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It's been mentioned before but it's worth saying again - if you have not already sought professional help PLEASE seriously consider seeking professional help - you are not alone if you will just reach out for help
I know it's useless to read "This too shall pass" but that's the best I can give you - a hopefully helpful prod to seek help and a reminder that better days are in your future, even if it doesn't seem possible right now. |
I've been to the doctors before feeling like this and they just sent me to therapy session which didn't help. I've had councelling sessions as well which didn't help either.
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Do you have supportive friends or family? I know that when I couldn't find work last year after college, the vast majority of my friends are still looking, I found that while it was helpful to hang out with my unemployed friends, it made matters worse. Having a kid who is old enough to observe how I react to stressful situations forced me to deal with things differently than I would have 20 years ago.
Set a goal for yourself, even if all that means is that you're getting up and taking a shower every day. If all you can do is find 2-3 jobs to apply for each week, then keep doing that. Prepare yourself for the possibility that you will find a job, even if it means that you're flipping burgers. Something is better than nothing at all. I found that after 6 months of being told that I was overqualified, that I should look at tech school to see if I could come up with a plan b. |
I don't have any friends anymore the last friend I had just called me insane and delusional.
Family have enough problems aready so I just hide it from them. I don't know what to do anymore I keep self harming, I'm crying all the time and I keep thinking about suicide. |
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I'm sorry you feel this way - depression gets the best of us. I know how you feel though - I've been battling depression for years and it got so bad that I attempted suicide... I felt like I was hopeless & felt that none of my friends would be there for me. It got so bad that I would just skip school & cry for nearly an hour as I drove to a faraway place. I wanted to end it all too, but I realize now that it isn't worth it - life is so beautiful & so full of possibilities. So please don't give up hope! If therapy isn't working it means that you should seek another professional. Sometimes you gotta keep 'trying out' certain therapists before you do find the right one you're comfortable with. I had to do that when I felt my therapy wasn't working either - luckily I found another specialist who made me feel 'just right'. I would also suggest seeking a psychiatrist who could administer anti-depressents for you. If you do those things, along with surrounding yourself with positive people, you'll recover. It's hard but please don't give up. I did harm myself and I fully regret it to this day. Now I love life and couldn't ask for anything more. *hugs* <3 |
I'm at a point where I just want to dissapear and not come back. I have no friends anymore, I don't feel like I can have any friends anymore because everyone I had as a friend and I trusted abandons me when I most need them.
I feel like I'm in a dark place and there's no way out of it. My lack of social skills mean it's going to be impossible to get a job, I have no idea how to be with people anymore. Other than self harming I have no idea how to deal with my emotions |
We've all been there. And are you sure you have no one to talk to about this? I really do think you have a friend who's still willing to help you cope, even if they aren't showing it.
And everybody lacks social skills - the only way to improve them is to try. You won't be able to meet new people and make new friends and experiences if you don't put yourself out there when it comes to looking for a job. In order to get a good job, you need experience. And experience comes from you working in other jobs. And if you don't want to deal with people, try looking for an office job. I've known many people who lacked experience who were able to find those type of jobs. Plus, the office is more intimate, so you'll be able to form a relationship with the small group of co-workers working with you. Just keep searching - your bound to find a job, no matter what your experience is. And try writing down your emotions in a journal instead of harming yourself. Or express it creatively through poetry & art. You can even channel that into working out. I tend to swim alot whenever I'm upset - it helps. =] |
I don't have any friends to talk to...Not ones that I trust anyway, they only talk to me when they need something and reply to everything else with "LOL".
I lack social skills to the point where I answer people with one word answers and nearly have anxiety attacks when I have to speak in length to someone. I've tried venting my emotions in other ways before and it hasn't worked for me. |
Believing is power, woman. I used to be that antisocial, creepy, and possibly mute being that sits at the corner. One day I noticed I had no friends and decided that they didn't bite, and if they tried I'm stronger [carrying 16 books to the 3rd floor isn't that easy].
... making myself answer with paragraphs rather than with syllabes has earned me the reputation of nerd/gothic/mature/alien/a disgrace/who-knows-what-else. But hey, that way I found people who can and did help me in many ways [don't qualify as friends in my book yet, but as long as they're helpful...] :) First go first though: Beat that anxiety issue with you. Everyday more and more people seem to suffer from this. Confront your fears, why is it that you feel so wrong in these situations? |
I've had therapy for anxiety before but that didn't help it's just made things worse. I'm nearly having anxiety attacks all the time and nearly crying all the time.
