I gotz my advice.
 

Okay so I'll point out people before I go on. There's me, this guy named adam, and kyle.

So anyways this is going to be long!

So Adam and I met in second grade but we really didn't start hanging out till about fourth grade. We are both in the same grade and we have been best friends (we are going in the 11th grade this year) since then. In fifth grade we had the same teacher so we spent most all our time together and not to mention, but we live right next door to each other. So in sixth grade, we went out for a week, but it wasn't right yet so I think that's why he broke up with me although he said he did because he thought I was annoying. Okay so I thought it was a joke at first and I just carried on with talking to him and stuff but then he started like inching away from me...moving cafeterias, not sitting with me on our bus...stuff like that. So by the time seventh grade came, I tried getting him back but I was like failing badly. He would just ignore me and he found this new group to hang out with. I made me so upset and I just felt like life was going to end. So yeah I finished seventh grade and in eighth grade...well it was the most depressing year of my life. I hated and don't feel like explaining why I did but it was becasue of adam. So then after my worst year of my life year, we started hanging out again our freshman year. He would come over to my house like he used to but he didn't talk to me in school. We would just hang out at home only. It kind of pissed me off a bit. Well we became closer friends again that year. Then our sophomore year comes along and well I started changing my style and started changing the way I looked on life. I told myself, you know what self, I'm not going to let anyone push me around, no one is going to be a bitch to me anymore and use me and talk shit about me and just stuff like that (woah fragments) so I decided to live life how I wanted it to be! I started dressing how I wanted to...I wore like bright plastic beads with rock out shirts and you know (people call it the 'scene' look) and I just became more outgoing and didn't really care what other people thought about me. So this past year, we had EVERY SINGLE CLASS TOGETHER!! That's seven hours out of the day we had to see each other so of course this was the first year we talked in school a little bit. Well at the beginning of the year, we were really close friends like we normally are, but then at the end of the year (when I started changing I guess) we didn't get along. He thought the way I dressed was loud and immature and just because I was out there for once in my life (because he's very outgoing and has soooo many friends) I think he was mad about it. So yeah we just had an unsteady friendship and we'd argue a lot. So at the beginning of may (this year) we started not talking and I'd text him all the time saying how this was dumb and stuff and we should just be friends because we have for so long and honestly him and I have been through so much stuff together but he didn't care. So we stopped talking for four months and during these four months I found kyle. He's my best friend's brother and I was sleeping at her house one night and he asked me out. We've been dating since july 25th. So kyle went out of state and he left last monday and won't be home for another week. But during the first week he left, guess who comes back into my life...YEAH of course adam does! He just comes crawling right on back. Now if you haven't noticed I LOVE ADAM SOOOOOOO MUCH THAT WORDS CAN'T DESCRIBE IT, but he told me awhile back when I first admitted it to him that he didn't like me but then everytime I would tell him I loved him, he'd just say eww then a couple minutes later he'd be like my best friend. It's so weird. And I don't understand him.

So anyways adam came over today and we hung out from 10am till about 20mins ago...and he'd make comments like, o did you have sex with your boyfriend. wtf?! No I didn't have sex with him. Then he made another comment today...did you make out with him...wth?! No I didn't (I'm wired shut because I had jaw surgery and I have been since july16th so how are we going to make out). It's just that stuff. So then about 2 hours ago it starts to rain so we come inside my house and hang in my room for awhile playing this really fun card game. O and early we watched the sunset at the park...but yeah about an hour and a half ago he opens youtube and I guess he likes to listen to this really like slow music that talks about love and stuff and he turns some of that on and just idk it was sooooo weird. I don't know what to do because I mean there's got to be a reason why he came back into my life, but I don't like him in my life now because I have a boyfriend and adam distracts me from having feelings for kyle. Okay and another thing, every boyfriend I get, I dump because of adam. I just love adam so much and I have so much feelings for him and I really don't want to break up with kyle and I'm not going to but it's just really confusing me...like if I did break up with kyle, I'm sure adam will be in my life for a bit but maybe not long because that's how it's always gone. Okay and then adam hasn't had a girlfriend since seventh grade and he's never done anything like make-out or anything like that and either have I. It's just I don't know. If you want to know more then ask but I need some advice.

Hmm... it sounds like Adam really doesn't know what he wants. I know it's hard, but you're going to have to try and get on with your life separately from him until he figures things out for himself. There's nothing worse than a man who doesn't know what he wants, haha!

To me, there's two things that come to mind when I heard your story about Adam... he either wants to be the center of attention and always comes back into your life when you have a DIFFERENT center of attention, or he actually does like you but he's a stupid guy who doesn't know what that means. Either way, like I said... he needs to figure things out for himself.

I'm glad you said you weren't going to dump Kyle because of this change of events though... although I'm not too positive that you know for sure that it's true. It sounds like you're VERY hung up on Adam, and perhaps you shouldn't have accepted Kyle's offer? Either way, I think it'd be a good idea to try and distance yourself from Adam for a while... or even better, tell him that he confuses you straight up and tell him that he needs to make up his mind about you.

That being said, any man who tells you that you're annoying and never apologizes or retracts the statement is probably not worth your time. When you were dressing differently and being more outgoing you felt more like yourself, right? You felt more comfortable? If he was worth your time he would have understood this and embraced you for it. Clearly Kyle saw the good in you and decided to step forward and say so... I think you should definitely see how things go with him :)

That's not of course to say you can't be friends with Adam somewhere down the road when he sorts himself out... but I think you should focus on your boyfriend right now. Plus, you're still young. There'll be plenty more fish in the sea if Adam and Kyle aren't it for you :)

he is jelos that you have someone to talk to he dose no tlike to see you happy for some reason most likely because he likes you and you will have to sit and talk with both Adam and Kyle when Kyl egets back and just see if that works you are all adults just talk when you can

I agree with the others, he is probable just jeliouse that you have someone you care about other than him. Let him sort his life out.

Yeah I was going to stick with kyle anyways because I really like him. =] I'll just see what happens and go with the flow I guess. Haha I know adam is so jealous. He does this everytime I get a boyfriend. Thanks everyone. =]

no problem just stay happy and in the game (life and others if you know what i mean)

Adam had no clue what he wants and is basicly just messing with your head...stay with Kyle and just try to ignore you feelings For Adam I know its hard but thats life...and 6 chances in 10 if you dump Kyle for Adam, Adam will leave again.