haha. All these posts are making me feel even worse about losing my virginity at age 15... >.>

I was in a rush to lose it. Well, sort of. More like, I really didn't have a reason to keep it. And I really liked James, and he wanted to, so why not.

That said, I'm EXTREMELY glad I'm still with him. It makes me feel a lot less... easy/too young.

Originally Posted by KeiKei Shunu

haha. All these posts are making me feel even worse about losing my virginity at age 15... >.>

I was in a rush to lose it. Well, sort of. More like, I really didn't have a reason to keep it. And I really liked James, and he wanted to, so why not.

That said, I'm EXTREMELY glad I'm still with him. It makes me feel a lot less... easy/too young.

Aw. Being that you are still with him though, it couldn't have been that bad of a choice. It is a bit young, but if you love each other it isn't so bad. I just see so many young kids talk about how they had sex and then broke up a few weeks later and I wonder why they didn't wait if they weren't close enough to each other to keep the relationship going. Sometimes I feel like a moron for being 21 and still haven't actually had sex yet. But I wanted to make sure that I do it with the right person and make no mistakes, and that I'm completely comfortable with the whole thing. At least I'm quite certain that the guy I'm with is the right one. I've come very close to doing it with him and then got scared at the last minute. Now I kind of kick myself for not going through with it, because I love him, but there's always a next time.

Haha, I'm 19, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and yes I know it makes me sound like a whore, but I've been with 11 guys total, and honestly, I'm still embarrassed to be looked at XD

It's probably weird, but I haven't really gotten any complaints. I'm not embarrassed at all about my upper half, just my lower half. I prefer to engage in sexual activities under the covers, just because it blocks his view, lmfao.

Originally Posted by Sagitar

I never thought sex was gross when I was 13 and stuff, but I just KNEW it would be wise to wait until I was older and with someone who I could trust.. :3
I don't get what's the RUSH to lose your virginity.. :roll: it's not something to just get it over with.. and if you think it like that, you'll probably be dissappointed :|

I waited until I was 17 and with a trustable person, who now happens to be my husband after 4 years xD :heart:

The problem with this is, while I agree completely, you just plain don't know who you can trust.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity, and I really, really liked him. Turns out he was stupid, but of course I was too for trusting him. The day after, I didn't hear from him for over a week, then he broke up with me online when I was 600 miles away staying with my cousin.

It's a mistake, of course it is, but sometimes it's one that can't be helped. Truth is, sometimes it's impossible to tell if you can trust someone until it's too late.

My next boyfriend after him, who I also trusted, watched his best friend rape me.

After that I fell into a deep depression, and I was frankly a little traumatized, so I took it out sexually. People have reasons for what they do, and you can't always blame them. I'm not angry with myself, however unfortunate a black mark it left on my reputation.

wow. looking at all the recent posts, i do feel like quite the little whore now. o__e
i'm fourteen and i've been sexually active for about.. six months?
not to mention i turned fourteen about a week after becoming sexually active.

-hides-

._.

BTW
i am still with the guy. x3

I am actually really comfortable in front of my boyfriend
I don't even love my body, but my boyfriend seems to like it enough, and he is finally comfortable with me too, being completely naked.

Idunno, I just think of it as if they don't like what they see, they can leave. People in love forget about flaws or learn to love them.

Bingo, Yahtzee, and all that.

This person hit it right on the head.

my boyfriend's comfortable being naked infront of me, ho yeah.
he loves to see me naked.
i just don't like my tummy. x___x
everything else he can drool at all he wants,
just not the tummy. ; 3;

@Vicki Da Kittie
Hmmm yeah, I think I know what you mean about the maturity level....but not really the case for me....guess I'm truly not interested. Specially in someone seeing your bits for the first time....a bit disconcerting.
Agghhh, I've got the dirtiest mind...but I'm such a prude......does that make sense?
:sweat:

@Sute buuu
Hehehe, we are both then going to be old when our fields be pillaged...arrr.
Wait, what sounds do vikings make.....
:insane:

I used to be embarrassed for my hubby to see me in the nude, but that was because I was a virgin before him, and I soon got over that in time. But before that, I didn't want to have sex with the lights on our without having a blanket or something over us because I didn't want him to see me flat-out naked. And having sex with some form of clothing on I find to be uncomfortable.

