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Make up your mind! ><
My mother always manages to annoy the living crap out of me. She always expects me to figure out and plan what my family is going to have for dinner for either that week or that day. When I do not have any idea, she starts yelling at me claiming that she has to do everything around the house. It does not help that when I do suggest things, she denies. There is no win-win situation in this.
She does this all the time. Today, she asks me what I want for dinner. She is hungry, and wants to eat earlier. We decide on either ordering or driving to a place nearby. Me: How about pizza? Mom: No. Me: Hamburgers? Mom: No. Me: What about Chinese food? Mom: Not in the mood. This goes on for about five minutes before we decide on getting pizza. Then... Mom: WHAT DO YOU WANT? Me: I thought we decided on pizza. Mom: *heavy sigh* I don't know why are planning to eat so early Me: You suggested it. Mom: No, I didn't. Me: .... After that, I go upstairs. Ten minutes later my dad starts banging at my door, telling me that I need to apologize for being rude to her. I can't even remember being rude to her. She's the one that yelled at me. I am refusing to apologize to anyone until they tell me why I was rude. *bashes head on keyboard* How the heck do you deal with your family? |
My parents are just like that. (well they are Asian Parents so that explains a lot. lol.) However, I am a pretty sarcastic person so anything I say out of my mouth makes one of them smile. I used to get into fights with my families a lot but now it just seems useless. (since they are paying for college for me. xD.) I always said I disliked my parents, however, I do like their methods of discipline. (only because it works. lol.) |
Sounds so much like my mom.
I have a sort of bad relationship with my mother, I can't really talk with her much and the occasions where we do have nice talks are really rare. She's not a bad mother, it's just that sometimes she's hard to deal with. |
@[email protected] i would say all of them lol! I can be like that too! Actually alot! isn't it usually the other way around though where the mom is asking the kid lol
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My brother has raging teenage hormones, my dad is never around and my mum has major mood swings towards me. One minute she's all "so how was school? did you have a good day?" the next minute she's like "no you can't go out, sit inside and revise, I want you getting straight As!!" :roll:
She's also really really soft towards my brother and the things he does. Seriously, at 14 years old, he can't tidy his own dish away, cook for himself, tidy his room or anything. Everything has to be his way. If I did any of the things he does, I would be grounded for weeks. I just cope as much as I can really, look forward to a couple of years time when I can move out and be on my own. |
I don't have these sorts of problems really... although my father is the king of mixed messages.
Yesterday's conversation: (I'm pouring Crystal Light drink mix into a pitcher to make something to drink for the day) Him: I can't see that that stuff is healthy, there can't be any health reasons for you doing that. Me: Okay. (I'm not really sure what sort of reply he wanted, but "okay" is all I could think of) Him: So why do you drink it? Me: I think it tastes good. And he sighs and starts playing WoW again in an annoyed manner. Later that day he ordered no less than 15 Wendy's burgers, 10 double stacks and 5 chicken. Woo, healthy! Have I mentioned that I'm the only person in the family that isn't overweight or obese? |
I must agree, that this conversation with your mom was more tha a weird one.
Though some ismilar things happen with me sometimes as well and with some other people too.You know, hen you think about it, aprents are suppoased not to underastand us an we don't understand them. 0__o Pretty troublesome. |
Oh my lord. I would constantly bang my head on a wall. I just ignore my family half the time. Though, in this situation it doesn't seem to be an option.
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My mother is exactly like that...though she's getting quite older in years...and early onset dementia runs rampant through my family...so it's somewhat expected. xD
I remember this one time, I go down stairs see my brother wash the dishes, he finishes and quickly runs upstairs. Next thing I know, my mom is out and about, complaining that nothing ever gets done, and that she had washed the dishes just a few minutes ago. o_o It was quite creepy, and sad at the same time. It's not Alzheimer's bad, but it's bad nonetheless. |
Oh dear goodness.
