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Dumb Parents
No, this topic isn't about my parents, they're awesome. This is about this lady I saw in the mall when I was working. She had her 3 kids with her and one of them had a gift card that she was trying to spend. So the lady was like "HURRY UP!!!" and was yelling at the kids nonstop. And everytime the little girl would pick something out the mom would be like "YOU CAN'T GET THAT!" and act like her daughter(who looked about 7) was a complete moron for picking the item. I felt so bad for the kids because they were doing absolutely nothing wrong and were only trying to do what the mom wanted. I understand that it's probably stressful to shop with 3 kids, but the kids weren't out of control and the mom didn't have to yell.
Then she got up to the register and I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt in case she was just having a terrible day and I was being really friendly and polite...even though she still seemed in a really negative mood. And one of the items rang up half off randomly. So when I tell her she says "oh" like she's caught off-guard by something positive happening and it's breaking her stride. And then she yells "WELL THAT'S JUST GREAT! NOW SHE HAS MORE MONEY TO SPEND ON HER GIFT CARD!" My jaw almost hit the floor. I wanted to say "well I can sell it to you for full price", but just barely managed to stop myself. I also barely managed to stop myself from telling her I was going to call security if she didn't stop yelling at her kids. I'm still not sure that I shouldn't have. What does everyone think? Where's the line when it turns into child abuse and you should report someone? Have any of you encountered people in such a negative mood that they can't say anything nice even when something good happens? Do you think that some people should be forced to have their tubes tied? |
Well if I were a mother, I'd let my child buy something a little above the gift card, so it would be like paying on $1~2. XP
Maybe you should have called security on them, but then the mother would have yelled more at her kids when she GOT HOME! T.T; I grew up with my mom telling me it was okay to hit your kids because they've been bad, but not enough to cut or bruise. I've seen people in negative moods, but I've never seen something good happen to them! Haha. XD And what was so stupid about her child picking out certain things? @[email protected] |
I think the line would be when they start hitting them really bad.I have had that happen its a bit annoying but i feel bad for the child because if the parent is stressed out they might take it out on the child.
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Midnight- That's true, I didn't even think about the fact that she might be more violent with her kids later if I pissed her off. So maybe it's good that I was polite. I have no clue how adults get in such bad moods that they can yell at the top of their lungs in a store and act like a 2 year old throwing a temper tantrum w/out being embarrassed. It was embarrassing for me just to watch her.
PopTart- Oh, I definetely would have called security if she hit a child. But I feel like verbal abuse is almost as bad. I felt really bad for the kids too. I wanted to help them, but didn't know how. |
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yeah, it's good that you didn't say too much to her, you never know what she could have done later on to vent out her frustration on those children. or who knows, she could have just been having a bad day, but she still shouldn't have been so harsh on those kids.
i think it was more emotional/mental abuse than anything. but yes, if she would have started in on them physically like more than just a smack on the wrist, that would have been crossing the line. |
Wow. Just wow. I wouldn't have called security on that woman, I would have called the cops. You know that if she was acting like that in public it had to be worse in private. Thats just not cool.
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My friends took me to a store and we were looking around. I was looking at some cute signs and this lady walks in with her kid. It was around halloween so there were "scary things" in the front like zombie things. anyways, the little girl got scared and started to cry. the mother just ignored her and looked at stuff. the little girl begged for a hug because she was scared and the woman just pushed her away and told her to shut up. this happen multiple times. the woman just would not give her daughter a hug and proceeded to look at 'adult' oriented items such as books, etc. I was shocked. everyone in the store was. all the little girl wanted was a little reassurance that everything was gonna be ok but the mother just did care. the little girl was extremely cute too. I just don't see how she could do that. I mean come on, its just a hug. after they left everyone in the store was talking about her poor attitude. I feel for that kid. I'm so glad my mom isn't like that.
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@Usuri: Ya man, that was hella sad~ I totally wanted to bitch slap that daughter-abusing momma! She neglected her child for what? A few strands of party beads and some weird party favors WTF :D I love our mommy~
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Alright here's what I think. My mom has three kids. Me and my two sisters. She can get angry sometimes but she has enough manners not to yell in the store. Not even when we were young. I've met people like that though and I want to slap them. My mom went to school, homeschooled us, and still kept her cool. If that women can't learn to do that then she needs to eaither learn how or get read of the kids. I think you should look at it from the mother's point of view as well. What if she was tight on money and the gift card was all she had to spend on the kids? Or maybe the kids where frustrating her in the car? Then she would come into the store annoyed and constantly having to tell them to put things down just pushed her over the edge. Then that would explain her mood. The kids could have also bugged her to go shoping so they could spend the gift card and its possible that they where also misbehaving and the mother didn't want to reward them incase the kids got the wrong idea. So really you have to take in every factor not just what you veiwed and heard.
As for calling the security, it would have been a bad idea because then she could have turned around and got you fired. Also she'd throw it in your face that once you had three kids that ...what ever they did...then you could complain at her. Thats what some times happens. I've seen a lot of people do it. |
w0w that is really sad for those children to have such a stressed out mother. My mum got stressed with us sometimes but thats coz we were a bit hyper or something like that. But it would be hard to shop with kids like that, especially if that mother was worrying about something and just wanted to be at home. But I think it would have been best just to have let the child chose her own thing and then she would have gotten home quicker in the end.
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You would have full right to report her to security since if she's screaming it's going to disturb EVERYONE in ear shot. Not to mention the child was obviously doin
g nothing wrong. I've had people that have been that rude... but they didn't have any kids... I've been cussed at at work too >.< I think the only reason to be forced tie them would be if they were physically/mentally abusive, since it's not fair to make a kid live like that... |
that's just messed up O.o
the kid is certainly going to loose it and end up nuts if she has a mom like that! that's horrible |
Actually... I know someone who went through something like that... and she's one of the nicest people I've ever met...
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