Ok so i met this guy, i fancy the hell out off him! I litterally cant get him out if my head! This on its own isnt a problem!

The problem is that i know hes a comlete ass! I met him while he was with his girlfriend (they have now split up) and he still came on to me and we ended up gettin kinda "close"! Sooo now i know he has split up with his gf, i keep thinkin 2 myself that it wd b cool to go out with him but then i realise NO!!! Bad! He would cheat on me with everythin under the sun!

So yeah my question is this....if i cant have him and him be faithful, then how can i forget bout him?

Oh yeah and we go to the same club all the time so ill still be seeing him wen im out! Which makes it even harder!

Thanks in advance! :)

just be friends with benefits? ... but if you're the type that gets emotionally attatched easily then just try to get over him and move on... if you know he's going to cheat on you and you don't want to be cheated on or aren't into open relationships then... just don't even go there... just step away and do it fast before you can't get away...

friends with benefits are best, or open relationship, but that is basically do what you want with who you want and are not committed to anyone, this doesn't work well with most people, it really depends.

Don't let it get any farther than friendship and it won't be hard to get over him. You'll like him still, but at least you'll know it won't get to anything more.

I'm sorry, but the whole "friend with benefits" thing is gross. Who wants to get with someone who's had his thing in anything he can stick it in? Not to mention you can't control whatever disease he may pick up. =/

Personally, the whole thing with him being a man whore would automatically turn me off. I would just find someone else that won't cheat or anything like that. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I don't believe in having an open relationship with anyone. Most the time it'll turn out badly in the end anyway. You could try talking to him about it, if you're really interested in him and see where that leads you. You could also spend some time away from him and ask yourself why you're attracted to him in the first place. That way you can find out if you are really attracted to him as more than a friend or if it's nothing.

I hate to say it, but unless you physically separate yourself from his presence or start dating someone else, forbidding yourself from liking him is NOT going to work. If you are the type who likes commitment and closed relationships, going for him will only get you burned, but it will be mighty hard to resist, and from personal experience telling yourself not to like someone is impossible. It does not work, it's like reverse psychology. let yourself be open to flirting with him, but set a limit like "I'm not going to give into him physically" because when that happens, that's all she wrote.

I mean men and women look at physical intimacy in completely different views. That's partly due to our physical chemistry. When women do the dirty, their brain releases a hormone that makes you feel like you're in love. Men do NOT have that problem. The recommendation is to wait six months into the dating period to do that stuff to make sure you like the guy because anything less is too short of a period to get to know the real deal.

However if you're into "open" relationships (and I don't mean having a threesome with another girl for his benefit because he's a pig) or just having a convenient person there to catch you on those dateless Friday nights, go for it. But based on what you have described he sounds like he would expect YOU to be exclusive to him and not the other way around.

I really hope I'm not overstepping the age rating, heh. ^^'''''''

Hey! Thanks for the replies!

U all helped quite a bit, i think i just needed to see the opinions of others! I am definitely not the kinda person that can do the whole open relationship thing....im much too jealous! So yeah, i think i will just see what happens, i havent seen him in a while so its starting to calm down. Im just gonna have to see what hes like next time i see him.

My only worry is that when i do see him next, i wont be able to resist him! I know that given the chance i will sleep with him and that means i will get mega attached!

Based on your latst reply, the only thing I can offer is this
Don't LET yourself get put into any situation that may lead to the bedroom (or the bathroom or the sofa)
Basically, if you know you're going to see him, make sure you have a trusted friend with you, or make sure you know that there is going to be a bunch of people, or some way for you to get out if the situation is getting to intense. MNake a safeword if you have to. And always bring rubbers. Just in case.

The point here is to keep yourself from getting hurt doing something you may regret, or worse. It may seem extreme or too serious to consider, but I don't think that avoiding relationships with philanderers and cheaters is a light subject. I've known a few too many girls who's lives have been completely turned over by these guys, a couple even left pregnant and alone.

Yeah i definitely wont be seeing him alone, really the only time i will see him is when me and my friends go out because we go to the same club! And, i know that my best friend wouldnt let me do anything ill regret, im just worried i wont listen to her! I find it really easy to say i wont do anything with him or whatever but as soon as i see him and he talks to me i know for a fact im gonna forget all that!

Oh, oh!
I had a problem just like that about....6 months ago or so.
A guy, full of himself, asshole, that whole thing.
Well, when I wasn't around him, I could think clearly and I knew that being anything but friends with him wouldn't benefit me in the long run, so I stuck to that.
It takes effort on your part, but you could totally do it if you really wanted to!
Just keep it on a strict friends only basis, when I did that, after awhile I wasn't thinking about the guy very much, and being around him wasn't as pleasant as it used to be.
What I'm saying is is that the feeling wears off; it did for me at least.
:)

I went through something very similar a few years ago. I fell in love with a friend of my brothers, and I mean deep. I knew it was going to go nowhere. For one thing, I was under age at the time, and he was 20. My family would have thrown a hissy fit. For another, I barely knew him, rarely saw him. I lost a very good boyfriend because of him (don't feel too bad, it was a lost cause anyway. He's more my brother than a lover). And, well, he was a jerk, who cheated on his girlfriend with some one else (not me). I couldn't help it though.

It took me a very, very long year to get at all over him. I had several failed boyfriend during this time (each one worse than the last), and woke up one morning and realized that, yes, a small part of me would always wonder, always regret that I said nothing about it to him, but that, as a whole, I was probably better off. And I am.

What I'm trying to say is, it's hard, but it can be done. You might regret it, you might not. One thing I can say for certain is that him being a cheater is a big warning sign to stay away. I've been cheated on before, and it hurts like hell. Avoid it if at all possible.

Wow sorry to hear bout that! Good for you though! I think you did really well!

But yeah, that does help quite a bit! I guess i will have to just stick it out and hope for the best!

:)

It's lust. Believe me, if he's a bad guy then no matter what your going to want him. He's going to be one that your going to know what he is, and what he does but your still going to want him in a sexual manner. I've had many of those. I just stick with the good guys. The ones I know will treat me right. Just avoid him as best you can. He's only going to hurt you.

I'm not really sure what the problem here is. If you already know he's a jerk, why are you so interested? Maybe it's just me, but guys like that who sleep around and are attracted to everyone are a major turn off. I wouldn't have any interested in a relationship or sex with someone like that. If you know he's no good for you, it shouldn't be too hard to just forget him. I've known guys who are good looking and funny but they've cheated on so many girls and slept around so much that I would never seriously consider them to be boyfriend material. I'd be friendly with them and all, but I wouldn't get romantically attached.

Crisis over....lock this please!!