Sounds like my grandparents, which isn't a good sign when you're talking about your mother. My grandparents fight over the stupidest things. Grandmother= GM, Grandpa= GP GM- I left the cake in the fridge for you GP- Cake? GM- Yes! Cake. GP- It was pie, not cake. GM- No, it was cake. GP- NO, IT WAS PIE! And so on. It's more annoying to listen to, though. My grandpa has a very loud voice. |
I think that everyones parents are like that at least once in a while or all the time. My parents are like that especially my mom. But they aren't specific at all and expects you to go do something that you are unsure of what you are suppose to do. I know why they are so frustrated though, it's because they come home from work and people at home are just chilling. That's how most of them view children, so they want help, they don't have to seem so angry about it. Sometimes you try and mess up and they yell at you, then you become frustrated and wonder why they even ask for your help when you tried and got yelled at. It happens so often that I'm so used to it. If you are used to it, you should be fine and know what to do.
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I know what you mean. >:\ My parents seem to have this mindset where if I'm right and they're wrong and I point this out, I still get in trouble D:. I also tend to get in a lot of trouble when I point out their flaws :/ and blame it on "getting old". I can see how this might get me in trouble and my wrongs, but they never seem to try and fix them. They also seem to not know when to stop doing something -_-. Once they start prying they can't stop. What I try to do is get calm and try to remember that they can't be perfect.
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Well my mother isn't exactly like yours persay, but she DOES have her moments. -.-;
Take today for instance. I left the house to head over to Target, and before I leave I drop by her work to let her know where I'm going. I was also going to the bank to open up my own savings account. Well she got mad at this, stating that the bank was already closed and why was I going to Target when I had no money? [I did have some, she just didn't want me to cash my check and spend the money that I earned. >.<] So, she ends up taking all the checks I had, telling me that she'd put it all in her account instead. I get all pissy at this and stomp off with an attitude [oh god, she hates this but it was too late for me to notice] and later she comes home, grabs two belts and says "C'mon let's settle this. You hit me and I'll hit you." -cough I'm twenty by the way! cough- Damn, her temper gets the best [or should I say worst] of her sometimes. It's ridiculous. Note: I doubt she was really going to hit me.. XD She was just so freaking pissed off. I'm only staying with her because she helps with my schooling + free rent. >;D |
Shikyo- Most of my life has consisted of conversations with my mom EXACTLY like the one you just described.
My mom is a paranoid schizophrenic (literally, certifiably, paranoid schizophrenic). So whenever something like would that occur in which she said one thing and then then turns around and says another, it means she actually changed personalities in between. And there is nothing to do about it because she's not going to believe it. I've heard that a lot of parents are like that too, without being schizophrenic, but I only have experience with mine so I don't know for sure. If all parents are like that though, I really wish they would stop. |
Bah, I don't even bother anymore. If anything, I try to be as "rude" as possible without really trying to be. Like, I would piss my mom off on purpose, but I would do it discretely so that she wouldn't realize that I'm doing it on purpose. I just hate the way she talks about things. Her and her foolishness! Her and her "it's all your fault"-ness! GRR!
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Ahaha well I don't really have those kind of problems. Maybe you should try saying things like "You decide.." or "Whatever you want......"
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That's.... kinda frustrating.
I know I always have trouble deciding what to eat with my girlfriend, since we always want the other to decide. But we don't go on like that. o.o; |
I get along well with my mom but sometimes I argue with my dad - we both have short tempers sometimes.
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They're parents. It's like having a bad job that you want to get away from but you can't because you have bills today (I'm in this current job situation). You learn to deal with it for a while and then get out when you can.
Parents are both annoying and amazing at the same time, it's one of those horrid facts of life. I try to look at what they've helped me with and done for me for the past 20 years rather than how they piss me off, kinda helps ease the blow when they start acting incorrigible. |
My mother can be impossible like that, and it gets very much on my nerves since things tend to come to me at certain times and such. My mother will complain she does not want to cook, yet she's hungry. If we decide to go out, me and my sister pick, usually on separate places.. then she finally yells out pick one. etc. Usually, she even says no to those places, until she finally says one place and heads there. so I've learned to live with it, or forget it. It's not easy to argue with her, yet my father, he does not mind where, as long as it's food he enjoys, and will eat.
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That happens with me too. My mom will tell me to do something in the kitchen, so I come, but when I'm half way up the stairs she starts doing it herself and yelling at me that she has to do everything herself and to just go away. xDD But it rarely happens anymore, my family gets along pretty well.
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Menopause? Really, though, it sounds like this is her problem and the best you can do is just deal with it until either she gets out of it or you can move out. My mother-in-law has some simialr issues (though thankfully, she's been a lot better lately) and our only option is to just deal til we move out.
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