There have been times where he has felt embarrassed or self-conscious about himself, which can sometimes be cute. But I tell him he has nothing to worry about because he's attractive and he knows he is.

But if a guy stares at a particular place, such as "down there" its more than likely because he finds it attractive.

Originally Posted by IndiGlo

@Vicki Da Kittie
Hmmm yeah, I think I know what you mean about the maturity level....but not really the case for me....guess I'm truly not interested. Specially in someone seeing your bits for the first time....a bit disconcerting.
Agghhh, I've got the dirtiest mind...but I'm such a prude......does that make sense?
:sweat:

@Sute buuu
Hehehe, we are both then going to be old when our fields be pillaged...arrr.
Wait, what sounds do vikings make.....
:insane:

I think they do go arrr.. >__>

Vikings were pretty much pirates too, after all.

But yes... although.. I'm sure I'll be older than you will be.. xP

I think it's probably harder as a guy, though.. because from the second you physically can have sex, you want to pretty much every second of every day.. then it sucks when you can't... and sucks even more when you want to that much, but you're not willing to do it with just any girl.. >___>

Originally Posted by Roah

The problem with this is, while I agree completely, you just plain don't know who you can trust.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity, and I really, really liked him. Turns out he was stupid, but of course I was too for trusting him. The day after, I didn't hear from him for over a week, then he broke up with me online when I was 600 miles away staying with my cousin.

It's a mistake, of course it is, but sometimes it's one that can't be helped. Truth is, sometimes it's impossible to tell if you can trust someone until it's too late.

My next boyfriend after him, who I also trusted, watched his best friend rape me.

After that I fell into a deep depression, and I was frankly a little traumatized, so I took it out sexually. People have reasons for what they do, and you can't always blame them. I'm not angry with myself, however unfortunate a black mark it left on my reputation.

well see... I was very blue eyed before. I trusted a bunch of guys who would play with my feelings. :roll: so after that, I was more careful, and with him, I just somehow felt that it was right, and that I could trust him.. when it was our first time, I wasn't shaking at all ^^ (any guy before that who would even TRY to do anything sexual to me would have been beaten up.. xD ) I think if I was any younger than 17, I would have been too naiive to trust someone like that..

but gosh, I'm really shocked about what happened to you... o_o those boys just totally used you! I hope you kicked their asses later D:
don't wonder at all if you were traumatized..

I was 14 when I lost my virginity and that was fine for me. I don't regret it at all.
I got my period for the first time right after my 11th birthday, so I think my body was ready for it. I didn't really change since I was 14, I'm 23 now. Seems like my body was already done with growing. ^^; I was also mentally ready to do it. I never felt wrong doing it, it always felt right for me. It's not like he was Mr. Right, but hey, we had a nice time together.

That's another thing. Some people are simply more comfortable having sex in a more casual fashion than others. In that regard, I'm a prude, and have always been a prude, but that doesn't mean that some people haven't had that casual attitude the whole time they were growing up. Perhaps they came from an environment where sex was believed to be a fun activity to be engaged in responsibly, but casually.

Sex....Its messy and unsatisfactory most of the time for one of the partners. Causal sex can be fine in some cases but not really for all. Sex is mainly used as a tool for most people. Some use to get what they want, others think they can control someone with sex. Sex no matter what from will scare your heart in a way. Even if that scarring is good or bad, sex can and will have some profound change in your life.

Now for the girls, this is a tip to figure out if the guy is using you. Its all in the way he treats you. If he treats you like his dream car (The one he works hard for,, you know what I am talking about. Always careful with it, loving it. Tinkering with it in someway all the time.) Then he is right for you. Because he is putting effort into something with you. He is trying to take care of you. Sorry if the car made you feel like an object.

Now if he treats you like a rental car..or a free car. Then no! Stay away from him, he will use you into the ground and leave you for a newer model. I hope this makes sense to you all. I hope it can help!

Originally Posted by UkeRoxas

Sex is mainly used as a tool for most people. Some use to get what they want, others think they can control someone with sex.

