hey guys!
so i am dating this guy and well i dont know if he means to bee in a serious relationship, or just a fling. PLEASE HELP ME OUT.
so we started dating a month ago. its going really slow if you know what i mean. i also had to pay for everything. now i am in europe for vacation and he wont answer any of my e-mails. when we are together he is totally sweet and caring. hes always telling me hel start paying as soon as he got settled in ( he moved to my town like 2 months ago)
so what do you think???

thanks so much <3333

If he doesn't have a job yet, that's one thing. If he does have a job but not financially stable yet, that's also the same thing. If he's still not paying for dates, he's a loser.

...Okay, maybe not THAT bad. You should usually be able to feel if he's serious or not. If the air is tense around him, check his demeanor. If he seems like he's uncomfortable, he's serious (or uncomfortable). If he seems serious, he's a player. There are a lot of different ways to check, but it depends on how he acts during dates.

I would say follow your gut instinct, but that just seems to make people sick.

The best thing you can do is talk to him about it.
If he's not answering your e-mails, don't freak out - if he just moved to your town, maybe he lost his internet connection? Maybe he got a job & doesn't have much spare time?
But also don't wait around for someone who can't be bothered to stay in contact with you. Give him a grace period of a week or maybe a bit more.
& I'm of the mindset that it should be equal.. I don't believe in the 'boys should pay for everything' crap. But it shouldn't be all you, either.

I agree with Mairelys. Paying for dates is a 50-50 thing...or at least it should be.
Also...try calling him. He really might not have his Internet up. Lots of people have other stuff first.
And talking to him is the best idea. Ask him where he thinks the relationship is going. If he's not comfortable with it, don't push him.
All in all, remember! if it's not meant to be, It's not meant to be.

Perhaps he's just really slow at answering his email. If I didn't get email notifications, I'd never check mine. >_>
Also, is he financially unstable? Perhaps he just doesn't have the money to pay for dates. I, too, think it should be 50/50, but it can take awhile to settle in a new town.

Aside from that, you could always just ask about what he wants in the relationship.

Financial instability is the only excuse for not paying anything. I would never ever agree to pay for everything all the time in a new relationship (= less than 4 months or so) because I'd feel like my partner is leeching and will leave me once I stop giving him stuff. >.> Especially the "I'll pay once I'm settled" makes me wary. When is he planning on "being settled" if he's not after two months of living there? In half a year?

About e-mail: as suggested by Twilight, try calling or texting him. If you call or text him several times and he never answers, and he never answers any e-mails either, you know enough.

ummm doesn't really sound like a relation ship to me.
but I don't know if the whole paying thing is a part of dating or not. :|

he doesn't sound like he's serious.. not answering your emails makes you kind of worry, right?

yeah i agree with the whole 50|50 thing. i would also just talk to him and see how he feels.

I hate to say this , hon, but ti seems like he is playing you. he is acting all sweet and everything in your presence, maybe just so you will keeling shelling out cash. And the fact that he doesn't answer your e-mails is definitely not a good sign. I honestly think you should try to get over him, he doesn't sound like he's that good for you.