Okay so I have liked this guy for a really long time. He had a gf for a few years (this started before I knew him) but now he is single. I knew that he found me physically attractive because he told my friend last year. While he was with his girlfriend, I tried talking to him a lot over facebook instant messenger because he doesn't have aim and I don't have his number. The reason I did not talk to him a lot in person is because he went to my rival school so I only saw him when his band played shows. Even then I didn't feel like I knew him enough to talk to him in person. I just wanted to get to know him better and be his friend first. Even if nothing came of it, at least we'd be friends. It has to start there anyway.
He is a freshman in college now and his ex is a senior in HS like me. I don't know why they broke up and I just hope it wasn't because of the HS/college thing. I know he was irritated with her all last year...
Anyway, now that he is single, I want to see if I can do something because it's worth a shot. I just don't know how. I have never had a boyfriend before and the only time that I really tried, nothing became of it. Other than the college/Idon'ttalktoyouthatmuch issue, I think there is something to build off of because we have a lot in common. After speaking to him several times, our conversations have significantly improved. However, last time I talked to him in person was kind of a fail. Also last conversation, he said "ttyl" and never did. He never talks to me first... then again he isn't really that social online to anyone so I don't know.

Does anyone have any advice on how I should proceed? I really need some direction here. @[email protected]

Ah blossoming love, well the world does not wait for the meager.

Just message him or call him if you have his #, either way just throw yourself out there and just ask him if he wants to go out to a movie or to get something to eat sometime, if your worried about being too demanding offer to go dutch.

Either way if you think its worth trying then just go for it, if you sit and wait and hope he will talk to you etc you will be let down, most men are impressed with a girl that actively goes after what she wants and unless he has ESP he wont be able to read your mind and know you want to go out.

For some reason it seems like too big a jump. I don't know... well maybe I can mention doing something over Thanksgiving. My school versus his in football and it's a big tradition and I know he is going. I guess that's what I'll talk to him about tomorrow. Also, his band has a big deal show coming up that I want to try and get to so there's that.

I don't want to come off as pushing it because I know I'd be kinda creeped out. Well once when he was still with his gf I gave him my number. I invited his band and some of my other friends over to my house for a movie and he wasn't sure he could come. So I sent him my number and told him to let me know if he could come in the end. He didn't send his back... but it might have been because his gf was extremely protective and freaked if she saw him txting other girls.

your not a man either, like i said a guy likes it when a girl is into him and openly asks to go out, the worse that can happen is he is not interested and you get shot down.

Oh really? I didn't know that. I thought they were supposed to be the forward ones. Now that I think about I think you're right. They will be interested in everything and anything...first come first served I suppose.

I think you should put in a serious effort to talk to him more. Not just so you will be talking to him and getting to know him better, but if you make it a point to talk to him every time you see him, he might pick up on it.
Then, at some point, drop into the conversation that you like him and wouldn't mind trying out dating.
I know this all sounds easier than it actually is, but it could be very worthwhile. You'll never know until you try.

Good luck! ;)

guys like it when girls ask them out. It's like a freebie date for them, cause they didn't have to go out on a limb and risk the rejection. The question is, what will you do if he says yes? Have a plan before asking him so if he asks, you'll have the answer and seem all confident like. No way would he say no, unless he's still hurting about the breakup. If it's longer than 2 weeks, then I say, go for it now.

go for it. if he likes you he will say yes

Well..no sense in repeating what everyone else said..^^;;
But yeah you should take a chance..even if it is a big jump
Hope it works out for you two=D