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After high school I completely disconnected from my old friends. I rarely talk top them becaouse of the big difference of likes and the lack of support that we should have.
I actually prefer to hang out more with adult people then with the people that has the same age as me... They seem to not have a decent brain at the moment xD But yeah keeping the old friends as your friends but don't pass so much time with them if you don't' feel comfortable to pass all the time with them. It can be frustrating when they always disagree with you... I have been there and I learn with it and therefor I moved on to a different ambient and felt much happier :'D |
Hm... can't say that I've ever had to do this "moving on from friends thing." I've had it done to me once or twice I guess and I'll admit that it hurt (then again, it was in my elementary school years). I've never felt like I out grew my friendships or that I need to make new friends because my current friends and I don't have enough similarities. Of course, I'm always open to trying new things to possibly even make some similarities too.
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well in grade school i used to move from friend-to-friend since classes changed every year but after that i've stuck to my current group of friends. i still dunno about high school though....i have to wait till semptember....but my group's made of five asians and we all love video games, anime, manga...okay we're all a bit otaku-ish but not much...well my second best friend's the otaku-est girl i've ever seen xD my best friend loves video games too but her parents are strict O.O;
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Most people only stay friends with the people they meet in college according to studies. I don't know. Sometimes I am extremely bored while hanging out with my friends, but I still love them. I don't know... it's all so confusing.
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Right now my friend is my body guard O.o
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Honestly it didn't happen for me in High School, it happened afterwards in a different way. After I graduated I realized that the friends I called 'friends' in High School weren't really friends. They were only there to give me comfort through school. After I graduated I hadn't heard from one of them.
I became quite lonely of myself and tried to make friends that weren't my sort of friends. That obviously didn't work. There were also a few people who clung to me thinking I was their friend which bugged the everliving crap out of me. O_O I ended up moving out of state and now all of a sudden they are all contacting me through Myspace, YouTube, etc. :sarcasm: Anyways, now that I am in a totally different state I've only made one friend which is now my loving boyfriend :3 |
Yea, been there done that.
Lucky me, I still have a few friends I am uber close with that I had since middle school. (I am in college now) I have made new friends. THey are more partiers though:P So that will probably be my new group till I grow out of that. Then When I am in about my mid 30's I will prolly have completly different group of friends. I don't mind to much. I mean, It does suck, I care about most my friends. But people change dear. As long as I am friends with my b/f and a few other friends for the rest of my life. I will live. But I hope you don't go crazy. I mean, there are so many ways to keep in touch these days, and it can be a small worls. You never know. In 10-20 years. You and your friends might meet up again and find you still have some of the same interest. and Ta-da! |
<.< I'm a bit of an anti social person, but yes, I've done that plenty of times. And if I do happen to talk to an old friend, it seems like we are from different worlds.
Sadly, I've yet to make myself believe it's time to move on from my longest friend. I still care for her deeply, but I don't think our friendship is going anywhere, and we are at different points in our lives. She's in marriage mode [she's 25 and on her third marriage] and I'm blissfully.. taken but with out the statuses. But I don't gain more friends as I move on, my social circle is a bit small. But with the work I do, I am fine with only having my room mate to interact with, and of course, I call my siblings. |
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Yep. I know what you're talking about.
I knew this one girl since I was like, 10. She and I have basically nothing in common, except we live a few houses away from each other and are basically the same age. After we got too old to be playing, when we'd hang out, we'd talk. And that's when I started to realize how little we had in common. Most of what she'd talk about is stuff that happened to her at school with her friends. At the time, I was in a drama class once a week, but did nothing else for the rest of the week (I'm homeschooled) so I would only have stories to tell once a week. And when I would have something to talk about, she would kind of blow me off or not respond and then just start talking about something else. And that pretty much summed up the whole friendship. So like, she kept sending spammy forwards to my cell phone. And it was really starting to bug me. I'd think I got a text message, but really it was "FRieNDS R likE BAllOONs [blah blah blah]" So finally I responded telling her they were all false, you don't have good luck if you pass them on, some people get charged for RECEIVING texts (so people would be paying to get spam) and stuff. She got really offended by that, and I haven't heard from her since. It's not like I'm like "Oh, you spammed my cell phone, I don't want to be your friend!" But hey, if she wants to be pissed off at me for THAT, I'm better off without her. But if she wants to show up one day like it never happened, that's fine too. I'd be perfectly fine with never seeing her again. It wasn't a great friendship anyway. I've recently become good friends with another girl. We get along much better. She never blows me off, she listens when I talk, we joke around, and she doesn't hate me if I express a less-than-positive thought. As a matter of fact, when I confronted her about the fact that I thought her boyfriend was bad news and that she should break up with him, she thanked me for speaking my mind. And she doesn't act holier-than thou. Nor does she internally roll her eyes when I talk about my boyfriend. |
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I'm finding myself more and more different than most of my school friends; they're just a little too far removed from the people I'd like to have as friends. They're good people and all, but they're just not right for me.
With one exception, which proves problematic because I won't be able to sacrifice one good friend for being apart from all my other friends-who-aren't-very-good-for-me. Luckily, my school's students kinda change every year. It's not an easy school to stay in, and new people join every year. Maybe I'll get lucky. My non-school friends are very different from that, however; they're friends from past schools and they're awesome. Unfortunately, I don't get to see them as often as my school friends. |
I know what you mean. I sometimes even compare my everyday friends to the ones I've met online.. Some days, I choose my online friends to the ones I see everyday.
At the moment, I have two different groups I can hang around. They're both different, in ways. I could hang out with other people besides these two groups, too. In a way, I could turn into a drifter.. not attaching myself to many people. |
well I understand I feel very scared too I am going into grade 10 next whole new school whole new friends and I feel so lost and confussed, but then I am begining to relize that over the past three years I have lost so many friends for more "popular" groups, so is the way life is going to stay?
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I guess the point where I started doubting my friends is when I realized that they weren't there when I needed a pat on the back.
I guess I got sick of coddling when I was the one who needed coddling, you know? For example, my friend lost her boyfriend, and I let her cry on my shoulder, but when I got all stressed out from being harassed, no one even noticed. |
I know what you mean;
I feel the same way now~ I hang out with a group of people who went to my elementary school, and we've been friends for so long that I think we're growing bored of each other D: Which really sucks~ @Law: Yeah, it's like that for me too... if something bad happened to me, I wonder if anyone would even notice? D; @i Candy: I agree with you there; I feel like I can trust my online friends so much more than my IRL friends too XD |
This never so muh happened to me. What I had was more like there was a time that I realized I had no friends.
And at the time that was absolutely true. I had not a single real friend. And then I was sitting in class and this really bitchy girl said in that this-is-supposed-to-be-really-hurtful tone that I didn't have any friends. It offended me, but not really because it was true, just because she thought that would offend me. The way I see it, if your friends are worth having as friends, hang on to them, if you don't feel that motivated to keep them, then they're probably not that great in the first place. |
I understand what you're saying.. sometimes I feel the same way.. people change, you change, so sometimes it's difficult to stay with the same group of friends and trying to get along with them.. you'll just hurt yourself that way~
I used to have a good group of friends that I hung out with just a few months ago.. but one certain person in that "group" just really got on my nerves.. but my other friends didn't really mind, even though I did. I'm pretty sure she wanted me to leave as well.. it's kind of sad, in a way.. 'cause I been friends with those people for the longest time.. but we can't really talk anymore~ the friendship is pretty much gone.. it's one of my greatest losses, but I know I'll make better friends in the future.. |
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