First Impressions
 

So I made a mistake writing down the numbers at closing yesterday and my manager made a mistake about which drawer she put the money in. So it looked like we were short when we were not.

There's this new girl who worked at Claire's as an assistant manager before, but now she's just a third key like me. She got in the morning after this happened and saw my note to my manager and freaked out and wrote all over my note about how I need to report these things to corporate to cover my butt if we do end up short. And then she reported it. The whole note was so condescending though, so I have a really bad first impression of her.

She also wrote other notes about the way we do things at our store being wrong and asking where the key to the employee files in the back was...we are not allowed to have access to that, and I really don't understand why she would want people's personal information anyway. It makes me nervous. I'm sure that her intentions were good, but she didn't come across as being polite.

Have you ever had a really bad first impression about someone and did it end up being correct or incorrect? How did you deal with the situation so it didn't get out of hand? Also, so we're not only negative, have you ever really had an amazing first impression about someone and how did that turn out?

Jeez, that sounded like a clusterfuck. I'm just a little glad I don't have to deal with corporate brown nosers right now. XD

I'm actually really reserved when I first meet people. They think I'm not really into the conversation, I don't have anything interesting to say... Generally, all around boring. I like to gauge what kind of person someone is by listening to what they have to say for a couple days. Most of the time I can sort through mixed messages and weird conversations and making a friend really isn't awkward.

I usually base judgment on the individuals view of racism, the government, entertainment and whatnot.

Sometimes there will be at least one person who just makes me want to grind my teeth because they're either too ignorant to live or they're just plain assholes in character.

Well for starters, you have to ask yourself why she is no longer the assistant manager at Claires and took a job that was a step down? Maybe she had a bad habit of butting in where she didn't belong there as well?

The thing with first impressions is that it really is hard to get over those. I like to try to give people a second chance, but sometimes they don't make it easy. If she continues to do stuff like this, just discuss it with your boss. If she turns out to be a problem employee, I am sure they will see it and act accordingly. In the mean time I would keep a little bit of a distance from her until you see what she is all about. You don't need her dragging you down with her.

What I first think of people is normally right. If someone makes a bad impression, I try to give them another chance. If it's at work, people that I think won't work out in the department won't get hired so in cases like that there's either a good first impression or no job. I think that you can tell a lot about how a person is by spending just a few minutes with them though.

Ikonoklast- Those sound like good standards for friends. I'm normally pretty quiet too(at least before I get to know people), but sometimes I just can't resist saying something back when people are spewing really racist or ignorant views. Except I don't usually make it really obvious like "your views are completely terrible"...it's more like "maybe you should rethink this...". That usually either gets them to shut up or they start saying even more crazy things and just start to look ridiculous.

Sagitar- you don't seem cold to me :3 I have the same problem sometimes though. At work it's fine because I have something to discuss, but when I'm meeting people without a purpose for the first time I find it really hard to say anything. In consequence, I hate meeting new people...especially when I'm supposed to make a good first impression. I'm still uncomfortable around my boyfriend's brothers and we've been together for over 3 years.

Blondheart- Haha, actually she moved and that's why she had to take a job that was a step down. We don't have an assistant manager position open at our Claire's. I just quit my job! Yay :D (for unrelated reasons). So now I don't have to deal with her. And apparently my manager has already been told what is going on. I feel kind of bad for the girl because I know my manager will put her in her place.

mystic kiwi- Wow, you lucky duck. You get to control who gets hired? I'd like to have that kind of power.

Cherish- Wow, that's terrible that management just listened to her and fired people rather than trying to work it out. It sounds like she was jealous of the attention that the younger girls were getting. But seriously, even if the guys were whistling at you, it's them that needs talking to, not you. Haha, I can't say I'd be above rubbing that in her face either. Good for you.

Arkeyla- Yeah, it seems like that's what this girl is attempting to do(intimidation). She wasn't only writing notes to me about what I was doing wrong, she was writing them to my manager about what she was doing wrong. I think she needs to worry about covering her own butt and stop worrying about mine!

Aeisha- Ugh, that's always an awkward conversation when you have to tell people that you have more power than them. But if she's being rude to you, I wouldn't worry too much about hurting her feelings. Once I was working with a friend and she was asking me why I got paid more while she was vaccuming the floor and I was doing paperwork. Luckily I resisted the urge to say "because you're vaccuming the floor and I'm doing paperwork". :oops:

First Impressions
 

I think the girl you're working with worries too much. My first impressions of people do change, but it takes a really good personality to change it. My first impressions don't change that much, usually depending on who it is, if it's bad, I stay away.

well i think that it was a simple mistake and to over react like that might mean she did somthing like that maybe thats why she got demoted. i have had an experince some what like that and now were friends. my best friend is a guy and i met a new friend who i dident now was his new girlfriend and when we ran into him while shopping, we acted dorky like we always do and she flipped and thought we were together it took 2 weeks to straiten because she was out of town most of the time on buissness.

At my work there was this new chick Shari. She started like...4 or 5 moths after I did and she thought she was the boss. She kept telling me what to do. She kept saying, don't forget this, and do this this way...and blah blah blah.

One time I had to work with her and her register ended up short. Her register is always short. But the thing is, at our work, we have to pay the amount of money that the drawer was short. So her drawer was 10 dollars short. She started blaming me and said that I had to pay half because I used her register. i know I only used it once and there is no possible way that in the one time I used it, I could have lost 10 fucking dollars. It's just not possible, and I'm just not that stupid.

So I told her I was going to pay it so that she would shut up and leave me alone. it's been like 4 months since then and I still haven't paid her haha!

Arkeyla: If you're a pretentious sod than so am I xD. I agree with everything you said in your post.

crunky: She does kind of have the experience, but still doesn't need to be so rude about it. She worked at a different Claire's as an assistant manager before, but had to move so she had to take a third key position at our Claire's since the assistant mgr position wasn't open.

My manager is going to talk to her though :). Hopefully that'll help her realize that she needs to calm down. I think that she just expects our store to do everything the same way her old store did and gets upset when she sees something different. If she ever mentions the money thing to me though(at least in a condescending way)...I think I'll have a hard time not being rude back to her.

xFallenx: I try to stay away from people who give me bad first impressions too. It's hard at stores with so few employees, but luckily I just quit so I won't have to deal with this person.

lizrd356: Haha, that's terrible about his girlfriend. I'd probably think the same thing if I saw my boyfriend out with a different girl. At least you got it straightened out eventually.

disturbed66: Haha, that's funny that she overreacted to being given the walkie talkie like that. It actually sounds kind of cute that she was so excited about it, but I guess it would probably get old fast if that's all she talks about.

slickie: That's terrible that you have to pay the money out of your own pockets if your registers are short. I bet you don't get to keep the extra money if it's over either right? Hopefully she's forgotten that you're supposed to pay her by now.

Purdy Possum Pie: That's a really admirable way to be to me...giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. I can't do that. I can give people second chances, but I can't just completely ignore their faults. That probably helps you make some friends that other people can't make right?

That's unfortunate that you've had it lead to back stabbing friends so often though. I can't stand it when you're nothing but nice to someone and they have to go around making things up about you. It makes you wonder what their problem is.