big girls
 

ok hi I'm soya! and i just want to see whats ur opinion on pleastly plum folk? I am a little on the heavy side & there is a guy i really like but he is super duper in shape. and he sasy he doesn't mind but idk sometimes i feel he does. so skin & bones, more to love or doesn't matter?

This is a really hard thing to answer, I mean to me it doesn't matter. I myself have been on the heavier side my whole life, not actually 'fat' but that didn't stop the kids from school calling me that. It shouldn't matter what someone looks like, but lots of people in today's society aren't that smart and feel that if you aren't 'in shape' then you aren't good enough. But really, I think that's a load of ----.
I think you're lucky, you've found someone who even though you may not be comfortable with how you look, he is.

Plump
 

In our school, majority of the people are either skinny or anorexic. It makes me feel self concious sometimes, but it also reminds me, I can wear clothing that shows my curves, while they have to stick to the same style :)

I've always been a fan of bigger girls. It's just a matter of taste for me. Naturally, as with every predilection, there's a limit, but I've always liked chubby girls. :)

My body is a bit...screwed up. I used to be hanging around the higher end of average, weight-wise...and I was fine with that. I WASN'T fine with the assholes on my first soccer team who insisted I was the same size as someone literally TWICE my size because I wasn't basically a stick figure with some muscle...>.>; But hey. I was fine with that. Really, the only reason they made fun of me was because I was the only girl AND the only Caucasian on the team. And eventually it calmed down.

But then, when I had an accident and had to quit playing (don't feel bad for me over this - I find it hilariously ironic), no matter what other exercises I tried, and no matter how little or how healthy I ate, I gained weight. And this continued for a good, long time. Which wasn't exactly too HELPFUL for my healing knee...>.<; But that's not the point. The point is that for no apparent reason, I COULDN'T maintain a normal weight. To this day, no one knows why that was. Not even my doctors. But I THINK it has something to do with stress...because just a year after my accident, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer...and turned bipolar after the surgery, or something. One minute she's nice...the next, she'll throw all kinds of unwarranted insults at me and/or my father just because we did something she doesn't like.

Now...it's FINALLY seeming to stop, and I'm FINALLY managing to turn it around. But for a while...it was pretty bad. I was actually even considering surgery when I was 15 just to stop it. For a while, I'd given up on myself...just because it seemed like no matter what I did, I'd only be torturing myself for nothing.

But...appearance-wise, I lucked out. My weight is distributed fairly well. Could be better...but could be a lot worse. And now, that whole little issue IS turning around, like I said...so far, I've dropped a pants size since the beginning of the year without even really trying. I'd like to START doing something to really, seriously try...but sadly, my mother would want to join me, and she's the one who lacks self control. I've taken the initiative to start splitting meals with her when we go out...she insists on getting something oily/starchy/otherwise really, REALLY bad for weight loss...and basically insisting it's fine because it's a smaller portion.

Well, obviously that's not working too well, otherwise I'd probably be a size 10 by now. And I'm still an 18. >.<;

Doesn't help that my knee STILL makes it difficult to exercise, too. Thank god I'm finding it so damn amusing lately...lets me just suck it up and deal with the hurting. XD;

But hey. Despite this, I know of at least one guy who seems to like me, appearance-wise. And I don't think I look THAT bad, though I do think I could look a bit better. I do get a bit self-conscious about it sometimes, since I'm also nearly six feet tall...needless to say, I stand out a bit. I'm also one of a VERY select few in my town who DON'T tan...only burn. And I burn BADLY and QUICKLY...so lack of sun exposure has also made me pretty pale, and I stand out in the crowd even MORE because of it. I don't really like standing out in these ways...I don't mind the pale skin, but the general size bugs me. Makes me feel...a bit uncomfortable. That's one of the reasons I'm working to change it.

Unfortunately, when it comes to men, I'm a bit shallow. ^^; I've seen a lot of heavier girls who I've found attractive, but most larger men, I find...pretty much repulsive. I find a smaller, rather feminine build most attractive.

But granted, I usually prefer women to men. >w>; I've never seen a heavier man with that androgynous kind of look. And I don't like particularly masculine-looking men. ^^;

depends how fat she may be.
there are some that are cute, and some that make me want to vomit so much i die.

I am honestly a really thin person, and I am kind of obsessed with being/staying thin...but at the same time when I see nice round men and women I don't think OMG ew....I am so much more thin than they are.

My boyfriend is actually kind of heavy and like I said I'm a twig...but that doesn't bother me that he's over-weight....sure I worry about his health sometimes, but I don't care in the way that some other shallow people might.

I really try not to judge people by how they look, but it's hard, and in reality every one does it at some point or another...

i think that a healthy chubby look is the best. not monstrously fat, not anorexic. comfortable.

As long as you care about your hygiene and stay active, it won't matter that you're big. Show the world that you care about yourself and that you're happy no matter what.