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OMG Back off crazy lady!
My husband and I have been married over a year...been together over 3.
So My relatives keep telling me I need to hurry up and have some babies. It's getting on my nerves to no end. My husband and I have opted for NO children. We both hate kids to an extreme and as soon as we have the money he's getting snipped ((his idea actually because a tubal ligation would be dangerous for me)). They keep telling me "Oh you'll change your mind" I'm not like other people. The thought of pregnancy makes me sickened. The thought of having to take care of a child that will most likely grow into an ungrateful person makes me angry. And I'm violent towards kids anyway. Their tiny voices make me want to smack them. I would not make a good mom.:| So the question is: What gives people the right to tell me what to do with MY uterus? |
No right whatsoever ^^
And that's how I feel on abortion as well come to think of it. :stare: Anyhoo. My dad got snipped because I almost killed my mother when I was born. He figured that SHE went through three births, so he might as well do his part xD! I think it's better that since you've such a huge hatred of children that you not have any. Rather do that than end up being cruel to them/unhappy in your own life =) |
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HAHAHAH oh man that would not have ended well, huh? XD! I had a kid BITE me when I babysat, so I don't do that anymore :3 Lol.
And that sucks about your dad D: :( I'm a total daddy's girl and I wouldn't know what to do if my father ever pulled that with me >.<;; I'm so sorry you have to deal with that D: Eric talks about kids now and then (when I'm out of grad school plzkthnx) but the whole thing freaks me out still. @[email protected];; I give you many props for dealing with it graciously--hanging up vs venting to her xD |
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Hah...feeling's mutual ya lil' snot factory" Yeah I've always been a momma's girl. Infact my mom is one of the few people that totally supports my dislike for kids. She doesn't like kids much either...not as bad as me but she told me if i weren't such a quiet child she would have given me to gypsies D: ((I was the type of child to sit and stare at nothing for hours so i really was quiet....and we really did live near gypsies OO:)) But yeah NEVER been close to my father. I was happy when they divorced because he's not really a good person. |
Oh goodness, I know how you feel. I mean, I want to have kids someday, but not for a few years at least.
My mother-in-law is more of the passive-agressive type though. She started in on me when I got engaged to my husband. She's able to get stuff for free sometimes, so she helped me out by getting me a bunch of thank-you cards to use after the wedding.. and in the bag she slipped in some baby shower invitation cards. I saw those and I was like, what the heck? My husband and I joke about it a little but it still bothers me. Once we had a pregnancy scare and even though she lives very far away she tried to get involved by calling my sister-in-law who lives closer and trying to get her to do things. >.< But yeah, I don't think it's anyone else's business what you and your husband choose to do as far as children goes... or anything else for that matter as long as the two of you agree on it. |
babies are prolly like animals and can feel it. The first time I held a baby (all of about 3 seconds) she took a look at me and burst into tears. I didn't know what to do so I started crying too XD!
That's really funny and really sad at the same time though (the tradin' babeh thing). But mostly funny. xDD Sorry lol. You're so lucky your mom is with you on that :heart: I'm sure that makes it a whole lot easier to deal with :3 I know a lot of people who were in those kinds of situations :( Good thing your momma got out. <3 |
@Morwyn: Ugh that would make me so mad. What's with people like that? Meddling people need to butt out. Only thing my mother-in-law does that's annoying is try to get us to change religions. Not happening. He can do what he wants but I change my religion for no one. Least she hasn't tried more than twice so far. 3 times is my personal limit.
@Han-pan: Yeah it took years of me convincing her that "No divorcing him is BETTER. It's not going to mess me up in teh head. BEING with him is messing me up in the head. Please divorce him, Mom" D: Everytime i see my mom's family they try to get me to hold babies. And try to get me to tell them how cute they are D: I don't know if they're cute. They all look alike to me besides coloring DDDDD: I don;t understand the whole "Oh she's got her mothers nose" thing. How can you tell? I sure can't. |
Hahahaha! Completely agreed. I think it's a compliment system :3 I didn't resemble anyone until I was like 8, and that's because I got the same kind of glasses my dad had :XD!
Aww...my friend Alex is going through a somewhat similar thing now, except she's also completely gone on the guy whose cheated on her and living with another woman and forced her into the mental hospital by saying something to the court that freaked them out :sweat: It was bad :( |
They do all look the same... they've all got round features. I hate it on shows like Maury where they're like "He has to be the baby's daddy because they look alike." It's kind of sad when they're wrong, but it proves the point that they don't look that different when they're that little.
To be honest, I think the little baby clothes are cuter than the babies themselves...is that bad? |
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Speaking of Maury. Did you see the one where the guy thought it was his baby when it was OBVIOUSLY half black? Even I could tell that wasn't his lol. That baby was really dark. |
I feel your pain. People ask me and my fiancee all the time if we're going to have kids. The answer is always "no" but we either get people who are persistant about asking or people who tell us we're "going to change our minds". We have a kitten now though, so now we can tell them "Yes, we have a kitten. That's as close to children as we're going to get"
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We have 4 cats. I usually try to tell people " Look I have 4 cats. That equals at least 2 children in mass and 8 in cleanup." |
Yeah the man is an incredible asshole D:
But my friend has a like 5k limit credit card and his entire schooling taken care of from him. As soon as the court proceedings are done, he's changing his last name. |
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He's had a couple of breakdowns. But I've done my best to be there for him, along with other people and it's super helped him a lot :heart: Things have calmed down for them for the summer, and she's moving on (it seems...she's got a date with one of his professors?! =P ) He's very happy to be home to help her :3
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So, Lollirot Doll, do you kick puppies in your spare time as well? That's pretty off behavior. I can understand not wanting children but hating them that much shows that your genes need to be eliminated from the gene pool. You and your husband.
Get him snipped ASAP. And while your at it, get your tubes tied (everything has a risk) just to be double sure. Hating children is backwards and counterproductive genetics and needs to be eliminated. |
And you hate people who have an aversion to children.
All the friggen hate o.O At least she's not creating more chilluns. That's doing her part for the very least. You don't need to wish upon her death, that's incredibly horrible D: |
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Ontop of it even if I liked kids i would refuse to have them. I have several medical problems that any child I had would have 100% because they're dominant genes that run in my family. |
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Just not breed. But that's not a problem because she doesn't want to. |
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Keep in mind though I'm not going to tell you you're defective for WANTING kids. That's your choice. What made me make this topic is the fact people keep telling me it's my DUTY to spit babies out of my uterus. |
Truthfully, they dont have right to tell you what to do with your uterus. Honestly, its your body and your mind, not theirs.
What is it exactly that causes people to tell others what to do with their life? is it boredum or the need to dominate another human being? But honestly, you should decide what you want to do with your life, and looks like you already have. Then in that case, just tell them to back off, it's not their life to do with. |
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I think you know what is best for you and they should just leave you alone. :P
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