Why do people assume that not being a virgin is cool?

Lying about being or not being a virgin will NOT win you points with the opposite
[or same] sex.
So you're with a girl and your a virgin. Point? She's not going to care. (Most of the time.) If you just tell her "I'm inexperienced" and let it go, she shouldn't make a big deal of it. If she does, she's not worth it. Lying about not being a virgin? WHY?! If you're not a virgin, tell your partner. Don't lie, and don't tell them your full history (unless they invite you to). Don't treat a girl any different because she is/isn't a virgin. Same goes for you and your boys, ladies.

Where I'm from, it's only cool to not be a virgin if you're a guy.

It's true that girls don't care if the guy is a virgin or not, but if it is the girl it makes the difference. Some guys here will only go for girls that they know are NOT virgins, because the think it's easy sex. Some guys want virgins only because they don't like the idea of the girl being "already used". And not in the sense that they want to take the girls virginity but in the sense that they think it's dirty that the girl has already had sex.

Plus, in high school... If you're a girl and you're not a virgin, you instantly become an easy target for the "whore" attack. People can, will, and do approach other people with incredibly rude intentions. It's pretty sad.

It's not like sex is an unnatural thing, so I don't know why people make it to be such a big deal.

Well i don't lie so thats that

I'd rather the guy I'm with be a virgin (until I'm with him, of course, lol).

There's just something foul and nasty in the back of my mind when thinking that the guy has already had previous sexual encounters.
Automatic strong turn off.
One of the strongest, in my case.

Though, on the subject of lying, I wouldn't want them to lie, either.
I'd do my damnedest to find out the truth, either way. I know how to find that shit out.

Thankfully, my boyfriend is neither a liar, nor had been previously sexually active.

That's the same way it is at my school. Your not a virgin, your instantly a whore. And then people start saying stupid things. But also if you are a virgin, people still say stupid things because they think your just scared when really you may have good reasons or maybe your just not the type of person to try to lose your virginity as quickly as possible.

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Contra: I kinda of feel the same way as you.

I'm a virgin and could care less on what others think off me where I live. Most of my friends, and random girls I run into have already lost there virginity, and they're not even out of high school yet. Nor have they began college, etc. I find it sad, because they look at me and say I'm stupid, etc. Yet, I don't want to lose mine till I find the perfect guy, and not focus if I'm trying to fit in with some stupid crowd or not.

Kids are stupid, they lie about stupid things. That's just the way it is.

Sex in particular is one thing a lot of teenagers tend to glamourise, because if you're having sex, you're "lyk totally a mature grown-up."

Yeah, Contra, I agree with the guy being with another girl is already a turn off.

So I suppose it works both ways.

People just need to stop judging just of of the bare fact of being a virgin or not. It's not right when people don't know of the situations.

I also agree with Cherish. Being a teenager myself, I know of some girls who think they're grown up and mature just because they're not a virgin, but I don't think that follows ALL teenagers.

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I hate when virgins lie about it.

You really don't look as cool as you think you do.

So stop it.

Around here, I see why girls lie if they aren't virgins. It's a small school (a bit over 500 kids per grade) and if someone even suspects that you've done -something- sexual, you'll be harassed to no end. That happened when someone started a rumor about my friend giving a blowjob in the bathroom (it was true, but the person had absolutely no basis to start that rumor and our whole "group" denied it so it died down).

they're afraid of people calling them names or treating differently.
they care about what people think of them.

I get that all the time... you know what's insane? Guys think I'd like them more if they screwed every girl in the school... it's just plain sick

Personally, if I was in a relationship with a guy and he wasnt a virgin..
It would bug me to no end, and it's a major turn off.

Guys think it's cool in my school to not be virgins, while girls think its sick. Honestly girls rather date a virgin guy than one with experience because they feel safer. I know I'm a virgin and I'm proud of it. It means I'm not another slut who has to seek the excitement of sex, sex is so over rated.... There are far better things out there to do...

Personally, I don't care if someone lies and says that they're not a virgin...but I don't think that I would date anyone who would be immature enough to do that. What I mind is when people lie and say that they are a virgin. I think that's insanely selfish if you're going to sleep with someone. Who knows what STDs someone could have picked up. For that reason, it's best for people to always get tested before they have sex. If they really feel like they need to have sex, it can wait until after they get their results back.

What's the point in lying about it? Wouldn't you just get found out in the end? I do feel a little...weird...when I'm talking to people but I wouldn't lie and say I'm not when I am. My boyfriend knows I am and he knows why, my ex just wanted sex and kept asking all the time it was like "I love you, can we have sex" so yeah he got none, he even tried saying he wanted to marry me but when I asked him if he was lying about it he said he couldnt ask me till he'd had sex because "if it doesn't work intimately there's no point in the relationship" o_O yeah that was his time to go away. Maybe I'm weird now but I don't want to rush into it I want to be absolutely sure he's the right guy first. My new boyfriend is a million times better than my ex, I've only known him for about 5 months but he hasn't even mentioned anything about sex and I feel completely secure that he's not going to try and get in my pants every time we're alone like my ex did.

I'm not really asked about that at all except by my mom. .-. I tell her the truth and the truth is yes, I am a virgin. I'm not the kind of person who'd waste something like that on any one. :] They have to be right for me and I have to trust them enough. Which no one believes me at all with that since my boyfriend sleeps in the same bed as me but mehh, as Michael Jackson said "One of the most loving things you could do is share your bed. :B

Loool. I think it's funny when people lie about this sort of stuff. It's like, some people like to say they're still virgins when they're not and all that. Well if you still wanted to be a virgin maybe you shouldn't have had the sex, hey? And when virgins say they aren't one, I just don't see the point in that. You wanna act like you've have sex and tell people you did, then do it for real. What's the point in pretending about all this stuff, it's not a big deal. Everyone has their reasons for being or not being a virgin, there's nothing to judge. Honestly, like everyone I know is aware that I'm not a virgin and it's not like they say things like "oh naomi is such a whore". Dunno, you are who you are. Either way it's not a big deal, so you should be honest about it.

You know... I also think that maybe they lie and say they aren't virgins just to have something to talk about... which annoys the hell outta me

Um. Around here, nobody really does the whole "Oh it's cool to be having sex!" thing. Nobody really cares about that. If you have sex, good for you. If you don't, that's cool too. My boyfriend gave his virginity to his most recent ex-girlfriend, whom gave her virginity to him as well. Which is really cool, imo. I, myself, am a virgin. He and everybody knows that I am. It's not a big deal about what you are. I don't think it's necessary for somebody to share their entire sexual history with somebody. I, personally, wouldn't want to know what my other has done with other females.

Originally Posted by Liverpool Glasgow

I, personally, wouldn't want to know what my other has done with other females.

:yes: The past is not important, it only becomes important if there is the possibility of diseases.

I've never encountered someone who lied about their virginity.

I don't understand it either. In fact, I don't understand why it's not the other way around.