Not that I am taking your mom's side but maybe she just didn't want to use her credit card.
And don't fell bad it happens to me all the time with my mom I do something and it is like the worste most horrid thing in the world to my mother then my younger brother does it and its awww how cute or awww he doesn't know better, hello he is only like a year younger, but that just doesn't register with her.

Tracy,

If you save for a little longer you can buy a visa master card, gift card. It works on line just like a credit card. The only down side is you might have to buy a 50 dollar one. But hey, then you have some extra money to play with while shopping on line.

When I have money, I normally spend it on bills or on my animals. I hardly get to buy anything for myself any more. When I was younger my mom would always tell me not to spend my money and to save it. I don't see the point in spending a lot of clothes since they get ruined/you out grow them, ect. I personally don't like using my credit card much online because a lot of places, including paypal sites are not trustworthy.

Paypal does rip people off and I just had a huge problem with them that I won't get into right now too much. Let's just say that a $3 purchase cost me nearly $200 before I had to fight to get my money back. Anyway, as mentioned, you can always buy a prepaid "credit" card and buy what you want online then. At least that way the site would not have any account info. If I ever do decide to buy anything online again that's what I'll end up doing.

The closet thing that has ever happened to me like that was, I told my mom that I wanted a book from Barnes a nobles, I had my own money I just wanted to use her B & N card, but the thing was that the book was a manga, and my mom said no. I swear less then a week later when we , me, my mom, and little sister, went back and my sister asked for the same book and she said yes! I was like 'What the crap I wanted that book and she's to young to read it anyway!' Then my mom says she can't have it and buys her some Godiva chocolate instead. >>

So no you're not being unreasonable!

Little sisters are a pain. >>

@ Tracy Your sister sounds a bit spoiled to me.Actually more than a bit.Sounds like 1.She can`t really face the fact that she is growing up and needs to be mature 2.probably likes the attention.I`m not trying to be rude its just how i feel about it.Anyways about the shirt if you saved up for it and its your money why should she really mind? i mean your the one spending the money not her and of course its not like she`s wearing it or using it.Besides i agree with iRandall if you think about it technically you do need clothes unless of course your mom wants you walking around naked or something 0.o.I`m the younger sister[i only have one sister and she`s older]and i actually try and make things nice for her,or just try to be a little bit nicer..

well I have asked my mom to do that but she siad fine and did it for my so I don't really know what your going through but of that happend to me I would have been so pissed since it was for a convention that I was cosplaying for and I've always wanted to cosplay

Well, really, you're under 18, so legally, your parents do have that final say.

You say it was money that your mom gave you for lunch, yet you saved it. So yes, it's money your MOM gave you. For a specific purpose. No wonder she doesn't want you spending it on a shirt. It's not like you have a job and are earning the money.

Your parents are trying to teach you the value of money and to make smart purchases. In their mind, an expensive Japanese shirt is not a smart purchase.
It's good to save up money and pack a lunch, but it's still money your parents gave you for necessities. Not for fun. So they have every right to not allow you to buy that.

It sucks, but until you're 18, you have to get used to it. It's legally their job.

Bleh. I do that to my sister. She'll give me money and ask if I can use her credit card. I always tell her no. Why? Because I KNOW she can spend it something more useful than some stupid earrings that cost $50. I mean, $50 can buy a meal for a needy family. I know, I know...I have serious online spending issues myself. I try to limit myself, I really do. But just because I can't control myself sometimes doesn't mean I'm going to let my sister get away with doing so either. Elizabeth gets mad at me at first, but she usually thanks me later. She has a pre-pay Verizon phone and ended up buying time to put on it; rather than by those earrings she wanted. Now she can to her friends without having to borrow anyone else's phone. I even convinced her to open up a savings account and put about $20 a month into it. She's saved up quite a bit of money so far. :'3

Honestly, even though your mother caves into your sister and doesn't let you buy anything...I'd thank her. Just save the money, open a savings account or something! -nods-

Originally Posted by Jennifer

Bleh. I do that to my sister. She'll give me money and ask if I can use her credit card. I always tell her no. Why? Because I KNOW she can spend it something more useful than some stupid earrings that cost $50.

EARRINGS FOR $50?
I mean I'd understand if they were a precious metal or had real diamonds or something. But I honestly think for something so small as an earring is just a waste of money and you can more than likely find earrings that look similar for a cheaper price than that.
Dangg. D:

Originally Posted by thoughtlessamaya

EARRINGS FOR $50?
I mean I'd understand if they were a precious metal or had real diamonds or something. But I honestly think for something so small as an earring is just a waste of money and you can more than likely find earrings that look similar for a cheaper price than that.
Dangg. D:

Knockoffs, FTW.

Unless they're from someone special, or for something special, screw that. Get knockoffs from Chinatown in NYC. XD

You don't know Elizabeth. She's like a mini Paris Hilton, heh. XD

Aha, seems funny.

But I just wouldn't want to waste my money on something that can break or you can get the same thing for a cheaper price.

That's what upsets me about wealthier people. They buy an ugly $5OO tshirt and $1,OOO heels and then are like, "We're just like you!" (honestly, I'm making a direct reference to Miss Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana) Why spend THAT much money on clothing? That much money can pay a few bills, feed a couple hundred people, et cetera. x_X

I hate the argument "It's my money" coming from a minor.

