One of my best friends seems to piss me off in every way.

I don't know, her little quirks annoy the crap out of me. I swear, she expects me to know everything. I'm pretty smart (not amazing, though), but no one knows everything. I mean, she asks me random trivial things, like the drinking age in Canada, then when I say I don't know and recommend googling it, she'll respond with "No I don't like that". Then don't ask if you don't want to find the information.

She is completely and utterly sedentary. I can run a mile in quite literally half the time it takes her (My last mile was 6:54, and my personal best is like 6:41 or something...I really need to work harder if I want to hit my goal, 5:30). I run cross country, though, so that really isn't fair. But, a bit over a year ago, in the absolute worst shape of my life, I ran like a 13 at worst. It bothers me. She lectures me about how I do far too much (I go to cross country practice and the beach. I walk to people's houses sometimes, because they're too lazy to walk to mine (*coughHERcough*). And if I'm feeling really energetic, I might go swim a few laps just because I love it) and am going to wind up like the girl in one of her classes last year that played soccer and got injured because she did too much (like I don't know sports injuries happen...). Out of curiosity, I asked why she doesn't do any sports or anything like that. She was like "I suck at all of them!"....well, duh...most people suck at new sports...personally, that's why I love running. Because I sucked at first. And now I don't. I am very adventurous, and I'll try pretty much anything. I ask her to try little thinks with me, like going ice skating ("No."), or try on a pair of jeans that I think would look amazing on her ("No way.")(actually, on that one, I made a bet and had to try a dress and she tried the jeans, and she fell in love with em). Try *insert odd food I'm eating*? ("Not a chance!"). You get the point. She lives in a bubble. And she agrees to things sometimes, then cancels absolute last minute, so I'm stuck on my own.

She constantly makes me feel bad because I normally have money. My family is well off, I can't help that. Hers has money, too, but they suck at managing it (shopping spree > electric bill. and buying a brand new car after the last one got repo'd makes sense...15 mile to the gallon types of cars, and both the adults work far away). I can't talk about college, or senior trip, or the other senior trip (for language classes), or anything like that without being made feel guilty. If we go to the mall, she whines every time she wants something that it will use all her money blah blah blah. That's great, so not my problem.

I'm supposed to care about trivial little things in her life, but she doesn't care about my trivial things.

We are close and I do value her as friend, but we seem to be fighting a TON lately. I mean, I tend to pick fights with people when they irk me (mainly because I win because I'm good with words, and I like irking back), so it IS my fault, but I don't know. I'm starting high school in about two weeks, and the rest of my life is falling into place, while my social circle is falling apart. I want to cut away what isn't helping my life, and start fresh. Not that easy, but whatever.

I'm lost. What do I do?

Edit: And she whines. About everything. It's annoying.

It seems like you already know what to do. If you don't feel that you can be her friend anymore then, sit her down and tell her how you feel and end the friendship. You definitely sound like two very different types of people, maybe you just need to be with people who are more like you and less like her.

You really should talk to her before you decide to loose her completely, you may be able to work it out.

Originally Posted by Yeah

It seems like you already know what to do. If you don't feel that you can be her friend anymore then, sit her down and tell her how you feel and end the friendship. You definitely sound like two very different types of people, maybe you just need to be with people who are more like you and less like her.

You really should talk to her before you decide to loose her completely, you may be able to work it out.

Yeah...I don't know, I've changed a bit, and I find a lot more similar people doing sports and in my honors classes than I found in elementary school. I'm finding it hard to tolerate pretty much all of my old friends (save one, but we have a different friendship than most...). I guess it just hurts to realize that I have to move on some time.

Well then... why are you still friends with her?
I simply don't understand why you continue to be friends with someone who just annoys you and drags you down. In general, people only continue relationships like this because they're familiar and comfortable even though you've long grown apart. If you feel like you're not getting anything out of the friendship, then just let go of it. It's a hard thing to deal with, but it's not like she's the only person in the world youc can talk to. You said yourself that you're finding people you could better relate to.

Originally Posted by Fabby

Well then... why are you still friends with her?
I simply don't understand why you continue to be friends with someone who just annoys you and drags you down. In general, people only continue relationships like this because they're familiar and comfortable even though you've long grown apart. If you feel like you're not getting anything out of the friendship, then just let go of it. It's a hard thing to deal with, but it's not like she's the only person in the world youc can talk to. You said yourself that you're finding people you could better relate to.

I know, and your right. It's just...happening a lot lately. It's hard to let go...