One of my old friends that I no longer talk to was sitting a couple tables over, and it seemed like he was watching me... =/ Discuss: - fears of being in public - shopping alone - being watched - Hot Topic - old friends |
I've found that if I see someone in the mall that I don't like/don't talk to I will more than likely see another person as well during the same trip...it's really weird it's like they're all at the mall at the same time just to annoy me
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I don’t really like going out in public alone, period. Obviously I have to otherwise I’d be a complete recluse and grow my own food inside my closet. xD But normally I do try and get my friend to go with me to run errands. I just have social issues I guess. >.< I don’t really like running into people I knew from high school. I don’t really know why, but it just makes me uncomfortable. Mostly because I never really know what to say to them, and then I feel bad for not saying much as I haven’t seen them in forever, and then I get stressed, and yah… you get the picture. I also get bored shopping alone. If I go with friends I’ll have someone to talk to and we can hangout afterwards. However if I really need to get my shopping done I will go alone because I shop really fast (because I don’t like being there) and can have more time to do other things. |
@Polly; You have no idea how much I can relate on that.
I saw one guy I didn't like, and then 5 minutes after him, I saw this girl who gave me a hard time when I was younger... >_>;;; @Aisha; Yeah, I don't like going out alone either. It just bothers me. And when I run into someone I knew from high school, I don't say anything to them. They do the same. The feeling of it is just plain awkward... That's more or less why I hate running into people I know. And I always like going with a friend so it shows that I was possibly "busy" at the time. I dunno... shopping has never really been fun for me, unless I'm with someone I know. Even if I'm shopping for myself. |
Exactly. Awkwardness = No Fun. There's actually a guy that went to my high school who works as a Coke vendor and is normally at Walmart when I go shopping. I used to hang out with his group of friends all the time during high school, but now we just walk right on buy each other. Why do things like that happen? He was a nice guy and everything...we just never talked after high school. |
I really dislike shopping on my own..
Whenever I see a friend or enemy, Im too shy to wave to them.. XD |
@Aisha; Things like that probably happen for a couple reasons. Neither person makes an attempt to say anything, because they expect the other to make that attempt. Sometimes people just get scared to make the attempt, because the other could very easily be a different person than how you used to know them. And another thing. When you're with other people, or that person is with other people, and they don't want to attract attention, they completely ignore you.
@Carmen; Friends? If they were a friend, I don't see why you should be afraid... enemies on the other hand... I can understand why you would avoid them. x] <333 |
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I see. I naturally have fears of running into anyone I know. If I'm out alone, I don't want to be seen by someone else. I'm very insecure in that aspect.
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Some days I just don't feel well or I feel extremely ugly and self conscious. On those days I don't want to run into anyone I know and also feel like people are watching me, even though I know they aren't. >.<; I'm just a little paranoid at times. lol |
Fully understandable... considering that's how I am a lot.
I'm very self conscious of myself. ;____; I hate when people watch me. Or judge me. Or whatever other people do. ^_____^;; |
I really shouldn't be so self conscious. I blame it on all the dick heads that picked on me when I was little. D:< |
Same goes for me.
I was always the kid who got picked on. Ever since then, I kinda had low self-image for myself. I really hate the kids who picked on me... they pretty much made me who I am. >o< |
Exactly. I mean there are other reasons for the way I am, but it would really help if I could be more confident. That's definitely a skill I'm lacking. : / |
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I've always thought I could have done more with my life had I been more confident. And I say life meaning my teenage years. When I was younger, I was always picked on, so my confidence was never very high. Considering my dad was in his late fifties at the time, he dressed me in neat clothes, obviously lowering my confidence even more. When I wanted to fit in with others around the age of 13, I brought it up to him and he told me I was not allowed to dress how I want, because I'd look like a freak or a reject. For your information, I was taking in an interest in the punk/emo type look, even at that age. But still, even when I got to 16... 17... I still only wore what my dad would allow. And it wasn't much. So this killed my confidence. People judge on clothes, believe it or not. Sad truth. He wouldn't believe any of it, so it really got on my nerves. Finally, when I turned 18, I moved in with my mom. (I'm 18 now) Now that I'm finally with the "desired" parent, I can wear what I want. It was kinda odd walking into Hot Topic for the first time, knowing I've never got the chance to really shop alone, and especially in what clothes I had to wear. But... finally. After all the insecurity, I'm finally dressing how I want, and I'm not as scared as to what people think about me.
