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Why do people cheat on a relationship?
I have never cheated on any of my boyfriends...though I have flirted sometimes way too much till the point to hurt them and I regret that...I was a stupid girl I think I wouldn't do it again but at that time I was too young and really was trying out boundaries I think. Sometimes people cheat because they're not satisfied, either sexually, emotionally or mentally. They cheat because they want to get back at their significant other for something, or maybe they're just curious. I also think we cheat because we're only content with who we're with. if you were amazingly, stupidly, euphorically in love with your significant other cheating would never even cross your mind. you wouldn't be out to see if you can find the real thing, (and yes even if it seems to be only physical, that's what you're looking for) or just settle for less. so yeah long story short. if you even think about it, end your relationship now and save yourself the heartache... though I would also like to discuss what are the horrible consecuences of cheating and in all levels, means int he beginning, the engagement and marriage too. If you have a personal experience I would like to read it and if you have been close to someone who cheated well write it too Discuss |
Just like any other form of excitement and adrenaline rushes. Relationships are the same way. Some people love the person they are with. However, they may get an adrenaline high off of the excitement of getting caught. Much like serial killers merely get off by the pain they bring to people. People who cheat get off by the adrenaline pumping through them with the thought of getting caught by the person they are in a relationship with.
Or you are just dating a whore and they are bored. |
i've never been cheated on.
i've never cheated on anyone. i think it's just stupid. if you want more than one person, don't date. go find some cheat trash whores and have fun with them. there is no escuse for cheating. |
I cheated. I made out with a guy in bed and he kissed below my neck, but that's it. I also confessed the same day and haven't cheated since. Nothing happened to me though.
I've been cheated on. I found out within five days of the beginning of your relationship, and he got all the consequences. The whole school almost turned their backs on him. |
I've only been cheated on by one guy and that was my first boyfriend. He was trying to get me to put out and that was probably why he did it. We broke up awhile later because my dad made me and then he got with another girl three days after. I was slightly upset, but noe I really couldn't care less because I would've ruined my life if I had stayed with him.
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I've never cheated, but my first husband had an affair while we were married. People may claim many reasons, but I think it's due to the opportunity presenting itself crossed with a lack of caring and respect for your partner.
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We as a species cheat because we are not naturally monogamous). In species where sexes have different sizes, they are not monogamous).. In ones that are by nature, the sexes the same size. At least this is what I read.
In our species males tend to be larger...So that means we were not meant to be monogamous). According to this theory, the male is usually the one who isn't faithful. It is in culture to live like this, not our biology. |
there is no way I would ever chceat my boyfriend! I have never cheated on any of my former ones, even though they had cheated me.
It's just not my style. I'd feel so dirty and low if I ever cheated.. D: I even feel bad because I touched some other guy on the back at the store where I work yesterday Dx but I can understand why people cheat on some occasions.. like if they have been married for a long time, and the other half loses his/her interest towards the other, and nooo emotional or physical love has been going on for a looong time.. I'd get lonely too O.o but that doesn't mean it's okay to cheat. I know my boy would never forgive me if I cheated on him, and same goes the other way around, so I hope our relation ship can handle all the rocks on the way of marriage too xP |
i've... never been cheated on or have i cheated on anyone. i'm really straightforward with my partners, telling them exactly how i feel about cheating which is : if you're gonna do it, be honest with me. and we can end our relationship.
i'm not badgering men for like.. marriage, especially not at this age. relationships come and go, and if someone isn't willing to make the commitment, they're free to.. go. the straightforwardness of telling them exactly how i feel about it, and what will happen - no matter what - if they do, i think, also helps them realize that i'm not the kind of girl that's going to play games and do dumb stuff - they trust in me to do as i've asked them - and it's worked out great. |
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people cheat on relatinships because they think that the person they're cheating with can give them something that the person they're with can't give them. That and the person they're with they don't have the gutts to brack up with them. so thats my analogy of why people cheat on other people. But really in reality the person your cheating with only makes you think your getting someting your really not. in the end if you cheat your not only going to be hated by the person you cheated on but your going to have a reputation
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Everyone said what I wanted to say. Though, I also think that some people maybe just want to feel that rush of a new relationship again. That coupled with the thrill of something illicit and the 'grass is greener on the other side' I really don't feel surprised by people cheating.