It's got to a point where I don't know who I am anymore. |
You're... oh damn. If you don't know who you are, how am I suposed to know?
What kind of therapy? While you were having it you felt better or worse? You felt something was wrong? What was wrong? How does this anxiety affect you? Is your body healthy? What triggers this anxiety? From what I get, you've gone to a point where only you can help yourself. A failed try has made you loose credibility towards therapies, and the point to it is that you'll believe they're working. But if you don't, they won't. Because only you can help yourself when it's about your mind. If anxiety was caused by something biological, therapy would have already fixed it, right? ::EDIT:: Maybe this is your problem? |
I don't know what triggers my anxiety.
The therapy was just talking about it and trying to pin point what the cause of it is. And giving me way of countering anxiety attacks when they happen. I think it's the depression that makes the anxiety worse seeing as I don't want any family to find out that I self harm. I've tried to figure out when when depression started and I'm not sure, anxiety started about three years ago. |
I sing. It's a good way to vent and you can unleash a lot of energy.
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Hey silver, thanks for that. I never noticed until now that you mentioned it, even though I do it almost daily XD
Hmm yes, depression could be causing it. So your anxiety is like panic - comes with no cause. Then you should work first with what you can fight, your depression. Have you received sunlight? I get moody, annoying, and sometimes even come off as a total jerkface when I haven't received my dose of sunlight [<< doesn't mean I like receiving it ~hiss~ Dx] Or maybe you're not sleeping right [internet does that to you *cough*]. Or maybe you're just too self-aware. Try ignoring your problems one day and do something you like as freely as if nobody were watching you? |
I know I've mentioned this before, but my daughter has a form of autism called Asperger's Syndrome. Doesn't affect her academically, but does socially. Anxiety and depression hit people who have this in their mid-late teens, and there is a deep sense of not knowing who they are (she's young and in group therapy with other kids, so I don't know how this will affect her later). My reason for mentioning this is that it's not easy to diagnose. Have you been evaluated for this?
I had similar issues when I was in my late teens and 20s, but was too stubborn and narcissistic to give up. What helped me was recognizing how unique I was, in my own odd little way. I have the feeling that you will get through this. |
Things are on the up at the moment.
I have to make a doctors oppointment in three months time so I can talk to the doctor then seeing as I have a few things to talk to them about. |
I find it odd you mention you have no friends when I know you not only have friends on Mene, but you have me as your friend Him.
You know damn well I do my best to be there for you, and always will. |
On days when I'm at my worst I feel so alone, even if I'm not I still feel like I am on those days.
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There are times when people feel alone even when they have a lot of people around them. One can feel a bit like they've exhausted their resources or are simply not satisfied by what they're receiving as feedback.
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I have no friends anymore. And hanging myself seems very appealing, I already have a huge slash in my arm.
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Having no friends isn't the end of the world. And real friends is one of the hardest treasures to find, so don't feel bad if you don't find it. I haven't found it myself. Maybe I'm just too self-aware of people's intentions xD So, when is this doctor's appointment?
Oh btw, if you feel so desperate, by no means hang yourself. It's waaaay worse than drowning on water x__x And about the slash in your arm - what's done is already done, now all you need is forget about self-harming. I get you're feeling guilty because of it. The best way to avoid a problem is not to cause it in the first place. |
I'll be making the appointment in about a months time seeing as I make my appointments when I'm comming towards the end of the second pack of pills.
Self harming is the only way I know of coping. I've tried other ways but they don't work. |
*hugs*
D: Well, what's going on that's making you feel so bad? Or is it really everything? |
Have you really tried everything? Maybe what you need is a hobby that makes you exhausted enough to not think of anything else. Like gardening. After a morning of moving the soil and arraging your flowers, you won't have the strenght to lift not even a needle x__x Or bycicling, or jogging while listening to music, or just receiving sunlight.
Hey, that could be it. Maybe you're not receiving or doing enough of something. I know I get all depressed and hate the world when I haven't had my douse of sunshine [even though I hate sunshine just as much as a vampire would]. |
i agree with that, try a hobbie that will make u so tired, so u wont have any energy to harm urself, think about it this way love, it can only gt better, and considering its life, it will get better, just look around u, see wat uv gt and cherish it :) x x
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