^_____^ Wow, that was longer than I expected... Maybe I just needed to tell someone my life story. |
I like the punk-goth style. I don't wear stuff like that though as it's hard to find stuff in my size and the stuff I do find makes me look like a wad of chains and black fabric. >.- Not the look I'm going for. *shrugs* |
i'm attention seeking, so going out in public doesn't bother me at all. there are some people i dislike and would rather avoid, but i don't become so paranoid about situations of that nature that i fear going outside in public altogether. in fact, there are more people in public that i meet that i am familiar with that i do like. so, it's a pleasant surprise when i meet an old friend i haven't seen in a while simply by navigating through a public place. there are some people that occasionally make me uncomfortable, but it's mostly because i'm unfamiliar with their personality. the more familiar i am with a person, the more comfortable i feel. because familiarity with a person increases my comfort in social situations, i prefer recognizing people in public places. the only complication i have in this kind of situation is when i need to rush to another place, and i have to decide between whether i want to start a long conversation with an old friend or whether i should briefly acknowledge them and then simply continue to my original designation. aside from that though, i have no issues with starting up conversations with people i know, however if i am familiar with a person and have a negative opinion about their personality, i simply make sure to avoid them if at all possible.
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@Aisha; Well, that's what I wear now. Dark jackets, dark shirts with bands on them, a pair of vans... I can finally wear stuff I like. It almost feels like I'm a different person, but in a good way of course. x]
@memarcus; I'm just the opposite. I really don't like too much attention. I'd almost prefer as if everyone left me alone most of the time. I just stick close to my friends, and that's just about all I need... Of course, if I don't talk and meet new people... I guess I don't meet new friends... hah. |
I'll be much happier if I can wear the clothes I want...it just means getting the right kind of figure to wear them. ^.^;; That's the hard part. |
I don't usually go out alone. If I would go out I would probably be with my friends or family.
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I don't like shopping alone at all since it feels like everyone is judging me so at the least I try to always have headphones on then I don't feel so awkward.Well if I see someone I don't like I generally just end that I don't know that they are there. As for old friends well it depends on how much I used to like them and how we sorta ended the whole friend relationship thing. If it was on good terms then I would act as if it was just yesterday that we had talked and I would just catch up with them. It we weren't friends well then I would let them make the first move and then choose to be social or cold.
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@Aisha; Aw, don't be down. I'm sure you can get there if you try. x]
Myself? I'm really skinny. I could pull off the "emo" look if I really wanted to, but I think that would be a pain in the ass as far as my hairstyle goes. For the record, I'm not an emo wannabe. >____>; I seriously just like the style. @Jhaybz.01; Probably for the best. Being out alone is kinda awkward sometimes... As for family, I definitely refuse to go out with my parents. Fuck that. ^_________^;; @Aeisha; You're almost just like me. That's why I hate shopping alone... it's like everyone is staring at you. And I can't stand feeling like that. If I met one of my old friends, I'd surely talk to them, but if it was someone I barely knew, I'd likely shy away from them. I'm so pathetic sometimes, but I get scared easy, I guess... D; |
Re: Going out in public.
I don't have a fear of being in public places, and shopping alone is normal for me. When I go shopping, well, I don't really know anyone that I'd see anyways ^^;
Oh, and the only two times I've ever been flirted with were while I was shopping alone. And of couse I did the whole "omg shy silence" crap. </3 |
Ha ha, I'm not punk or goth, but love the style of clothing. : ) I also EGL style, but that's a bit hard to come by period. xD And it would get really funny looks from people on a daily attire type thing. x} It's still be fun to wear though. |
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