But it does hurt when it happens. I've only cheated twice, and one was so minor that I hardly consider it at all. The first was on an ex, mere days before we broke up when I had just come home for summer and he was hours upon hours away. I don't regret it, and I never told him about it because he didn't need to know. We just ended our relationship like was going to happen anyways. The second time I was really drunk, alone at uni and missing my darling. I was with a group of people from my dorm and ended up having a quick peck of a goodnight kiss with one of the guys before going to bed. It took me so long to rebuild my darling's trust, and I know I would never, ever do anything like that again. My relationship with him is far more important than any single night of pleasure could be. I also suspect that my father cheated on my mom with his now wife, who is his younger, blonder assistant from work. They married 3 months after my parents divorce was finalized. But, he denies it. |
My best friend went out with (and is still) with this guy chris. they have been together for four years. At about 3 and a half years into their relationship, he cheated on her. More than once, but several times with the same person. She found out a couple of moths after he had started seeing this person. She forgave him and is still with him now. The problem is that their relationship will never be the same. They act like friends with benefits, and my friend is always wondering what chris is doing. I can't blame her for that though.
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Here's my opinion:
People cheat because they were never really into the relationship in the first place. OR they cheat because they feel that the relationship has grown stale and need to spice things up a bit. Of course, that's just an opinion... or two. And they're quite basic. There are probably many, many other better/deeper reasons. |
Well, I've done it before, and while I'm not proud of it, I know why I did it. The reasons I've done it are because I wanted to get back at him, or we were already on the verge of a break up, I felt like he was abandoning me, or just because I was aroused and he wasn't there.
While I agree that it means the relationship is in trouble, I happen to be a sex addict, so thinking about cheating on my significant other happens no matter what. Doing so is when I'm in a down spot, not necessarily the relationship. Then again, that's just me. |
I only cheated once... and i broke up with the person I was going out immediately... I felt so bad for doing it.. I guess I couldn't handle it..
I was drunk and.. we were attracted to each other.. I've never cheated on anyone ever since.. I've been cheated on as well.. I don't understand why people cheat.. I did because I really wasn't thinking but yea... still I did it.. But.. some people I know just cheat because that's who they are.. |
Why does the person who is cheating always get branded as a whore? o_O
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I completely agree. |
I cheated on my boyfriend once. We had only been in an official relationship for two months, but we had dated on and off for nearly a year before that. I got drunk on New Year's and madeout with a guy I had known for just a couple weeks, but had definitely flirted with a lot.
I cannot speak for everyone, but I can explain why I think I did it. I was 19 and never really went through the "promiscuous stage" that a lot of college girls go through. I had three previous boyfriends, all of whom I was completely faithful to. My current boyfriend, on the other hand, had never been in a serious relationship and had a long history of just hooking up with girls. It was this combined feeling of doing something forbidden, and "getting back" at my boyfriend for all the 30+ girls he had hooked up with, and needing to feel desirable and attractive, and acting on my own physical desires. I was not completely happy in my relationship, and felt deep down that he was not the one. My boyfriend also lived 300 miles away, and it just made it feel easy to get away with. I fully regret it, and have never cheated since. I ended up telling him, but it was the most difficult thing I have ever done. His reaction was mostly anger, and I am surprised he did not dump me. It caused some serious trust issues in our relationship, and everytime I wanted to go out anywhere after that he always thought the worst, and assumed I wanted to just go hook up with boys. The worst thing about cheating is the reputation and the label, even if you only do it once. The consequences can be never-ending. |
I couldn't cheat on my boy. I know he couldn't cheat on me.
We're both huge flirts but we both know who we're going home with at the end of the night. I think people cheat because of 3 reasons. 1) They get a thrill out of it. 2) They're bored with their partner. 3) because they got into a stupid situation and thought that it was a good idea. I don't think I could ever forgive someone who cheated on me. |
I have been cheated on but have never cheated. But its my words to say two wrongs never make it right. Cheating is done to say I can always do better and is a big dower to the other person.
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I'm going to lock this up since this thread is over a year old.
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