My brother has been using it to get a new laptop, and turntables.

Frankly, NO. Legally your money is NOT yours until you are 18. Your parents allow you to spend and use it but it is not legally YOURS.

And ESPECIALLY if it was allowance or lunch money, you didn't earn it. It was given to you for free. Yeah, you may have to do chores for allowance, but chores are the NORM for a kid at home. You do it. And you don't always get paid for it. It's not a job, it's a requirement at the house.

If I were a parent, I'd be much more inclined to let my kid by something expensive with "their money" if they had worked and earned it themselves.

If I was in your mother's situation, I'd be rigid. That money was for food. A necessity. Yeah, you may have chosen to bring food from home, but then I'd expect you to either return that money to me, since you didn't need it for food, or use it for necessities.

Originally Posted by Jennifer

That's what upsets me about wealthier people. They buy an ugly $5OO tshirt and $1,OOO heels and then are like, "We're just like you!" (honestly, I'm making a direct reference to Miss Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana) Why spend THAT much money on clothing? That much money can pay a few bills, feed a couple hundred people, et cetera. x_X

I guess its the ego boost that "Hey! This is name label clothing that cost me a FORTUNE! (Haha, I'm richer than you!)"

I don't see what the big deal about spending huge amount of money on clothes. I get my stuff from all sorts of difference places and save money, but sometime name label clothing can be nice to have because other places may not have it. Like band tee's for example. Heck, you can go to Ross and find stuff that would usually cost around double or triple if bought anywhere else. You just got to know how to look.

Amen! I'll admit myself, I have a few items that are label. But I've just happened to come across them at thrift stores, Ross, et cetera. Gap and Old Navy ftw! (More like eBay for the win, heh.) Honestly though, I'd NEVER EVER buy an item of clothing (other than shoes) that costs me more than $25-$50. I freak out when I spend too much on just a regular pair of sneakers at the Wal-Mart. I keep a budget to myself. And when I see something I like, I ask myself if I'll ever use it more than once or if I just want it because it looks neat and whatnot. For now, I don't feel bad spending a truckload of money on SEVERAL items of clothing at cheap stores. C;

Originally Posted by KeiKei Shunu

I hate the argument "It's my money" coming from a minor.

My brother has been using it to get a new laptop, and turntables.

Frankly, NO. Legally your money is NOT yours until you are 18. Your parents allow you to spend and use it but it is not legally YOURS.

And ESPECIALLY if it was allowance or lunch money, you didn't earn it. It was given to you for free. Yeah, you may have to do chores for allowance, but chores are the NORM for a kid at home. You do it. And you don't always get paid for it. It's not a job, it's a requirement at the house.

If I were a parent, I'd be much more inclined to let my kid by something expensive with "their money" if they had worked and earned it themselves.

If I was in your mother's situation, I'd be rigid. That money was for food. A necessity. Yeah, you may have chosen to bring food from home, but then I'd expect you to either return that money to me, since you didn't need it for food, or use it for necessities.

Yes, I agree with this somewhat.

But you can still work when you're under the age of 18.
;]

Yes, you can still work, but legally, that is not YOUR money until you are 18.

Well, kinda. It's yours, but your parents are able to have the final say.

UNTIL you are 18, your money is not fully yours. Period.

Originally Posted by KeiKei Shunu

Yes, you can still work, but legally, that is not YOUR money until you are 18.

Well, kinda. It's yours, but your parents are able to have the final say.

UNTIL you are 18, your money is not fully yours. Period.

True about the legal part, but I don't find it fair.
You worked for it fair and square. And you earned it.

But your parents (ideally) are in charge of it, so you, as you're growing up, learn to make smart decisions with money.


That's why, in my opinion, money from a job is more "ok" to spend on what you want. But money your parents give you, well, OBVIOUSLY if they give it for a certain purpose, the have the right to take it back if you don't use it for that. Or limit the use.

ah, sister talking... you bigger sisters aren't that great either. :) bleh, my big sister was a hell. a bitch. I would have been more than happy to send her away when she was a teenager u_u she was just plain crazy. Although now that she's been sick and "cured" and is so "innocent" now, I can't forgive her for ruining so many great moments of my life.

Anyway, about the money issue, just save it somewhere and ask your mom again and again until she finally gives in. If she sees how much you really want it, maybe she'll let you buy it..

Originally Posted by Sagitar

Anyway, about the money issue, just save it somewhere and ask your mom again and again until she finally gives in. If she sees how much you really want it, maybe she'll let you buy it..

Some moms are so hard headed that it doesn't always work.
My mom will just tell me to stfu or take my money or something.
:|

.. I really hate to say it, but that's a spoiled and childish approach.

Try talking to your mother and explaining why you want it, and that you've been saving up the money. Don't try to whine and nag. Have a mature conversation.

She'll be more willing to let you spend it on what you want if you don't whine and nag.

I agree, be mature about it. :3 if you whine and nag and say things like "it's unfair" she'll only get mad at you and makes her NOT want to give you what you want :3

"Life's not fair, so don't compare" as my Grandma says. :3