I don't know how old you are, but it's a pity you're so jaded. I really feel bad for people with such little faith in other people. It certainly will make it difficult for you to actually find the right person when the time comes. :(

:0 Roah, I just read your post. Holy Fuck. :0

*snugsnug* I'm sorry those guys were such bastards.
And I know what you mean about trusting "the wrong guy". Some people are quite good at building trust and then breaking it down quite quickly. :c
*hug* I'm glad that it seems that your current boyfriend is good for you. :3

@Kinmotsu/UkeRoxas -- :0 You are jaded, Roxas! :0 I agree with Kinmotsu.. It happens, but it's not what it's all about. :c Sounds like you've been with some jerks as well.

I guess I'm lucky that the 1 jerk I was with was only 1/however many. :c I was so pissed at him. I gave him a handjob because he wanted one, and I thought he liked me a lot. The day after, he told me "You know, the more time I spend with you, the more I realize I really don't like you. I've been meaning to tell you for a week or so. Thanks for the handjob. It was great."

>.> douchebag. Why didn't you tell me earlier? BEFORE I gave you that "great" handjob. Fucker. :c

Well I'm the same way but for me I think it's cause I'm a virgin so when it comes close to the getting the clothes of part I panic and say no and then we stop messing around cuase I'm terrafidd of being the center of attention

...Jaded huh......Thats new. I just looked at past events from me and friends and placed in my calculations. I've been told I am not a friendly person or to harsh..but jaded. I guess its kind of true though I never thought of myself in the way before.

But most people I meet tend to be jerks......hmmm......I guess I need to think things like this through or something. Not everyone is the same......But I have yet to meet the the 'ONE who will show me what its like. if you get my drift.' But I don't let things like that stop me.
I am not modest in the least and end being babied to much because every one feel I will break soon from the strain of my life. But I feel fine I and I do stand by my earlier comment. Sorry if its..jaded. But its how the world was presented to me.

Originally Posted by UkeRoxas

...Jaded huh......Thats new. I just looked at past events from me and friends and placed in my calculations. I've been told I am not a friendly person or to harsh..but jaded. I guess its kind of true though I never thought of myself in the way before.

But most people I meet tend to be jerks......hmmm......I guess I need to think things like this through or something. Not everyone is the same......But I have yet to meet the the 'ONE who will show me what its like. if you get my drift.' But I don't let things like that stop me.
I am not modest in the least and end being babied to much because every one feel I will break soon from the strain of my life. But I feel fine I and I do stand by my earlier comment. Sorry if its..jaded. But its how the world was presented to me.

*hug* We're not trying to insult you! :3

I'm pretty jaded too when it comes to certain things.
It's just, you shouldn't lose hope that people want sex to be "one with" someone. There are some hopeless romantics out there still. :3 *points to self*
I know that you'll end up finding someone who wants sex with you just to be with you, or to be closer then just holding.

:3

But please don't feel insulted by us.. ._. Sowwy! *snugsnug*

I wasn't insulted. It was just weird being called that. You people are the first so I had to sit back and think....and your right. But I will wait for that person to show me what its like. I am used to those user relationships becuase I do nothing to fight back and I firmly belive in giving my all to the one who Is dominat in the relationships. ANd when they are done, they are done. It dosen't really effect me like it used to.And if they aren't happy with me, wither tell me so I can fix it. Or just leave. I am just happy to be wanted even if its for a little while. And like I SAID EARLIER, I don't just take my relationships into view, I take all the ones I see into veiw. Because I have weird relationships dosen't mean everyone else does.

*Cuddles back*

((And I am not trying to get attention, just trying to explain it to the best of my ablility.))

Originally Posted by UkeRoxas

I wasn't insulted. It was just weird being called that. You people are the first so I had to sit back and think....and your right. But I will wait for that person to show me what its like. I am used to those user relationships becuase I do nothing to fight back and I firmly belive in giving my all to the one who Is dominat in the relationships. ANd when they are done, they are done. It dosen't really effect me like it used to.And if they aren't happy with me, wither tell me so I can fix it. Or just leave. I am just happy to be wanted even if its for a little while. And like I SAID EARLIER, I don't just take my relationships into view, I take all the ones I see into veiw. Because I have weird relationships dosen't mean everyone else does.

*Cuddles back*

((And I am not trying to get attention, just trying to explain it to the best of my ablility.))

Good. :3
I do agree that since sex has become such a casual thing in most modern cultures, people tend to use it for gain. Either that or just as "ohay. I'm horny. One night stand?"
It's pretty disgusting. :c I'm completely against one night stands and casual sex. I'm fine with casual kisses, but only if both are ok with it. But sex? Sex isn't meant to be such a casual affair. It's not meant to be anything less then either, 1. to make a family, 2. to be with the person you love.

