I have a question for you guys.

Me and boy friend were fooling around today. It was his 18th birthday on Saturday and as a joke his friends got him a box of condoms. we both laughed and split them in two, so we each had 6 at both our houses.

Today he came over before work and we started to fool around, we've been talking about wanting to use them, he likes how they feel, weird i know, so we put one on and we started to rub against each other.

At one point i told him to try to go in me. We tried but failed. We only managed to get the tip in because it felt like trying to push a cucumber in something the size of a plum. We we're okay with that though, told each other that we'd try again later and checked for breaks in the condoms, just to be safe. There were none. After that we cuddled and my dad came home so we had to rush to get dressed. We both enjoyed the experience.

I have a few questions though.

Is it normal for it not to fit the first time? I mean, he is average size (though i dont know what that is..he's 7 in..long that helps..about 4 inches circumference), i thought i just wasn't aroused enough so we decided to try again later. He also started to go down alot.It didnt hurt, it was just an uncomfortable feeling.

I seriously dout i could get pregnant with out a rip in the condom but is there a chance? I am open to my mother about what me and my boyfriend so and she told me that i should move at a pace that i am confortable with. Me and my boyfriend love each other very much and we to make solid plans about our future together.

And my last question.

Woiuld this be considered sex? I dont care if it is or not, im just wondering. I have heard that after the first time you have sex you should go see a female doctor and if so, them i will have to talk to my mother about this.



Im not trying to act like im ashamed.In fact im not. I loved the experience even though it was a mission failed (tahts how i see it but, neh) I am very mature about this, at least i think i am, and i communicate with my boyfriend with this. we never go past what we are not comfortable with.

So a little help please? Im just curious.I dotn need any lectures.:angel:

Oh in case any one is wondering, just because you might be, we have been together for a year and 3 months

I wouldn't consider that sex because it.. well, it failed.. but I'm sure you'll get it in next time, maybe you were just too nervous and not relaxed/lubricated enough.
I can't get my honey in either if I am not relaxed and lubricated. And we've been having sex for almost 4 years xP

The uncomfortable feeling is very normal, I had that too. A feeling as if the Boyfriend was trying to push through a brick wall >_< I decided to grit my teeth and after a few minutes, it didn't hurt anymore. Sex is definitely worth the bit of pain.

I have read websites that say that pain the first time is normal, i wasnt so worried about that. It was the fact that he didnt fit that worried me. Im sure it made him feel manyly , if you know what i mean, btu it made me feel weird becausei thoguth it would just slide right in.

Don't worry about it. Usually, from what I've read, the first time is kinda..difficult we'll say because of the issues like that. not really to encourage anything, unless you two are fine with it, but after another try, it might work.

You can not get pregnant if the sperm does not reach the overy so if there are no breaks in the condom before or after there is like no chance you can get pregnant.
And yes after the very first time you have sex you should see a female doctor and get a pap test, a pap test is where they check and see if you have cervical cancer.

I actually had the same exact problem you described there. I seriously thought I was the only one. I've seen where people have complained about stuff the first time, like pain or whatever, but never this. I've actually been debating about asking about this problem somewhere else, but didn't really feel like posting about it. I'll see what kind of answers you get here and see if they could help me as well. But yeah, me and my boyfriend tried three times to get it to fit on three different days, and no matter what it just wouldn't fit, so I dunno what to do. He says it went in about halfway but then it just would not go any farther. It didn't really hurt much, it just would not go in. I'm not sure I'd consider it sex, but I don't consider myself to be a virgin after that. It's still attempting to have sex. But yeah, I have no idea what to do about this. :cry:

It's normal to have some resistance the first time. If I may ask, is he a virgin? Guys generally have a little trouble getting it in right the first time, especially if they don't have much experience in that department.

Well, there was genital contact, so I suppose it's POSSIBLE for you to get pregnant. But the chances of that are so astronomically minute you shouldn't even really consider them.

I wouldn't consider that sex, seeing how there was no penetration. Although it wouldn't be a bad idea to go to a gynocologist anyway (I think it's recommended to go when you're 18 even if you are still a virgin), you don't have a real reason to.

I wouldn't consider that sex, to me sex is full penetration of the vagina, the penis actually entering. You can only get pregnant if there is ejaculation. So it doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about. If you are however, thinking of becoming sexually active, you should contact an ob/gyn for birht control information,etc.

Well roxyprincess thats not exactly true. Men can lose sperm cells though pre-ejaculate or pre-cum if you prefer slang. Meaning that you can get pregnant without ejaculation. This is why heath officals benounce pulling out as a contraceptive method.

Sperm cells can't actually get you pregnant. But pre-cum can pick up some leftover sperm which CAN get you pregnant. It's very, very unlikely for you to get pregnant without the guy ejaculating but it is possible.

It's normal for there to be some resistance if you aren't "ready" before he tries to enter you, next time just try to relax and wait until you are ready. I doubt seriously if you have to worry about getting pregnant because, you checked the condom and it was intact. Just be careful.

I don't think that you could truly consider that sex because it was a ..well a failed try... but i truly think that you should go to a ob/gyn after you try again just to get some kind of other contraceptive other than condoms as a precaution... but don't worry if you cant take it all the first or even the second time... its totally normal if you cant... just wait till you are totally ready for it...

Pretty much what everyone else everyone else had said is true and should help you a lot.

But for me I'd say go and visit that ob/gyn or whoever you can go to before actually having full entercourse...mainly just to be extra safe. Thats what I did...when I knew things were heating up with my boyfriend I talked to my mom and we went right away to get the birth control and tests done before going anywhere. ^^ I'm sure things will go smoother for you two. <3

yes pain is normal in the first time if the female is a virgin.

no worries. you don't bleed too much. AND he will find it. the first time my boyfriend and i did. i had to show him. but once the initial pain/ nervousness goes away. it gets easier and is worth it :wink:
basically also, just relax when the time comes again to try.
don't worry about the condoms. they're made so well today to the point they won't tear as much as they used to. so its a very effective way of birth control.
i saw my obgyn before i had sex the first time. mom wanted me to see one when i turned 18. but it is a good idea to see one after you have sex the first time. also it would be a good plan somepoint to ask about birth control pills. just for extra caution.

I consider any sort of penis penetration to be sex, whether or not it lead to orgasm.