I guess I'm fairly old-fashioned.. :3
To me, "causal sex" should be a casual round or few rounds with the one you love. Not sex with some person just to get out the urges, or whatever.

I understand sex to get out the urges, but that shouldn't HAPPEN unless the one you're getting out the urges with is the one you love. >.>

I'm amazed I've survived this world. XD

But yeah, *hug* it'll come along for everyone. :3 And then they'll never want sex wiht another again.

... I hope.. ._.

Originally Posted by UkeRoxas

Sex....Its messy and unsatisfactory most of the time for one of the partners.

Erm ... no? ... I really enjoy having sex with my partner and he also does.
At least, he says so and his reactions speak for themselfes.
Why should it be unsatisfactory for one of us? We talk about sex alot, if something hurts or feels weird, we say it, even if we're just about to do it. We talk about our wishes and phantasies and our feelings, about what we like and dislike.
Talking with each other is the key to a wonderful relationship.

Originally Posted by kleinesdaisukii

Erm ... no? ... I really enjoy having sex with my partner and he also does.
At least, he says so and his reactions speak for themselfes.
Why should it be unsatisfactory for one of us? We talk about sex alot, if something hurts or feels weird, we say it, even if we're just about to do it. We talk about our wishes and phantasies and our feelings, about what we like and dislike.
Talking with each other is the key to a wonderful relationship.

I think what he means is that most relationships, (not all, obviously), the girl is not enjoying it as much, or fakes an orgasm, or the guy is really doing it for show of being manly...

I mean, there are quite a few girls who complain about "ew, I hate giving him oral. But he expects me to" or "Ugh. I faked so many orgasms.." etc.

It's good that you have a good relationship. ;3 Sex SHOULD be enjoyable for both.
I really feel bad for girls who don't enjoy it. If there's something you don't like about sex, talk!
It definitely works. :3


Edit: Then again, sex is ALWAYS messy. XD And it should be. Otherwise someone did something wrong, and no one came. :0

Originally Posted by KeiKei Shunu

I think what he means is that most relationships, (not all, obviously), the girl is not enjoying it as much, or fakes an orgasm, or the guy is really doing it for show of being manly...

I mean, there are quite a few girls who complain about "ew, I hate giving him oral. But he expects me to" or "Ugh. I faked so many orgasms.." etc.

It's good that you have a good relationship. ;3 Sex SHOULD be enjoyable for both.
I really feel bad for girls who don't enjoy it. If there's something you don't like about sex, talk!
It definitely works. :3


Edit: Then again, sex is ALWAYS messy. XD And it should be. Otherwise someone did something wrong, and no one came. :0

This is true, I had a friend who would tell me that she would always have to fake an orgasm to make her boyfriend feel better about himself, and she didn't want to lie to him and hurt his feelings or put his self-esteem down.

I told her that she should have told him anyway so maybe they could do a few things to help improve their sex life. And they did, and they ended up trying a few things and well, it worked!

I can't image having to fake an orgasm though, and sex shouldn't always have to be all giving and never receiving. Sex should be balanced and fair so that both active partners are happy. :]

Originally Posted by thoughtlessamaya

This is true, I had a friend who would tell me that she would always have to fake an orgasm to make her boyfriend feel better about himself, and she didn't want to lie to him and hurt his feelings or put his self-esteem down.

I told her that she should have told him anyway so maybe they could do a few things to help improve their sex life. And they did, and they ended up trying a few things and well, it worked!

I can't image having to fake an orgasm though, and sex shouldn't always have to be all giving and never receiving. Sex should be balanced and fair so that both active partners are happy. :]

Yeah.. I never have.. >.>

Then again, I'm pretty sensitive. >.> Stupid mean boyfriend made it happen while dry humping me fully clothed. And still wont let me live it down. XD

But I guess that's a good thing. it makes it more enjoyable, and it raises his self esteem. :3

I feel bad for both people in the relationship when there's a faked orgasm. It sucks for the person who was faking it, because they obviously didn't enjoy the sex. And the partner, well, if they find out, it's a horrible insult. And it's really not as enjoyable for them. part of sex is enjoying your partner's orgasm.